More than 30 million men in China can't find a partner, I believe a large part of the people are clear, can't find a partner is not only their own problem, perhaps from other people's problems can't be ignored. The biggest problem from others is that women experience more scum, become no longer believe in love, no longer believe in men, no longer believe that there is true love in the world, began to doubt everything, doubting their own original three views.
Some problems can not necessarily be solved by social scientists, many psychiatrists, counseling can only solve those more obvious symptoms,
A woman's questioning of the scum, turned into a skepticism of life, this is not a disease?
Women have suffered emotional setbacks, walking through the history of gray feelings, most of these manifestations:
01, become sensitive and suspicious
In the current situation of statistical data analysis, not only is there a lot of huge number of single males, there are many single women who can not be ignored, they *** with the same composition of the single men and women, or leftover men and women of a large group, the reason for this. The reason for this is that they have suffered emotional setbacks, so-called? Once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of grass rope?
This kind of single women show sensitive and suspicious, always have a questioning attitude, lock themselves in a closed world, others can not enter, they are not willing to come out.
This changing trend ranges from 24 to 40 years old, and the most important feature of this group is that they expect to be happy, but they don't dare to believe that there is true love in the world. In their words:
Love is like a ghost, only heard its legend, never seen really exist
. I'm afraid this slightly deformed mentality is hard for sociologists to detect, and psychiatrists can't help. And they also have a famous theory that it's okay not to fall in love or get married, but it's socially sick if parents, relatives and friends must force others to fall in love or get married.
02, desire for true love and fear of love
Today's social platforms are numerous, social media is developed, but the real can be used to talk about love, socializing with the opposite sex, I'm afraid that few and far between. It's like a soccer field or a basketball court, which is supposed to be a place for sports enthusiasts to work out, but has been turned into a square dance venue by a group of older women who are justifiably proud of it.
Social platforms are the same, some platforms, such as Stranger, is the platform for heterosexual interactions, but unfortunately, today's Stranger has long been the appearance of the first introduced in 2013, the platform is filled with a variety of married women's sunshine, sunshine, pets, selfies, show love, and finished others also asked you a: who said that to play the Stranger must be a single, the law provides that?
As long as the women who have encountered scum and have been hurt by their feelings will show the ambivalence of longing for true love and fear of falling in love, in a word, it is: wanting to fall in love, but afraid of being cannon fodder.
03, become independent and self-reliance and excellent
Effects are mutual, but also both sides, a lot of women have a bend in the road when they were young, not allowed to recognize people, in fact, largely because of their own vanity, material concepts are too heavy, resulting in a misjudgment. Always thought to fall in love, get married, find a man with a good material life, they can not struggle, do not have to work so hard.
This kind of people of course, but the material conditions of the relatively good men, they are often not serious enough about the relationship, today can spend money to deal with a young and beautiful woman, tomorrow I hope to be able to use the same way, and then go to change a more young and beautiful woman, so the weeks and weeks, women will be toyed with, and become a rich man playing in the hands of the plaything.
Those women who have experienced the playfulness of scum will become independent and self-reliant and excellent, because they understand that to lead a good life, they must rely on their own to fight, and can't count on anyone to come to their rescue. Those who were insecure as children, and longed to be loved and pampered in their thoughts, will become the lessons of life's slap in the face. Only their own become good, happiness will come as promised, they do not compete, no matter how to change, are the object of scum abandonment.
Conclusion:
Many women's relationship history is almost the same as the pace of life, experienced what kind of life, there is what kind of feelings, life as expected, feelings will be smooth, life down, feelings will be disillusioned. Behind how many men are single, there are also how many women have to be single because of frustrated relationships. Single is not guilty, but the right outlook on relationships, lifestyle, often through the scum to find.