In reality we often ask ourselves what is real love. This question may be so abstract that it is hard to answer. But we are able to illustrate love through movies or television. Perhaps some people may have doubts saying that those are just edited stories, how can they be used to illustrate love in real life.
Movie is a kind of art, it comes from life but higher than life, it will not be separated from life and exist. It is precisely because it is closely related to life, is a lot of people have experienced or heard, so it will make us feel tears, poke our hearts. The very hot high score love movie "I'm waiting for you at the end of time", it will tell you what is the real love, the real love is nothing more than the following characteristics.
01 Clueless Good Feeling
After the death of Ringo's mother, his father is heartbroken and his heart is as good as dead, and he has turned into a walking corpse. He has no interest in caring for his young son, and has abandoned his barbershop, where he spends his days drinking and worrying. The young Ringer began to suffer discrimination and abuse from the children. It was then that hope appeared, and it was Qiu Qian who saved him.
Since then, the two have become good friends and often play games together. And this childhood goodwill is likely to develop into a future love, and will take root and be permanently preserved in memory. Just like Forrest Gump and Jenny in Forrest Gump, the childhood playmates have been "childhood friends" for a long time, and they may be the best future partners.
The two were separated as children, but when they met again years later, the memories came flooding back. They have a lot of **** to talk about, and they talk about everything, because they were already so close, and all they need to do is get back to the way things should be.
The reason they haven't developed into lovers yet is because they're not old enough, but the spark of love has already taken root deep down, and it's only a matter of time before it grows into a huge tree.
02Giving Without Fear
When the two were just about to erase the spark of love, the accident happened. Qiu Qian died in a car accident, and Lin Ge was so grief-stricken that he cried bitterly that he was willing to do whatever it took to bring back Qiu Qian's rebirth. The watch from his childhood is reversed, time is retraced, Qiu Qian lives, while Lin Ge ages a dozen years and becomes a middle-aged uncle. All the memories of him in the world no longer exist.
Even Qiu Qian had forgotten him. He didn't get discouraged, but made Qiu Qian fall in love with him from the beginning through his efforts. He has no identity, but sells pants to earn money through his flexible mind, just to help realize Qiu Qian's dream. In order to take care of Qiu Qian, he traveled far and wide and finally won her heart.
03Love You Despite Yourself
What does it feel like to love someone? Maybe a thousand people have a thousand answers. But loving someone definitely puts her first. No matter how tough a situation you yourself are in, you always have her in your heart and put her before yourself.
It was also at this point that Lin Ge gained Qiu Qian's heart. Lin Ge fainted with a fever and cold, and Qiu Qian went to buy medicine for him at night, a very dangerous night in the United States. The first thing Lin Ge did when he woke up was to go and look for Qiu Qian, he finally found Qiu Qian, when the sky was raining. Lin Ge didn't want to hide from the rain because he had a cold, but he covered Qiu Qian's head with his hand, afraid that she would get wet. It was such a small gesture that was exchanged for Qiu Qian's first kiss and their love kiss.
04Good Lies
The real love is not full of 100% honesty. Rather, it is full of "lies", but they are all good lies. Just as in the starving years of "Golden Wedding", when you want the other person to eat more, but both say you are not hungry. The same is true of Lin Ge's love for Qiu Qian.
In order to get Qiu Qian to dance, Lin Ge lied that he had a high-paying job, and he went out in a suit every day as if he was a white-collar worker. But in reality, he works multiple jobs, including a dock porter, a restaurant dishwasher and a flyer distributor. Even Qiu Qian's so-called scholarship is also Lin Ge's "big lie", she did not have a scholarship, that is also Lin Ge's money.
Knowing the truth of the matter, the fake love may feel that the man cheated her, a poor man actually pretending to be rich and handsome to deceive their feelings, and will be used as a reason to break up. But Qiu Qian was touched to the core, and her heart ached for Lin Ge, and the two of them took their relationship to the next level.
05Know how to let go
I like the lyrics of the song "There is a kind of love called letting go". Not all love has to be together. What would you do if she would live a better and happier life if you stayed away from her? Do you let go or do you insist on staying together. Just like two shipwrecked fish, sticking together will only lead to eventual death, it is better to forget each other in the river and lake, at least to be able to live a better life with each other.
Qiu Qian's life is in danger once again, and Lin Ge restarts the time watch again. Qiu Qian is resurrected and forgets about Lin Ge again. Lin Ge is even older and Qiu Qian has even better followers. Lin Ge realizes that Qiu Qian might have lived a better life without himself.
06Love comes before family of origin
All couples who are happy in their families have one **** in common. That is that on the question of order of importance, they will all rank their little family before their family of origin. After we start a family and have our own little family, we will only be happy as a family if we put our little family in front of it, otherwise we will only have a restless family.
The same is true of Ringer's approach. As time retraces its steps and he grows older, his primary practice is always to put his girlfriend first, then his father. This is not ungratefulness, but an order, a way to live a more peaceful life. Many mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflicts can be resolved with this method.
07You hurt me, I hurt you
True love is never about one party's enjoyment and privilege, and the other party's giving and being squeezed. Love mentor Tu Lei said, the best love is nothing more than I hurt you, you hurt me.
If a continuous output of love is not reciprocated, no feedback, then this love will be treated as self-indulgence, he will doubt whether I love the wrong person, and thus will not continue to love again. I love you and you love me, that's what true love looks like.
In the movie, when Ringo is about to die of old age because he is too old, Qiu Qian launches a time watch and they go back to the past. Qiu Qian said, "If we are given another chance, let me be the forgotten one, and this time it's my turn to guard you until the end of time."
A good emotional movie can teach us a lot about love, in addition to these characteristics of true love above, what else do you think?