For the most part, miscommunication is the main cause of conflict, if it is really the reason why you feel that your mother-in-law is very unreliable, then the solution is very simple, just need to find an opportunity to have a good chat about the problem is likely to be solved. For example, every time you cheerfully buy a bunch of things for your mother-in-law, she always turns a blind eye or picks and chooses. But what exactly is the cause of this? The easiest way to find out why is to talk to your mother-in-law. One day, when your mother-in-law is free, sit down and have a chat with her to find out if what you have bought is not to her liking or if you are not happy with something else about yourself. Problems like these aren't really that big of a deal, so talking about them can solve them. If chatting doesn't solve the situation, you need to take another approach.
2. Find your husband to mediate
Husband is the closest person in the family with himself, but also to everyone in the family is more understanding. He knows your character, your temperament, and also knows more about your mother-in-law's character. For some things that make you anxious, you may talk to your husband and he will know what the problem is. You may also be enlightened and know what to do in the future. If, say, your husband is also confused after you talk to him about your problems, you may choose to have him go talk to your mother-in-law. After all, your husband and your mother-in-law are close, and by passing the word through your husband, your mother-in-law's attitude should be eased a bit. After your husband has told your mother-in-law all your thoughts, she may know what you really think, instead of misunderstanding you by virtue of her own conjecture. However, finding your husband to mediate also requires skill, and you must not let your mother-in-law think that you are complaining to her son, which will worsen the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
3. Find a father-in-law to mediate
Parents-in-law and mother-in-law live together for decades, compared to the husband may be more understanding of the mother-in-law, know how to communicate with the mother-in-law, so if the husband mediation fails, you can find a father-in-law to help. When the mother-in-law is with the public, she will tell her father-in-law a lot of things in her heart, so the information that the father-in-law can pass on will definitely be more. We have to find out the favorable information from it to help us solve the problem. Like in my family, every time my mother-in-law has something trivial, she will complain to my father-in-law, but my father-in-law is in the way and usually just listens to it and passes it by, not really taking any action to solve the problem. Therefore, if you do not take the initiative to seek the help of the father-in-law, he generally speaking will not think to help you solve the problem. It's not that he thinks it's better to do more than less, but he thinks it's hard to avoid the awkwardness of a man joining in a problem between women. And the eunuch may be a bit more distant to himself. Therefore, one must take the initiative to go to find a solution to the problem.
4. Find outsiders to reconcile
What do mothers-in-law do for leisure? Their own entertainment is to dance with neighbors and good friends, play cards and so on. They are all of the same age group, may also have sons and daughters-in-law, encountered family problems are similar, so they are together to exchange the problems encountered in life may be more frequent, but also will be spit each other and so on. You may also want to join their team, nothing to talk more with neighbors, there may be unexpected gains. Moreover, if you behave well in front of your neighbors, they will also say good things about you and praise you in front of your mother-in-law, and then your mother-in-law will also feel good about her face, and maybe her attitude towards you will be eased?
5. Sugar-coated talk about her
Mother-in-law is also a woman, and she will also like everything that little girls like. So, try to give her more gifts, what clothes ah, bags ah, of course, you need to find out the mother-in-law's preferences, if she likes jewelry, you buy her jewelry, if she is more at home, you buy more things she needs, what household appliances are broken hurry up to change a new one, more to the home to buy a few dishes, more meals, more to help her to do some chores, so hardworking, she naturally can't be aimed at you all the time.
6. A strong aura overpowers her
There's a saying that a mother-in-law is a bully. Some mothers-in-law just want to give you some color to see everywhere to make things difficult for you, hoping that you will always listen to her, to her respect, do her puppet. At this point, there is no need for you to be afraid of her, just say what you want, or you will be bullied by her all the time. We are all equal, it is right to treat you with respect, but you also need to take it as it comes, always overbearing, how can you. Who wants to be oppressed by others all the time.
7. Living in separate homes
Many conflicts are caused by living together, so the really big contradiction, you can choose to discuss with their husbands to move out. Not often see each other, at least they also fell a free. However, once you don't live with your mother-in-law, there will be new problems, such as you have to take up the housework yourself need to take care of your husband and children, it may be difficult for you to adapt to this rhythm for a while, so you should consider it carefully. Another problem is that, if only the mother-in-law alone, not to mention that her husband may not want to let his mother live in a home by herself, the neighbors will also point fingers at you, saying that you are not filial or something, after all, people's words can be feared, so think twice ah!
8. Divorce
When the conflict rises to the point of irreconcilability, will you choose to divorce? In fact, many people will come to this point. There is no shortage of savage mothers-in-law in life. Some mothers-in-law think all day long that their daughters-in-law are not worthy of their sons, not to mention the cold words to their daughters-in-law, but also all day long to persuade their sons and daughters-in-law to divorce, so that he can find a daughter-in-law to their liking. That said, this kind of mother-in-law is really not to be messed with, and not good words to persuade the move, other people and adjust the tune of the. Because of the husband, you may endure again and again, but it is really not an easy thing, she is the husband's mother, you may also live with her for one year five years ten years. Can you bear with this kind of pressure all the time? Many daughters-in-law choose to divorce because of the pressure, because it's better to stay away from what can't be changed! Can't be too condescending.