A few days ago, my mother-in-law called the video phone, said she wanted her granddaughter, to see the child, the old lady across the screen to tease the child teased for a long time, the last or I gestured to my husband to remind the video time is long on the child's eyes is not good, only to plan to hang up the phone.
That night when I went to bed, my husband asked me: "How do you plan to celebrate the New Year this year? You didn't go back for last year's New Year's Eve."
I said, "Last year, we went back to our respective homes is not good? This year it's the same as before."
Husband was a bit anxious when he heard that, he said: "This year and last year can be the same? This year we have a child, you mean to take the child back to his mother's home for New Year's Eve ah? What should I say to my parents?"
I said, "I can not bring the child back, the key is to give you the child, can you?"
Husband said, "Isn't this nonsense? The child is only breastfeeding, not formula, you do not follow back is not a mess?"
I was silent because deep down I definitely wanted to go back to my mom's house to spend the New Year with my parents.
I was married far away, and I can't go back to my mother's house all year round, so I've been looking forward to going back to my family's reunion on New Year's Eve for so many years.
But on the other hand, I don't want to be separated from my husband, especially since I have a baby this year, and I want us to be together as a family.
When my husband saw that I didn't say anything, he asked me, "What do you really think? I want the three of us to take the baby back to my mom's house together this year."
I said, "Well, can't you come back to our house with me?"
Husband said, "You have a brother, even if you don't go back on New Year's Day, your parents will still have your brother and sister-in-law with them, whereas at my house if I don't go back, there will just be two old people at home, and just thinking about that scenario makes me feel lonely. Besides, they are already more than seventy years old, I can't go back for a few days a year, and if I don't go back on New Year's Day, it must be hard on their hearts."
My husband's words have touched my heart, and my in-laws are really old and not as strong as they used to be, especially this year, which is also my mother-in-law's birthday, and she hopes to have a family reunion.
I said, "Well, I'll try to call my mom to talk about it, I'm afraid they'll be too upset to know I'm not going back for New Year's."
Husband said: "OK, you talk to our mom, or wait for the first of May when the weather is warm, you take the child back to live for a while."
I nodded.
The next day, I called my mom and said not to go back to New Year's Eve, her tears fell down, through the screen I can experience that kind of heartache, make me also heart is particularly not a taste.
I suddenly all of a sudden felt that it is better to go back to their own homes, each looking for their own mother, so I said to my mother, "Mom, you do not feel bad, I will take the child back to his mother's home for the New Year, so that he can go back on his own."
My mom was first stunned, then said, "Daughter, this is not good, after all, this is your first year after giving birth to a child, it is reasonable that you should take the child back to her hometown to spend it with her grandparents."
I said, "I don't care so much, I just want to spend the New Year with you guys."
My mom smiled and said, "I've been looking forward to the New Year for a year, but it's not the same as before, you're a mom now, and the epidemic is recurring, so it's not safe for you to bring your child back and forth, and I don't feel comfortable with that either."
My mom went on to say, "I remember your mother-in-law is a tiger, right, this year, this year, she is 8 years older than me, 72, in previous years you have come back to stay with us on New Year's Day, I know it is your filial piety, this year, you'll go back to your mother-in-law's home, accompany them to have a good New Year's Day."
My mom's words made me feel both touched and sad, when I wanted to marry my husband, my mom was strongly against it, and she said, "It's not a good idea to marry far away from home, and it's hard for me to see you."
I didn't think so at the time, and now that I'm older I finally understand the pain of marrying from afar, but it's a done deal, and I can't start all over again.
Previously, I had thought about bringing my parents to my home for New Year's Eve, but on the one hand, my parents were too old to adapt to life here, and on the other hand, there was still my brother's family at home, and they wanted to have a family reunion.
Then my husband and I came to a **** understanding that we would each go back to our own homes on New Year's Day, and we would each find our own mothers.
Now my mom has offered to let me take the kids back to my in-laws for New Year's. She's really putting herself in my shoes, so I really feel sorry for her.
In the end, I listened to what my mom said and decided to take the kids back home with my husband. When I told my husband, he was so happy that he hugged me and shouted, "Honey, you're too good."
The baby playing on the side to see his father happy, also followed along with the hands and feet, looking at their father and daughter I am particularly satisfied, perhaps this is the desired happiness.
Whether to go back to the in-laws or back to the mother's home on New Year's Day depends on your own situation, if the conditions allow, you can take the two pairs of parents over, the family together on New Year's Day, in which case you will not lose sight of the other side of the more not to worry about this problem.
If you can't spend New Year's Eve with both parents, then you should discuss it with your husband and wife and go back to your mother-in-law's house for a year.
Otherwise, you can also choose to go back to your own home, so that not only with the old man and do not let each other difficult.