Rebellion is mostly due to the communication problem between parents and children, that is, improper parental discipline, oppression and rebellion, and rebellion is managed. Every child is born like a blank sheet of paper, and the way of upbringing is the soil for children to grow up. Always keep the emotional connection between parents and children, and don't let good seedlings grow crooked. Treason can be divided into unintentional treason and intentional treason.
How should parents deal with children's unintentional rebellion?
(1) First, accept the children's emotions and give them companionship and comfort-accept the emotions first and then solve the problem.
For example, when a child cries, I won't tell the child not to cry. It's okay to cry. He can't get what he likes, and his demands can't be realized. It's normal to be sad. Everyone has emotions, including children. Crying can help children release some emotions.
In the variety show "Incredible Mom", Hook made a textbook-style demonstration in the face of small fish losing his temper, which is worth learning and learning from many of our parents.
In the program, the little fish finally won a card that can be exchanged for toys through hard singing and dancing. He came to the toy store happily and discussed with his mother in advance. First, he chose a toy for his brother, and then he chose another one himself. But after he was elected as two toys, his mother told Xiaoyu that the rules were wrong and only one gift could be exchanged for one card. The clever little fish put the toy chosen for his brother back on the shelf and clung to his toy. Mother tried to convince Xiaoyuer: "This time I'll change my brother's toys first, and then I'll buy Xiaoyuer's favorite toys" and promised to buy them.
After some persuasion, Xiaoyuer finally agreed, but on the way, Xiaoyuer finally lost his temper and began to cry, calling Hu a "smelly mother".
Hook crouched down, hugged the little fish gently and firmly, patted him on the back, and let the child cry heartily in his arms, because she knew how wronged the little fish was at this time. After releasing his emotions, the little fish grabbed the milk and drank it, which made his mother laugh.
In the face of children's emotions, we must first identify with our feelings and then give endless love, but this does not mean that we can compromise.
(2) Secondly, tell the children why they can't meet this requirement.
If it is really unsatisfactory, try to give a reasonable and appropriate "compensation plan" so that children will not be so lost. You can also appropriately reduce or delay the requirements that children meet. If the child's requirements are difficult to meet, a compromise method can be adopted.
(3) communicate with children on an equal footing.
Do not underestimate the power of "peace" in education. Equal communication mode, calm mentality and handling methods will also help children gradually become such people. He will also deal with every problem in life slowly and peacefully, and will not be so easy to get out of control and collapse.
The rebellion of adolescent children is full of all kinds of provocations. Children of this age have their own views on right and wrong, awareness of property rights and privacy, and it is easy to resist for their own interests.
At this time, children always want to "hit" their parents, and parents always want to hit these questions. Both sides always stand on opposite sides of the problem. It is not so much the coming of children's rebellious period as the problem of parent-child communication.
Every rebellion is a process in which children grow up gradually. What parents should do most is to face problems with their children, not to beat them with problems.
Because children's consciousness, social experience and psychological maturity have not yet reached the standards of adults, they need to improve themselves through continuous learning. However, parents always try to tell their children to avoid mistakes and problems through their own experiences, hoping that their children will take fewer detours, thus depriving them of the opportunity to try, and their children will feel oppressive and then have resistance.
Education is a long process, and we can't be anxious. Every child may need a different way, because children are different from children. Good education focuses on "fit".