According to my own emotional experience, I send you a trilogy of "retaining":
The first step: the true and false breakup judgment
Calm down and think about it. What's her attitude towards you recently? If you are indifferent to your love, become indifferent and don't care too much about your study and life, then this girl is really indifferent, and breaking up is something she has repeatedly considered. This is a "real breakup" and it is difficult to recover. However, before her birthday, her attitude was the same as usual. Suddenly, because of one thing, she was jealous and angry, and broke up in a fit of pique. This is a "fake breakup", and the chances of recovery are still great.
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Step 2: communicate, find the crux and propose solutions.
If you think it's a fake breakup, ask her out to meet and find a quiet place to talk. If she refuses to meet you at first, find something she likes to eat and do, meet, buy snacks and send them downstairs, and deliberately find a chance to meet.
Before meeting, you must reflect on yourself. Think back to the reason why she quarreled every time before. Have you really changed? Old habits again this time? Think clearly about what questions you need to ask. Some dull boys only keep silent, which makes girls more angry.
After meeting her, you should use some physical actions to bring them closer, such as touching her head, pulling her little hand, or giving a shallow hug. She might push you away. At this time, you should be strong and hug! Then tell her that you love her, that you care about her, and that you can't bear to give her up. You can play freely here. The key is to be sincere, humorous and easy to coax. Generally, when the "fake breakup" comes, the girl's attitude will be eased a little, and then you can communicate in depth.
Communication should be purposeful. When communicating, find out what causes her heart to be tired. Is it a love gap that just happened, or is it a problem left over from the past? Is there something wrong with her life and study, or is your personality and the way you treat her unable to make her feel your love?
Find out the crux of the problem according to the results of your communication, and then you should put forward your own ideas and solutions. Don't always let girls talk, you should also talk more about your own thoughts and understanding. There may be a gap between men and women's thinking, so it is difficult to understand each other without much communication. If her problems lead to mental fatigue, then you must care more about her, love her, help her solve some problems and make her feel warm. Besides, you say that you have done a lot for her, but she doesn't feel it. You should take this opportunity to tell her what you have done, and don't hold back. If you are too busy at work to take care of her, you should also tell her your sadness and thoughts and seek her understanding.
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Step 3: Make changes.
Finally, we must make a change! Nothing has changed, only constant quarrels will consume the feelings of two people. If you really love her, you need to really put your feelings and energy into it efficiently. Either accompany her to dinner or love her, that can only be regarded as a meal friend.
I hope my answer can inspire me to save my girlfriend, and I wish you happiness.