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Received a private message from a reader:
“My husband cheated on me. I couldn’t control my emotions when I saw him. I wanted to destroy him. I can't adjust my mood. We are like enemies now and don't know how to get along. I'm so broken. Teacher, is it necessary to continue this kind of marriage?"
We often say that one day is a couple's life. Well, but once the trust between husband and wife is lost, the relationship is stained, and resentment accumulates, it is easy to destroy a family and erase every bit of the relationship that once existed between husband and wife.
It is self-evident to think of the devastation of a person who promised each other before getting married but then fell into disrepair after getting married and suffered cheating from his partner.
Many people who have been cheated on will experience the same breakdown as the readers in this article. Facing their cheating husbands, they lose control of their emotions, become sensitive and suspicious, and regard their husbands as enemies.
Some cheaters also think that their wives are pretentious and sensitive, and they have cheated on them. Wouldn’t it be enough to correct their mistakes and return to the family?
To be honest, cheating is not something you apologize for and then return to the family, the story will be over. This kind of betrayal is enough to destroy a family.
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There is such a real case around me.
Aunt Zhang is 48 years old. She used to have a cheerful personality, but now she seems to be a different person.
I vaguely remember that a few years ago, whenever she went back to her hometown, whenever she met me, she would pull me in to talk about daily life and the naughty things I did when I was a child.
For example: hitting her chickens with a slingshot, the chickens were so scared that they ran around and sprayed her dog with a water gun, making her dog bark in anger; also, setting off firecrackers during the holidays, Put it in the tree hole in front of her house to scare her...
Every time I finish talking, I will touch my head and say: Oh, in the blink of an eye, that 'tomboy' when I was a child has grown into a big girl. Yes, Wen Wen quietly.
Now, when I see Aunt Zhang again, her eyes are dull, her face is not happy at all, and she needs help to walk. When she sees me, she simply says hello, as if she is seeing a stranger.
I later heard that she suffered a mental breakdown because her husband had cheated on her. She couldn't bear the blow and suffered a mental breakdown. From then on, she fell into depression and committed suicide several times. After being rescued, she collapsed and became what she is today. appearance.
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Aunt Zhang and her husband have been married for more than 20 years. Their two children are adults and work outside. They are filial and send them money every month. , the two of them can be considered happy after all their hardships.
Their relationship is very good, and their children are so sensible. The neighbors are particularly envious of them. When they are free, they go shopping and buy clothes. In the evening, after dinner, they walk together and dance in the square.
Unexpectedly, the good husband cheated on him and had an extramarital affair with a divorced woman. This incident was discovered through a WeChat chat on the mobile phone.
Aunt Zhang was so angry that she smashed her husband's cell phone. He felt so sorry for the phone that he actually hit Aunt Zhang. With this slap, Aunt Zhang's heart was broken and she fainted from anger. Her husband was frightened and quickly apologized, saying that he was confused and did such a shameful thing.
However, it is too late to apologize at this time. Aunt Zhang lived half her life with a proud heart, and being betrayed by her husband made everyone in the neighborhood laugh.
Those gossipy neighbors would send kind comforts from time to time. Every comfort seemed to tear open the scars on her heart. In the end, Aunt Zhang couldn't bear it anymore and chose to end her life. Fortunately, he was discovered in time and his life was saved, but his health was ruined.
Aunt Zhang’s two children learned that their mother was ill because of the shameful things their father had done. They were so angry that they wanted to cut off relations with him, and took Aunt Zhang to work to take care of them. They didn’t care about their father’s life or death. On weekdays, let alone visiting relatives, I wouldn’t even make a phone call. Occasionally I go back to visit relatives and friends.
After Aunt Zhang’s husband lost his reputation, he could not survive in his hometown. He was getting older and it was difficult to find a job, so he could only work as a coolie
He could have enjoyed his old life. He, now, has destroyed this family because of his cheating. He often said that if he was given another chance, he would never do such a thing as cheating. It's not worth it!
The counselor believes:
Every marriage must be carefully cared for in order to last. Many people think that their cheating is not a big deal, and they betray their family under the stimulation of passion and novelty.
As everyone knows, one wrong behavior can destroy a home. Loyalty is crucial in marriage at any time. If you can't even achieve the most basic loyalty, how can you talk about a happy marriage?
The stolen beauty is always temporary, and the price we pay is often unexpected.
I advise everyone to focus on marriage and family and avoid extramarital affairs. You can never predict how much trouble your cheating will bring you.
Don’t let extramarital affairs become the culprit of ruining marriages. Only by staying away from extramarital affairs can we better protect our marriages. If you don’t want to die alone, please cherish the person beside you. Hope *** mian.