The reason why more and more people don't want to live with the elderly after marriage is actually nothing more than the following two reasons, which really have nothing to do with filial piety. When there are contradictions between their ideas and concepts, try to communicate well.
First, I don't want the old people to work too hard. Being independent can reduce the burden on their parents.
In fact, many young people want to live alone after marriage, but they don't want to bother their parents any more. After all, if you continue to live with them, parents will be busy with housework all day, such as cooking for them three times a day, mopping the floor to wash clothes and buy food. If you work overtime and come home late, your parents will have to worry about it.
In short, as long as parents are under their noses, they will still take care of themselves as children.
But after living separately, the old people just need to take care of themselves. You don't have to do housework so hard, and you don't have to buy food and cook on time every day. Occasionally, I want to go shopping and dance in the square dance, and I don't have to worry about no one at home after you go home.
Second, I want to avoid the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and maintain family harmony and tranquility (the fundamental reason)
Since ancient times, there has been a saying that ten mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are at odds with each other, and sometimes I have to say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to be born enemies. Even after marriage, no matter how honest two strangers are, there will still be barriers in their hearts. Especially after the child is born, various contradictions may break out between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law at any time. This will directly lead to family unrest, and even threaten the marriage feelings of two people.
But after living apart, distance sometimes produces beauty, but not living together all day will make us closer. And they don't have to change their habits to adapt to this new life. Parents don't have to change their cooking and living habits for decades, and young people don't have to compromise themselves to cater to and tolerate. Because we are not together, many contradictions and frictions can be avoided, which is more conducive to family harmony and tranquility. And young people will be more comfortable living by themselves.