"Daqing, this time your sister-in-law introduced you to this girl, I feel quite suitable for you, why don't you take the time to meet tomorrow." As soon as I got home, I sat down at the table and was picking up my chopsticks to eat when my mom started nagging about me again.
"Mom, let me eat first, I just got home and haven't even caught my breath yet, and you're in a hurry to tell me about this. A moment later Hao Hao still asked me to accompany him to the square to skate." As soon as I heard that my mom started to open up the matter of matchmaking for me again, my scalp tingled.
"Daqing, I just let you go and take a look tomorrow, I heard your sister-in-law say, this girl this year twenty-nine, before the results of a marriage, but will not give birth to a child before getting divorced. You see, our Hao Hao is eight years old this year, Ivana Lu has been away from home for several years, you are usually busy at work, and your sister-in-law has given birth to three more children, I don't have too much time to take care of Hao Hao. If this girl marries into our family in the future, we won't mind that she doesn't know how to give birth, and she'll just focus on taking care of Hoho for us." When my mom said this to me, the joy on her face was hard to express.
"Mom, you've thought this through. What makes you think that other girls will like me? You see I'm not at home all year round, so busy every day that I can't even take care of my meals, and I also have a son, who is 6 years older than the other girl, what makes them fall for me?" I scoffed at my mom's words.
I'm really impressed with my mom's perfect arrangement, and I don't even know where she gets her confidence. I'm a divorced, middle-aged man with a son, and I have no place in the marriage market. My mom is still there with her infinite imagination, she thinks all the girls will covet our house and the 200,000 dollars I earn a year.
I kept my head down and ate in a muffled voice, just wanting to finish my meal quickly and disappear in front of my mom right away. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm not going to be able to do it. I also want to find a wife again, the key is not met the right, and I think, since I find a wife again, we must find a willing to accept Hao Hao kind girl, even if she is a little bit ugly, no job, I'm willing to, as long as she is dedicated to me and Hao Hao good, I'm willing to give her all the money I earn to take care of.
2.
My ex-wife, Ivana Lu, has been divorced from me for five years.
In these five years, my mom has been nagging me all the time about this remarriage, and I've been on and off a few times, but it's not going well, and I'm not married to a girl, and when I hear that I'm still with a child, I'm afraid to avoid it. Married and divorced, the other side is also with children, the whole dating process, basically are around the money I earn in the future can not give her children to buy cars and houses, as well as discussing the two sides of the children in the future how the distribution of property on these issues, around and around are talking about money. The divorced woman without children, people also directly on the desktop to open the windows of the sky to show their attitude, said that in the future another, the house will have to be transferred to the head of the woman, and what happened in the future, have to first consider her and my biological children, and then consider Hao Hao.
After experiencing so many blind dates, I was disgusted and numb. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new one, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new one. A very common blind date, but everywhere reveals the calculation, every woman is weighing the pros and cons, are trying to find a second half of life for their own backing.
I really want to say, women, you are looking for a husband, not looking for a long-term free meal ticket. I Wu Daqing worse, but where any woman is willing to follow me, I will still treat her well, good pain, as long as she is willing to my son good, money I will take the initiative to turn over, the car I will buy you, the future hands of the generous, I will certainly buy a house again.
I just hate, these come up to all the conditions are spread to the table directly to me to speak clearly the small count. You can't even pretend a little bit? In the future, when we get married, I won't be surprised if you go back to mentioning these things. I really don't know my seven aunts and eight aunts, all day to introduce me to what object.
Tomorrow again let me go to the blind date, I do not know tomorrow to see this girl, will not also be with the previous to see the women a look.
If Ivana Lu hadn't left, I wouldn't have encountered so much shit if she was still by my side.
But time will not go back, Ivana Lu has been gone for five years, this woman is cruel and heartless, gone these five years, she did not even make a phone call back, not once came back to see his son. When she left, the son was only three years old, then the impression of the mother can not remember at all, because she is also very little before the son, the son has been by my mother to look after, she all day in addition to playing mahjong, is to play with a few good poker friends to go out to the east and west, running to play.
3.
"Daddy, have you finished eating yet?" Hoho ran over and patted my shoulder with his little hand.
"Hoho, let's go, Daddy will take you to the Sports Plaza to skate."
Hoho suddenly came running back from outside, interrupting all my thoughts with one sentence. I ate, simply packed up all the dishes, and took the joyful Hoho out of the house.
To the stadium, the entire road is bright, the street lights on the road, I do not know when it is so bright, this row of street lights all open, it is almost the same as daytime.
There were so many people in the square, groups of groups of people, there are square dancing amazons, there are also people playing opera to practice their voices, there are also vendors setting up stalls to sell toys, and some people also set up trampolines and small animal trains.
Hoho happily put on his skates, put on his skating cap, and started running around the stadium happily like a little monkey.
I jogged after Hoho, but the little guy was so slippery and fast that I couldn't catch up with him anymore, and after two laps, I was already tired and out of breath.
"Hoho, when you run by yourself, be careful, don't fall, there are many people, you watch the road ah. I'll sit in the grass next to you and wait for you."
"Dad, I know, I'll go over there to play, I just seemed to see our classmates Li Mengmeng and Ding Yang they are also skating over there, I want to go over to find them to play."
As soon as the words fell, my son wore skates and happily went over there to look for his buddies, and I found a quiet patch of grass to sit on. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands on a lighter and light up your cigarette.
This summer wind, is cool ah, the grass from time to time there are small crickets chirping it. The willow branches on both sides of the stadium with the evening wind gently swinging, sometimes accidentally rubbed face, itchy, a kind of numb feeling.
On the stadium, the sound of opera, the sound of square dance music, and the laughter of the children, intertwined, really lively. At this moment, I feel my heart is very comfortable, and it has been a long time since I sat down so easily to enjoy this beautiful light.
4.
Over the years, I have traveled far and wide, working day and night to make life better for my family. At first, I was with Li Ivana Lu is a free love, we are junior high school classmates, she looks a little dark, but tall, pavilion, a pair of big eyes flashing, at that time I was her pair of will talk with the spirit of the big eyes y attracted, at that time I think she is lovely, like a doll as beautiful.
I remember that time we graduated from junior high school are out of school, we are not good grades, and then do not go to school after the two of us to go to Guangzhou into the factory to work together, it is natural that we talked about love, because they are in the same county, her home is not far away from my home, our marriage naturally got the consent of the parents of both sides.
A year after we got married, Ivana Lu gave birth to a son, Hao Hao, Hao Hao grew up with a tiger's head, but also inherited his mother's beautiful big eyes, inherited my white skin, tall, my parents all day long happy together.
I used to think we would be so happy all the time, but after having a child, with the family's expenses more and more big, Ivana Lu began to have a lot of dissatisfaction with me, she fell in love with playing mahjong, then Hao Hao more than a year old, she did not want to come out to work, usually Hao Hao is my mother in the management, she can not wait to all day soak in the mahjong hall, then she is better, a day down the always win a few hundred dollars, but this is a very important thing to do, but the gambling this is a very important thing. The first time I saw this, I was able to get a few hundred bucks, but the thing about gambling is that if you win, you lose.
Ivana Lu won every time, will be very happy, to me is also very enthusiastic, lost, began to whine, I persuade her every time, she also retorted to me, "Wu Daqing, look at yourself every month to earn a little money, enough to who spend? If you don't make a lot of money, I have to fight every day in the mahjong field, every day full of ideas on how to go to win the money?"
I like to play mahjong, every time I lose money, she also put the gas to my head, and launched the fire is also justified. The first thing I'd like to do is to get the money to pay for the work, and then I'd like to pay for the work, and then I'd like to pay for the work.
She played mahjong, originally I thought she was just bored after giving birth to a child, amusement, I did not expect that she really love to play mahjong, and is more and more gambling. Sometimes you can win a few thousand dollars a month, but next month you're bound to lose more than the amount of money you won. Later, my mother could not stand to see, but also politely advised her a few times, she not only did not listen, but also my mother argued, "If it is not Wu Daqing, incapable of earning a lot of money, I have to love so much to play mahjong? I'm not going to be able to get a lot more than that, but I'm going to be able to get a lot more than that," he said.
Every time she is not forgiving, my mom every time to see her talk so arrogant, in order to fear to cause unnecessary quarrel, every time is silently holding Hao Hao walked away.
Ivana Lu's mother also loves to play mahjong, love to dress up, Ivana Lu's father is an honest man, working in the grain and oil factory, but also can not control her mother, Ivana Lu also has a sister, is in college. I have also begged my mother-in-law to persuade Ivana to stop her from indulging in mahjong all day long, but I know that my mother-in-law has promised to help persuade her every time, but in fact, she has never persuaded Ivana to do so sincerely. The two of them are really the same, addicted to mahjong, difficult to extricate themselves.
What really makes me angry is that there was a winter night when it was snowing heavily, and Hao Hao had a fever at home and kept coughing. I was working overtime at the office and hadn't come back yet. At that time, I was working as an interior decorator for a small renovation company. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product.
I was to the boss after explaining the reason, on the hundred thousand urgent rush home, see Hao Hao face red, my heart aches to death, I do not care to Asterlu call, with the neighbors borrowed a van with my mother and Hao Hao rushed to the hospital.
When Hao Hao was put on the needle, put on the liquid, and went through the admission procedure, it was already 11 o'clock at night. I hurriedly called Ivana Lu, this time it got through, as soon as the phone got through, Ivana Lu's very impatient voice came from inside,
"Don't you rush, Wu Daqing, I'll play one more game and then I'll go home, don't affect my mood, I'm going to win this time, don't you spoil my good luck."
"Li Ivana Lu, I'll give you, you now immediately immediately give me to the county hospital, Hao Hao fever, you still have the mood to play mahjong outside? If you don't come back at this moment, in the future you won't even enter this house again!" The anger in my heart, this will rub a moment surged to the head, I was angry fist hit the wall, hands immediately appeared a red marks.
Hao Hao has a fever and a cough, and the doctor said it's developed into pneumonia, and she's a mom who doesn't care about her son at all, and has the heart to sit there and play mahjong. I really want to rip her heart out and see if she has a son in her heart.
Hoho was lying on the bed in the hospital room, crying and screaming because he wasn't feeling well, and I couldn't coax him, nor could my mom. After half an hour, Ivana Lu still did not come over, I called again.
"Li Ivana Lu, in the end you still have this son in mind? You hurry to me to get back, you believe it or not I'll go over this moment to smash your stall!"
"Wu Daqing, you anxious what, I just won the money, immediately go, you do not worry, son has a fever, you take him to see a doctor first, you again anxious, I flew over this moment, the son is also not good ah!"
The more my son cried, the more anxious I was, and Ivana Lou spoke so reasonably, I was simply angry.
After ten minutes, Ivana Lu hurriedly rushed to the meeting, I went directly to the past a pull her sleeve want to be angry, I did not expect her to sit on the floor and cry, not waiting for me to speak, she began to charge my mother angry, "Mom, I have told you, Hao Hao recently cough, you do not give him to eat fire things, you do not listen to, but also non-give him to eat oranges.
It's a good thing that I'm not a big fan of this.
I saw her not only do not know the wrong, but also the evil first accusation, more angry, I continue to pull up from the ground a pull her, who knows that she made efforts to rely on the ground, just do not get up. The two of us so in front of the hospital room, pulling and tugging, loud quarrel, my mother really can not stand to see, just force me to pull away and said: "Don't quarrel, is not enough shame? Hao Hao has been making a scene, you two still have the mood to fight here?"
I turned over and stopped paying attention to her, she slowly got up from the floor and walked over to Hao Hao and tried to pick him up, but Hao Hao seemed to be very unimpressed with her and continued to cry. I took out my cell phone and told Hoho to watch cartoons, and he gradually quieted down.
When Hao Hao was sick and hospitalized, she stayed at home for a few days. She and my mom took turns staying with Hao Hao at the hospital, and I was free to go over to see my son when I was off work.
Seven days later, Hoho was discharged from the hospital. She started to get restless again, throwing Hao Hao to my mom and running out to continue playing mahjong again. As a result of those days I have been busy working overtime, I do not have the time to discuss this matter with her, a few days in a row she ran to the middle of the night to come back, I was on fire, inside the extrusion of emotions all of a sudden burst out, the first time in my life, I hit her, but not too hard to hit, did not hurt her.
That day she made a lot of noise in the house, and my mom was angry and wiped her eyes, Ivana Lu directly lying on the floor, crying loudly.
"If it is not that you earn less money, I to go out to win money? I go out to play mahjong to win money, but also in order to give you to ease the burden, you look at you Wu Daqing, busy all day long, only earn three or four thousand dollars a month, can do what? If it wasn't for mom subsidizing us all these years, I probably wouldn't even be able to drink the northwest wind!"
"Money, money, money, money, money again, are you thinking about money all day long? Why didn't you find a rich man to marry in the first place? Knowing that I Wu Daqing have no money, but also one to despise to look down on me. You go, you go out to earn your big money to go, as far as you go, you go as far as you can, why can't I see at first why you still love to play mahjong so much? Other people play mahjong are small, pass the time. You are good, you also play addicted, you say yourself, you since playing mahjong, although it is winning money, but you and let me give you how much money to take to the inside of the pouring!"
Ivana Lu is still crying, can not listen to anything I said, her mouth from beginning to end are complaining that I earn less money, which led to her compulsion to go out to play mahjong to win money.
I can see that this woman, addicted to gambling, but also the poor love the rich.
I Wu Daqing although low wages, but a large part of the monthly salary I have all to her, I am stingy with themselves, son's expenses and other expenses of the family are my own in the management, because it is with the parents live with our family is in the county side of the three-storey building, my mother and father live on the first floor, we live on the second floor, I have a younger brother is not yet married, working in Shenzhen, a year-round on the Spring Festival back. I have a younger brother who is not yet married and works in Shenzhen, and he only comes back for the Spring Festival. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to afford to pay for this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to afford to pay for it.
Thinking about this, I am also very stifled, my temper is very good, but you Ivana Lu can not be bullied too much. After half a day of arguing, I have no strength, and I don't want to see her teeth and claws face, so I just slammed the door and went out.
I came back from work in the evening and she was not at home. I asked my mom where she went, and my mom sighed and said, "You hit her, and she went straight back to her mother's house in a fit of anger. You say you hit her why ah, she again wrong, is your wife, you should not hit her, well, this time to see it, her that nosy mom surely will not let go."
I grimaced, and when I heard my mom say that she had gone back to her mother's house, I was even more furious.
"Go back, let her go back to her mother's home to also think about what she did, but also happen to let her mom to keep an eye on her, so that she peacefully a few days do not go out to play mahjong."
Ivana Lu this back to her mother's home, is a week, during this period, she did not give me a phone call, and even the son did not ask, I gave her a phone call, sent a message, are no response.
My mom couldn't help but let me buy some things and go to her house to take her back. I thought it was not a good idea to not come home for several days in a row. So I went to the supermarket to buy some nutritious food, ready to take my son to her home, to pick up her back.
Walking to the door of her house, I saw a black Mercedes parked in front of the door, and then walked out of her house a man, and black and ugly, but also buck teeth, hair is still a little bald, fat stomach, look five big three thick. Let me be shocked, Ivana Lu even took the arm of this old man, laughing and talking to send him out the door, the two people while walking, while lowering their heads, do not know what to say.
I hurriedly pushed my electric car to park to the side of the tree, holding my breath, watching Ivana Lu sent this old man into the Mercedes. Ivana Lou stood at the back of the car and kept waving at the old man.
Within moments, the black Mercedes was gone. Ivana Dew happily turned around to go home, when, all of a sudden, I came out of the bushes and in front of her, and she was startled.
"Ivana Lu, who was that old man just now? What is your relationship with him?"
"Wu Daqing, where did you come from? You scared me to death, why did you bring Hao Hao here?"
After saying that, she reached out to hug Hoho, who ducked into my arms, still not wanting her.
"Tell me, who is that old man? She came to your house, what for?"
"I said Wu Daqing, you are sick in the head, right? That man is one of my mom's poker friends, came over today to find her to play mahjong, it just so happens that my mom is not at home. What's the matter, what do you want?"
"I do not want to do what, I just clearly saw you holding his arm, but also talking and laughing."
"What the hell are you doing here today? Are you here to keep beating me up? Or come to see me laugh?"
"I came today, nothing else, just to pick you up and take you home. You're so angry that you're living up in your mother's house, and you don't even come home to see your son." I hold back the fire in my heart, not wanting to cause trouble in front of my mother-in-law's door.
"You say let me go back, I will go back ah. I Li Ivana Lu is so good at bullying, you Wu Daqing hands hit me, but also let me go back, how can you think so beautiful? I don't care about what you took, you take it back!" As soon as Ivana Lu turned around and closed the door, she pushed Hao Hao and I out.
I saw Ivana Lu so stubborn, at that moment, I felt like a clown. The dignity of a man was instantly torn to shreds by her. So I no longer forced her, and then I took my son alone and went home again.
During this time, I didn't take the initiative to contact her, and she didn't take the initiative to call me to ask about my son. My mom called her mom a few times, but it seems that her mom was very angry about the things she and I had done before, and the fact that I had hit her, and she didn't take the initiative to say to persuade her to come back to see her son.
My mom kept telling me to apologize to Asteru and her mom, promise not to hit Asteru again, and let Asteru come back quickly. I have been sulking in my heart, but also gambling, not willing to take the initiative to go to the door to apologize to her. Because the last thing, really make me very angry, I also do not want to bother to please her that yin and yang mom.
This matter has been stuck there. I and Ivana Lu's home cycling is only 20 minutes away, but I always feel that this road seems to be a long way to the edge, which seems to be separated from the mountains, as if separated from the vast ocean.
In the middle, I gave her a call, she rarely picked up, or picked up, but also the attitude is cold. I sent her a message to apologize, let her back, she did not return to me.
5.
Five months later, Ivana finally came home. That day my mom was very happy, and specially went to the street to buy fish and shrimp back, and said she would make Asterix her favorite spicy shrimp and spicy boiled fish.
Ivana came back this time, not because she missed her son, she came back this time and gave me a divorce.
I simply can't accept it, I think she has done so many things that make me angry, I didn't pursue, why should she divorce me?
Ivana Lu did not say too much this time, she threw me a piece of paper divorce agreement, and left the house.
What I have been trying to understand is that I have been so good to her, she is not willing to work, not willing to manage the son, I have not accused her of how, in addition to the last time because of the hot head hit her, the other, I really can not figure out where in the end I did not do a good job?
During this period, I secretly went to my mother-in-law's home to find her, she still refused to see me, I called her, she did not pick up, I sent her a message to apologize, she ignored me. I sent a message to question her why, but also the same stone sinks into the sea.
I Wu Daqing, one of the most useless thing is not capable of earning a lot of money, the most unproductive thing is to fall in love with Ivana Lu. Even if she is full of problems, she is full of bad temper, often look down on me, but I still love her so much, I know my love in her eyes is very low, very worthless.
This intermittent dragged more than a month, Ivana Lu has been insisting on divorce with me, the child she is willing to give me, I am also tired, and do not want to continue to toss down, she is determined to divorce with me. I thought that with the child, Ivana may think about it later, regret it, she will come back to me. So I agreed to divorce.
As expected, she was in such a hurry to give me a divorce, the original is the evening of the big money, is the last time to open the Mercedes-Benz ugly man. I don't want to hold her responsible for what kind of life she wants to lead, she herself has to be able to bear the cost of the future. And her that oddball mom, I really do not know how she thinks, can for the sake of money, even acquiesced to Ivana Lu give me a divorce, to marry an old man, their mother and daughter values, really subverted my imagination.
6.
Since then, I have been stimulated like never before. I left that small renovation company, gave my son to my mom, and followed my aunt to Wenzhou, Zhejiang Province, and stayed there for five years. During this five-year period, I worked day and night, from a little bit of learning to follow my aunt with the contracting project, and then I can independently do the project, the project, my salary from the beginning of a few thousand dollars slowly rose to two or three million a month, the end of the year and the project dividends.
These five years, I changed the new house, in the county's best development Bijie Garden bought a 160 square meters of large houses, but also bought a car more than 200,000 yuan, which five years, I think all the time Ivana Lu, I think she left me in the end how to live? I'm not sure if I've ever had a problem with that, but I'm not sure if I've ever had a problem with that.
During this period, the matchmaker, seven aunts and eight aunts are about to run out of my family's threshold, to introduce me to the marriage, but every time I listen to the woman on the table naked conditions, I feel that this is not like a blind date, it is more like a transaction.
So, every time I hear the word "blind date", I am very disgusted, these years I am outside the engineering, contact with all the big men, and did not meet their favorite suitable girl.
My mom thinks that Ivana has been gone for years, and I should have let go of my obsession with her, and I should be looking for a woman to continue my life.
But my mom never knew that I always had Ivana's place in my heart. She has never left my heart, especially every time I see my son's big sparkling eyes, which look like Ivana, I can't get her out of my mind.
Yes, I, Wu Daqing, am the goon. I was born with a heavy heart, and I have only loved Ivana Lee in my life.
These five years have passed, Ivana Lu also has her own new life, she should have their own children again, I just do not know how she is doing? Is she really married to that ugly man?
Every time I think of these, my heart can not be calm, after all, when I and Ivana Lu really love each other, she did give me a wonderful happy time, I can not because of her later to do the wrong thing, and can not forgive her, but also can not forgive myself.
Let her go, and let myself go. We should all start our new lives, after all, the days have to move forward.
7.
I don't know, it's already nine o'clock in the evening, Hao Hao skating seems to have not enjoyed, I called him back to bed, tomorrow still have to go to school, this child is very understandable, I called him, he obediently went back with me.
The next morning, I drove to send Hao Hao to school. The first thing I did was to go to my sister-in-law's appointment with me to go on a blind date, which was arranged in a cafeteria.
The object of this blind date is a tall and thin girl called Susan. Long hair, fair skin, a bit like the star Huang Shengyi, temperament is very good, speak are warm and gentle.
Such a good girl, it is a pity, in this small county, the old generation's thinking:No after is great. If she could have had children, maybe she would be living a very happy life now.
I briefly introduced myself to Susan here and chatted for a few moments before leaving on the pretext that I had something to do.
Two days later, my sister-in-law sent a message to my mom that I don't know what girls think, I don't know to take the initiative to contact people Susan, so good girls, people understand my situation, and are willing to accept my son, and asked me why I don't take the initiative to contact her?
I'm not stupid, that day I saw the light in Susan's eyes, her face fluttered with two scarlet clouds. I all know that this girl has a good feeling about me. These two days she has taken the initiative to send me several messages, want to ask me to come out to walk together, but I have politely declined.
For my obsession, my mom has been shaking her head and saying that I, in my previous life, did not know what sin, this life planted in the Ivana Lu body.
Listen to the rumors of Ivana Lu neighborhood collar said, Ivana Lu did not seem to marry the old man, the old man is a wife, then just want to play with her, then Ivana Lu went to work in Guangdong, as if looking for a Szechuan, she married to Szechuan, gave birth to a child, seems to be not very good.
Hearing such rumors, I don't know whether to be happy or sad. Ivana Lu also counted for her impulse to pay the price, but my heart how can not be happy. At first, I always thought that she could turn back to me, but she has always been that stubborn and heartbreaking girl, she never bowed down to admit her faults and show weakness, and never took the initiative to contact me.
Regardless of whether she is now living a good or bad life, that is the path of life she should take.
Ivana Lu, she gave me a wonderful and happy time in the best years, I have been very content. In fact, she has always been in my heart, no one can replace, now and in the future.
I think well, in the future, I will bring to the Ivana Lu gave me that good feelings, and son to live on.