Contrary to the reality, in his dream, he married Qiu Ya and became a big star, earning both fame and fortune, but in the end he found himself unhappy. When she woke up from her dream, Charlotte realized that only Ma Dongmei was the one she loved and should cherish most. He had never left her side with Ma Dongmei. ...
Zhang Ailing wrote in Red Rose and White Rose: Maybe every man has had two such women, at least two. Married a red rose, over time, the red one turned into a touch of mosquito blood on the wall, and the white one was still "the bright line at the foot of my bed"; Married a white rose, the white is the rice on the clothes, and the red is the Zhu Shazhi in my heart.
In the film, Qiu Ya and Ma Dongmei are Charlotte's red roses and white roses. In real life, Charlotte married Ma Dongmei, a white rose. After a long time, she felt that Ma Dongmei was like a grain of rice on her clothes. She was tired of sticking to her body all the time, but she was the red rose Qiu Ya in her heart.
A dream made Charlotte choose her own life again. She married Qiu Ya without hesitation, a red rose that she didn't get in reality. At first, she thought she would be happy, but after a long time, she felt that Qiu Ya could not give Ma Dongmei consideration and warmth. In her dream, Ma Dongmei became the Bai Yueguang in her heart.
At the end of the movie, Charlotte wakes up from her dream. After "two marriages", he finally understood that both love and marriage need to be managed well, and every relationship deserves to be taken seriously.
The film takes the emotional line of the protagonist Charlotte as the main line: getting married-tired of marriage-choosing again in the dream-tired of the dream marriage-waking up and determining the love in my heart. According to Freud's theory of personality structure, personality consists of id, ego and superego. Only when the three are balanced can personality develop normally. On the other hand, there will be personality problems.
To explore the changing process of Charlotte's personality, we must first understand Freud's theory of personality structure. The theory of personality structure holds that personality consists of id, ego and superego. This theory marks the beginning of western psychology and lays the foundation for the development of human psychology research.
Id: Individuals are born, and they are composed of people's innate instincts and basic desires. It is the most primitive and innate demand closely related to the body, such as the basic needs of people: hunger, thirst, sex and so on. Follow the principle of happiness and demand immediate gratification of desires.
Ego: it is produced by the differentiation and development of the id. If the needs of the ID cannot be met immediately in real life, he must adapt to the limitations of reality and adapt to reality to meet the needs. It is a kind of consciousness that constrains the id, and it was born in the acquired environment.
Superego: representing social moral standards, being in the highest realm of personality and following the "principle of perfection" is gradually formed by individuals receiving social, cultural and moral education in their lives.
Generally speaking, everyone will go through three stages of personality development: ID, ego and superego, and the origin of goodbye mr. loser in the film comes from the contradictions and conflicts among these three "I".
The film shows that the heroine Charlotte has many contradictions among herself, id and superego. The existence of contradictions effectively promoted the development of the story, and finally Charlotte found a balance between the three. Next, I will use Freud's personality theory to analyze Charlotte's psychological changes from three aspects: the ID's demand for Qiu Ya, Ma Dongmei's self-reality and the superego choice after awakening.
First, the ID demand for red roses Qiu Ya Charlotte has always had a crush on Qiu Ya, the school flower, but failed to win the hearts of her family in high school. Therefore, Charlotte has always regretted the unsuccessful first love in her adult life.
Psychologist Ze Gnacke found that our memory of "unfinished business" is about twice that of completed and terminated events. The "Ze Genik effect" is used in emotion, which explains why the first love is so perfect, but the two people who fell in love at first didn't finally come together.
Charlotte's disappointment with Qiu Ya was also due to the lack of it at that time. With this unrealized emotional memory, if you encounter setbacks in your married life with Ma Dongmei, it will further amplify this beauty, leading you to be critical of your current job and to be obsessed with the past.
It is precisely because of the regret and unforgettable first love that a series of stories in Charlotte's Dream came into being. Freud said: dreams are the realization of wishes and a completely meaningful spiritual phenomenon. The desire expressed in dreams is related to the subconscious desire, which is generally manifested as the unconscious motivation in reality.
In reality, Charlotte accomplished nothing and was tired of the other half of the marriage. Dreams well satisfy Charlotte's subconscious needs. In the dream, Charlotte was not only an excellent music superstar, but also married the former goddess Qiu Ya as she wished. This primitive desire and repressed motivation of human nature are satisfied and realized in Charlotte's dream.
From the beginning of the dream, the expression of love in this scene was described straightforwardly. In the dream, Charlotte kissed Qiu Ya directly in class, which caused a stir among the students and also caused the panic-stricken headmaster to appease her. Finally, he did something in his dream that he dared not do in reality.
Then, by chance, he was able to display his artistic talent and become an idol that everyone tried to imitate. At the same time, he got the favor of the goddess Qiu Ya and got together with Qiu Ya. Dreams fulfilled his long-cherished wish.
Second, the white rose Ma Dongmei's self-realistic choice In real life, Ma Dongmei, as Charlotte's plain-looking wife, made Charlotte very dissatisfied with her inner passion and desire. According to the description in the film, we can see that Charlotte chose to stay with Ma Dongmei not because of love, but because of various realities. She married Ma Dongmei.
First of all, from the film Ma Dongmei's Self-Report, we can know that she is a single-parent family like Charlotte, and both of them were raised by their mothers. When Ma Dongmei recalled her childhood, she learned that they were neighbors and had a good relationship since childhood. Similar family backgrounds make it easier for two people to feel the same way.
Secondly, the ideal is full, the reality is skinny, and the goddess is too beautiful to give up. Charlotte likes Qiu Ya and pursues him, but the result is obvious and impossible to succeed. As a class flower, Qiu Ya has many suitors, even Yuan Hua, the second generation official, likes her.
After seeing her other half at Qiu Ya's wedding, she was an old and ugly man. We can see that Qiu Ya is a vain and greedy woman. Such a woman didn't even have a crush on Yuan Hua, who got excellent grades and was born in the second generation. How could she throw herself into poor Charlotte's arms? Her own conditions are not competitive at all.
Again, it is better to love than to be loved. Goddess can't help but love, and Ma Dongmei keeps pursuing Charlotte, so Charlotte is the best choice. When attending a wedding reception in Qiu Ya, Ma Dongmei's words can be seen at a glance: "Have you earned a penny since graduation? Over the years, you have been lying at home all day, and your limbs have almost degenerated. Go out to cupping people during the day and pedal three rounds at night. How are you? You follow my engine ... "
Charlotte has no skills and can't even support herself. She relies on Ma Dongmei to support him from morning till night. The marriage combination at that time largely depended on Charlotte's decision to surrender to reality. Charlotte is still dissatisfied with a wife who loves herself wholeheartedly and is willing to give.
Jiang Yang once said: two of a kind can make them get along more harmoniously in marriage. The reason why Charlotte is particularly troubled in marriage is that his marriage with Ma Dongmei is not consensual, but Charlotte's realistic choice out of self-consideration. The conflict between ID and ego has caused Charlotte's other troubles.
Third, the superego choice under the sudden awakening. The superego in Freud's personality structure theory refers to the part of moral conscience and self-ideal. China scholar Tang Zhen pointed out in Acceptance and Choice that superego is the highest stage of self-development, and superego is a lonely me, a loving me, a trusting me and a perfect me.
Charlotte repositioned her life choice and attitude in her dream, and completed the fall of the whole person. Finally, Charlotte was born again. Freud believed that dreams can be explained, and it is a continuation of mental activities in a awake state. All dreams have their value and significance.
Dreams can satisfy the unsatisfied desires in real life, but they can't really satisfy people, because it is just a dream after all. Charlotte's dream satisfied his reverie, made him make a new choice about life, and realized the feeling of starting over.
In the dream, Charlotte married the goddess and went home, but she was not happy. Finally, she found out that Qiu Ya was having an affair. In the dream, Charlotte didn't marry Ma Dongmei, but she was not happy. Ma Dongmei married Da Chun, and Charlotte found that the lover she didn't love was so kind and warm.
Charlotte's original desire was satisfied in her dream, but she was not as happy as she thought. Finally, the dream is over and Charlotte knows herself again. He suddenly felt that Ma Dongmei was so beautiful. He wanted to haunt her all the time and would not part for a moment.
Ma Dongmei pursued Charlotte hard for many years, and finally got the response of Charlotte's love. She was naturally overjoyed. Charlotte reconciled ID and ego, made reason and emotion harmonious, and opened a new chapter in life.
Fourth, practical significance: marriage is not easy, cherish Charlotte in the film. When people reach middle age, they have nothing to do and even have to rely on their wives to support them. In order to show off in front of classmates, they borrow luxury cars and brand-name clothes and build an engine with gifts ... but in fact, they are just clowns in the eyes of classmates, their careers are unsuccessful, their wives are mediocre and tacky, and their family careers are not good at both ends. There is really nothing to show off. Everyone's laughter and entertainment are just satire.
The greatest wealth in his life is to have a wife who loves him unconditionally-Ma Dongmei. Human nature is like this: "what you can't get is always in turmoil, and what you prefer is fearless." When people subconsciously believe that the other person's love is far more than their own, they will be convinced that no matter how far they go, the other person will not leave. As a result, the unbridled aggression and the advantages that were once eyeful have become shortcomings and problems, and the promises that have been made for a lifetime have been wiped out in constant quarrels.
Marriage needs to be managed by both parties. In the creed of "marriage is the grave of love", we tend to pay too much attention to the needs of the id, infinitely amplify the feelings of the ego (the part that compromises with reality), and ignore the true meaning of love-to accompany each other without regrets.
As the song goes: "the most romantic thing is to grow old with you;" The dribs and drabs of laughter collected along the way are reserved for sitting in a rocking chair and chatting slowly; The most romantic thing is to grow old with you until we are too old to go anywhere, and you still regard me as a treasure in your hand. "
There is a person who is willing to cry with you unconditionally, laugh with you, suffer with you and fly away with you ... This is the greatest happiness in life. "There was a sincere love before me, and I didn't cherish it. When I lost it, I regretted it The most painful thing in the world is this. " The helplessness of Supreme Treasure touched countless people. ...
Marriage is not easy, and it is done and cherished.
In the conclusion film, when portraying the character Charlotte, the contradiction and conflict between ego, id and superego are set, which makes the characters struggle and choose in the conflict. Dream collection is a true portrayal of the inner world of the characters, which gives Charlotte another chance to choose again.
But in real life, we have no chance to do it again, and many people have no chance to experience the joy of getting it back. Many people and things that are unimportant are found to be extremely precious after being lost, but they can't be recovered. I hope everyone can grasp the present and cherish it.