A confidante is a female friend who is spiritually independent, spiritually equal and capable of being profound. It is not only an emotional trash can to pour out troubles, but also a bird's nest tired of looking for a home after being injured in the outside world. Smart men let women set themselves off, smart women let men set themselves off. A confidante is a beautiful background in a man's life, picturesque just for you.
Introduction of confidante
A confidante is a female friend who is based on spiritual independence, spiritual equality and can be profound. Is a close female friend. For the opposite sex of similar age, it can be called a confidante; People with a big age gap are generally called "forgetting to make friends". A bosom friend can be an inner listener or a spiritual reader. "But it must be a complete spiritual exchange. In the event of love or sexual prohibition, this relationship will collapse.
The confidante believes such a sentence; True love spans the length of life and soul, and can exist in various forms.
In this world, what a man needs most, besides his wife, is a confidante. The most important thing to be a confidante is to abide by the boundaries. When you are sick in bed and struggling with pain, the one who holds your hand in panic and tears will be your wife. She is afraid of your pain, afraid of your death, and can't wait to hurt and die for you. She is crying. Obsessed,
Let your heart move and make you uneasy. And the confidante didn't. Confidante don't cry. She just stood by the bed, looked at you quietly, read your heart, and then told you with her mouth, her eyes and her heart that she knew where your pain was. She understands you and is willing to share it silently for you, so that your soul will no longer be lonely and make you happy. This shows the essential difference between the two: crying because I love you; I don't cry because I understand you. A man, if there is a woman who loves you deeply and understands you in his life, what else can he ask for?
Female confidantes are all extremely clever girls, and they know best: if a woman wants to be eternal in a man's life, it is either his mother or the female confidante he will never get. Know him, she just doesn't belong to him. Give him enough care, but don't give him a good impression, don't give him the threat that you will fall in love with him, and don't let him have the impulse and enthusiasm to fall in love with you.
This is the skill of being a confidante. You went out for a long trip and there was no news, but there was a major natural disaster where you went, and your confidante was worried. You called many times, but you couldn't get through every time because your phone was turned off. When you have lingered enough and stood in front of her unkempt face, she just smiled and asked, "Long time no see, how have you been?" She won't mention her worries, her worries,
Just forget it． She knows that mentioning those things has nothing to do with her. She doesn't want love, just friendship. She is like a naughty headhunter. She winks at you, and then brings out the naughty, enthusiastic and active elements of all the boys in you. You have no choice but to surrender in front of her. I really can't escape, and I don't want to. Usually, a wife is a confidante, and a confidante is a listener. She may be gentle and lovely, or she may be like a generous buddy. In front of her, a man can be a tired bird or a prodigal son, tired, lonely, helpless, evasive and lazy, but she can accept your darkness, give you peace and make room for your energy recovery.
If the wife is the sun and the lover is the moon, then the confidante is the star. The sun and the moon are tired, but the stars are not tired, flickering.
Willing to be lonely but brilliant and long. No matter how high you are in front of others, you can't look up. In the eyes of your confidante, there is only dignity, not majesty. She can walk into your heart through layers of masks, like entering a no-man's land, and talk to you in a language that you and she both know. Therefore, those who can become confidantes must be the best among women. And those who can have a confidante must be wise men.
How to be a pure confidante
1, don't endlessly revolve around the man you like, leave time and space for him and yourself. From beginning to end, you can't be an indispensable relationship.
2. Try to stay away from bars, dance halls and other places that are prone to ambiguity and too noisy; Take time to have afternoon tea, occasionally listen to concerts, cultivate temperament, pursue elegance and avoid unnecessary * * *.
Dress gracefully and calmly when meeting, and don't wear too revealing or fancy clothes. If even men passing by may have fantasies, then you are likely to test men's self-control intentionally or unintentionally.
4. You can only respond to a man's sexual suggestion with a smile, or Wang Gu subtly changes the subject, or you can pick up a teacup and concentrate on tasting it, turning a blind eye, turning a deaf ear and making a detour.
5. Find a quiet and simple consumption place, try to fix it, and let the waiters there know you. Selfless heart and open mind are the best preventive measures. If even outsiders seem ambiguous, it is understandable that the man you are dating has other ideas.
6. Women often have a vulnerable side. When they are wronged at work or at home, they need a place to talk and get sympathy and comfort. If they can't stand the need to be vulnerable, please be careful not to borrow the shoulders and chest of the opposite man easily.
7, spirit and money must draw a clear line, distinct, mutual gifts, daily consumption, focusing on the pleasure of the spiritual level, must not emphasize its material value, mixed with too much copper smell, it is inevitable to lose principles and positions in the face of right and wrong.
8. If possible, join the other person's circle of friends aboveboard and even become good friends with his woman. Spiritual communication and comfort can exist between two people, or between many people with similar interests. And home belongs to marriage, and you will never go home alone with him at any time for any reason.
And those who can have a confidante must be wise men. How to be a pure confidante
1, don't endlessly revolve around the man you like, leave time and space for him and yourself. From beginning to end, you can't be an indispensable relationship.
2. Try to stay away from bars, dance halls and other places that are prone to ambiguity and too noisy; Take time to have afternoon tea, occasionally listen to concerts, cultivate temperament, pursue elegance and avoid unnecessary * * *.
Dress gracefully and calmly when meeting, and don't wear too revealing or fancy clothes. If even men passing by may have fantasies, then you are likely to test men's self-control intentionally or unintentionally.
4. You can only respond to a man's sexual suggestion with a smile, or Wang Gu subtly changes the subject, or you can pick up a teacup and concentrate on tasting it, turning a blind eye, turning a deaf ear and making a detour.
5. Find a quiet and simple consumption place, try to fix it, and let the waiters there know you. Selfless heart and open mind are the best preventive measures. If even outsiders seem ambiguous, it is understandable that the man you are dating has other ideas.
6. Women often have a vulnerable side. When they are wronged at work or at home, they need a place to talk and get sympathy and comfort. If they can't stand the need to be vulnerable, please be careful not to borrow the shoulders and chest of the opposite man easily.
7, spirit and money must draw a clear line, distinct, mutual gifts, daily consumption, focusing on the pleasure of the spiritual level, must not emphasize its material value, mixed with too much copper smell, it is inevitable to lose principles and positions in the face of right and wrong.
8. If possible, join the other person's circle of friends aboveboard and even become good friends with his woman. Spiritual communication and comfort can exist between two people, or between many people with similar interests. And home belongs to marriage, and you will never go home alone with him at any time for any reason.