The first one is my square dance when I met, have known each other for seven years. Our two families live not far away from each other, just two buildings, morning and evening exercise are together to go back together, and sometimes also together shopping shopping, is nothing to talk about the girlfriends. But a few months ago, something happened, so I no longer want to care about her. The reason is that she slandered me with people we *** with know and said some things about me that were not true. I can't guess why she did this to me, it's not like I did anything wrong to her. If one person had told me that, maybe because they were jealous of our relationship, I wouldn't have believed it. But several people told me, and I had to believe it. It was obvious to me from the accounts of these people that they were holding it against me because they felt that we were good friends and she shouldn't be talking bad about me behind my back. I also felt helpless and did feel heartbroken that this happened. If I confront her, she won't admit to it, and it will involve some innocent people. So why don't you just pretend that nothing happened, stay away from her and never contact her again?
The second is in a friend's house, when the friend opened a kindergarten, hired a cooking, her name is Xiaoyan, we are the same age. I have nothing to do, often go to the kindergarten to sit, and gradually familiar with the wild goose, and sometimes also help Xiaoyan do cooking. I was especially happy to go to the weekly dumpling-making party. The two of us chatted while making dumplings, and the time flew by so quickly that the dumplings were finished before we finished talking that sometimes our friends were jealous that we were too close to each other. The dumplings have been wrapped for four years. At first I was doing a favor for my friend, but later I was doing a favor for Goose. Because if I didn't get along with Goose, I wouldn't be there every week on this day. These four years, our relationship has gradually deepened, I think this will continue to be more than the relationship with friends. Later, Xiaoyan suffered from frozen shoulder, quit, even so, we still keep in touch, three days every now and then, chatting on WeChat, when she was sick, I also went to her home to see her a few times. I thought this relationship will continue, I did not expect only maintain a year, her son finished the wedding, our relationship ended, and her last face is also in her son's wedding. From then on, our relationship drew to a close, and she disappeared from my life like a kite with broken strings. At first I sent her a message, but she never gave me back, and slowly I was disappointed, and my heart was cold. Now more than a year has passed, I still haven't forgotten her, often recalling the scene together, I still can't understand why she wants to be like this? A sea of people can meet, and the same interests, and can talk to, how not easy, why would she give up? Perhaps a few years of acquaintance, I still do not know enough about her person, in that case that can only be put down, because the feelings of two people, forced to not come, even if they do not give up, there is no way.
The third one is a friend who has only known for less than half a year, and Fai and I met at the University of the Elderly. In March, we went to the university to study English together, and we sat in front and behind each other, chatting during the breaks between classes. She is not very good at English, so she has a hard time learning it. Sometimes she asks me some questions, and I am happy to learn with her. Sometimes when she didn't come, I would record the lesson for her and send it to her. At the same time, I would carefully select a sentence combining difficulty and ease and send it to her every day, and if I didn't send it the same day, I would make it up the next day, and I didn't miss a single day in the whole three months. I felt that since I had promised, I should keep my word, and she did! She often said some words of gratitude to me, which warmed my heart. After the semester ended, our relationship deepened. After the vacation, not class can not see each other, we chat on WeChat, I also continue to send her sentences, learning can not stop ah! Just a month ago, I rented a house expired, moved back to the original house, Xiaohui's home happens to be not far from my home, I also look forward to being able to face-to-face chat with her.
But I never dreamed that this meeting would end the friendship we had just established. One day, she asked me to go to her home to sit down, I thought it was just to talk about the family, I did not think to her home, only to realize that she also asked five people, and the six of us do not know each other. Her lover in the kitchen cooking, Fai said in the home to get a small party, lunch at noon to chat. I understand this situation, this is the usual means of doing direct marketing.
I have a friend who is doing Infinity, and she pulled me to go to such occasions several times, but I never bought her products, and just gave her a personal favor. Today, Fai is a little bit unkind, if she said to understand, I will give her face, to go to the scene of a. But she is obviously to deceive me. But she is obviously cheating me to go, of course, the heart is not comfortable, and then again these people I do not know, stay together how embarrassing, so I found a reason to leave. Since then, Xiaohui has not sent me WeChat, and did not explain that day, I told her a few times to say hello, she did not return.
Now that school is back in session, I realized that Fai didn't come, and when I got home, I sent her a tweet asking her why she didn't go to class, and she got back to me only two days later. Said a fall, waist and cross-bone fall broken at home recuperation, this semester can not learn, and so on good and then go. I sent them by voice, each one was 30 or 40 seconds long, and she only replied to me in five or six short words, no more than ten at the most. That's not even the point, the point is that each one was replied to in seven or eight minutes or even longer, and the last one was surprisingly forty-five minutes later. I don't believe she was busy at that time, just don't want to care just, I, too, have self-awareness, won't bother her again, and won't rack my brain to send her sentences in the future, save time to learn more on your own!
Perhaps these three people are not even considered my friends, just walk with me for a while, the fate of the deep, more than a walk, the fate of the shallow, less than a walk. In any case, regardless of whether the fate is deep or shallow, at least accompany me through this journey, I am still happy. So I should not hate them, on the contrary, I should thank them, with this experience, in order to let me in the future on the road, to be able to take some detours, to make some real, long-lasting friends, which is also a kind of unexpected gain!