The mother thought she had worked hard for her son all her life, and it was not easy to meet a partner she liked, but her son did not agree to such a request, and her son quarreled for a few days, and then moncler outlet online she asked for money to buy a car, which she felt was too much for her, and the two old men broke up completely.
With the change of people's mindset, more and more lonely middle-aged and elderly people, hope that in the second half of their lives do not have regrets, they hope not for their children, for their own real live once, to find a suitable person hand in hand to the old man, to open up their own sunset red, that is, often referred to as "twilight love.
I. What is twilight love?
Twilight love refers to the behavior of older people over 60 years old to get married again or to find their own love.
What are the general categories of twilight love?
1. Some people in their youth in line with the principle of "better late than never", have not been able to find the object of their desire, and only in old age to meet the right person.
2. Some people are forced by the pressure of their parents when they are young, to the age of marriage in a hurry to get married, when they enter the enclosure, only to find that the reluctant marriage does not fit the foot, after a few years, they are back to the identity of the single aristocrat, after a failure of the marriage, they do not dare to easily set foot in the enclosure, I did not expect to be older, they are actually glowing with a second spring.
3. Some people are young and widowed, because they are afraid to find the other half of the child is not good, live alone with children for half a lifetime, wait until the child becomes a family, feel that they do not have to worry about the object, the inner extreme emptiness, the idea of finding a partner, the latter two phenomena occupy the majority of twilight love.
II. Middle-aged and elderly twilight love on the family's impact how?
As the saying goes, "A full house of children is better than a halfway house." So there are more benefits for middle-aged and old people to find the other half:
1. The old people are in a good mood and not easy to get sick. Good or bad mood state of the body's organs will have an impact, especially women, long-term mood is not good, easy to make endocrine disorders, the body's immune ability to decline, the body's toxins can not be discharged, triggered by many chronic diseases, long-term self-absorption, will also cause mental depression, so there is an old companion accompanied by around is also a happy thing.
In the district, there was once an old couple is twilight love, Wang Da-ma young widow, the son pulled up after the family, through the acceptance of people to meet the moncler jackets outlet, the two children are not opposed to the moncler jackets outlet, Lee's daughter in the same unit in the family bought a suite of rooms for the old couple to live in, the old couple often hand in hand to go out and buy food, regularly followed by the elderly group travel, they are in love with the model of the young people do not lose.
In the twilight love of the elderly, will go hand in hand to see the world, the world will return them a good mood.
2. People in old age, hope that someone can accompany the chat, the elderly have no work involved, children have their own families, occasionally home to accompany the elderly, but also to come and go in a hurry, also in a hurry, can not do a long time to accompany, which shows the importance of the old companion. There are not too many important things in life, most of them are trivial, in the twilight love of the elderly, every day emotions have an outlet, they will naturally be healthy, smile often open!
3. Husband and wife harmony is also conducive to good health. The feelings of the elderly are often ignored, we always think that the feelings belong to the young people's life, in fact, the elderly also have emotional needs, and harmony of the couple's life can promote the flow of blood in the body and the degree of excitement of the nerve cells adjusted to the optimal state, so that people are happy, healthy, conducive to longevity.
However, the middle-aged and elderly " twilight love " also has disadvantages:
1. Each re-entry into the enclosure of the people, the last failed marriage will be palpitating, when the two people through the honeymoon period, and slowly there will be disputes, some of the shadows left by the former, will be carried over to the incumbent's suspicions, which will lead to The two people's contradictions.
2. Some of the older people who have entered the "twilight zone" are older, and one of the reasons why their children don't agree with them is that they will have to bear the burden of an elderly person's old age in the future.
3. The majority of the original family for the children screwed together, in order to fight for the future of the children, remarried families for their children to plan more, easy to cause economic conflicts.
Into the "twilight love" of the family most people have their own children, if the two people for each other's children can not be a bowl of water end of the level, it is very easy to cause family conflicts.
A netizen on the Internet once put forward their own troubles: the netizen is a remarried family, the netizen's salary are handed over to his wife, two people's wages, most of which are used to his wife's youngest daughter's college tuition and living expenses, because the two wages are not high, not much of the monthly balance.
The netizen's son is about to get married, because the netizen's ex-wife's family is rich, the son's marriage is basically the mother's ex-wife to organize. The netizen feels that he, as a father, also needs to try his best. Netizens from friends that borrowed tens of thousands of dollars to the son, intends to slowly return, the results of this matter is the current wife know, triggered the family conflict.
For the child to get married, a few tens of thousands of dollars can only be said to be a drop in the bucket, but for the current wife to consider, their families are therefore in debt, everyone's starting point is different, the biological children can not be a bowl of water end of the level, not to mention is a foreigner?
In fact, the "twilight love" of the elderly, the main problem is to deal with their own economic belonging to the right and the problem of old age, to avoid the children's worries.
III. Into the "twilight love" of the elderly, should pay attention to what matters, in order to let themselves have a happy old age?
1. Two people do a good job of prenuptial property notarization, negotiation of their important property ownership, to avoid future property disputes.
2. Before the wedding, the two should be negotiated: if the old man one side first, the other side of the old age problem by the atomic daughter of the support. Whether the stepchildren have the obligation to support the step-parents, mainly to examine whether the stepchildren by the step-parents to raise and educate, or to give the stepchildren to provide the main source of economic life. Because most of the old people in the twilight of love has been adult, or close to adulthood, if the stepchildren have received step-parents financial support, there is a need to support the elderly, otherwise the old people's old age or by the atomic daughter is more appropriate.
3. The elderly who have the financial means, sometimes encounter "forgetful love", the elderly must distinguish each other whether they have real feelings for themselves.
In the hit show "All Good", Su Daqiang fell in love with the nanny Xiao Cai, and even cut off relations with his children for her, but when Su Daqiang did not have a house, Xiao Cai's true colors were exposed, and Xiao Cai really coveted Su Daqiang's house and money, and adored and adored Su Daqiang as a means to get to the bottom of the problem.
In addition to suffering from other people's criticism, forgetful love, but also to face the two people will appear the problem, age, values, generation gap and other factors should be taken into account, forgetful love but also to distinguish between the love is mixed with more impurities. The love of the elderly to be more careful consideration, of course, does not rule out the existence of true love across the age.
4. into the "twilight love" of the two people before marriage to negotiate: in addition to the life of the *** with the expenditure, their economic income how to allocate, as far as possible, their own children's expenses to bear their own burden, if the conditions allow, you can support each other part.
These conditions seem ruthless, in fact, the responsibility is clearly defined, each family is not love, each family is in the "wood, rice, oil, salt, soy sauce, vinegar, tea" spent, these inconspicuous little things, but affects the happiness of the family.
The square-dancing mom wants to know the name of the moncler outlet store only one week, to add their own house book, which for the son itself is not a fair thing, because the mortgage is the two have been paying, the future of the house half of the property rights of the moncler outlet store, which in the case of a little bit of a reason is not justified.
The old man's feelings are like an old house on fire. The old lady was blinded by her feelings for a moment, and luckily moncler outlet online she asked for money to buy a car again, so that the old lady could see his face clearly, and stop losing money in time to end the love affair.
Love is not the privilege of young people, the dusk of the elderly, as have their own love space. I hope that every lonely old man can be in the second half of their lives, meet their own that she (he), so that their old age has become colorful. However, the elderly have to strike a good balance between their love life and their finances to minimize the friction between each other and their children.
I wish all the old people in the world a happy old age!