What should I do if my mother-in-law quarrels badly?

1. Who should apologize for the quarrel between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law? 1. After quarreling with your mother-in-law, as a daughter-in-law, you should bow down to her mother-in-law first, wait until her mother-in-law forgives you, and then reason with her slowly, because the old people's ideas are different from ours, and their ability to accept new things is busy, so a smart daughter-in-law will choose to show weakness first and then reason with her mother-in-law. If you think your mother-in-law is making trouble at home, don't apologize first, but you must show that you have the intention of repentance. Let your husband have the following conversation with his mother-in-law, and let him tell her who is quarreling, so that her mother-in-law will accept it faster. Handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law rationally. After all, this person is your husband's mother, and it is difficult for her to bring up your husband. Therefore, if you are not interested in something, don't confront your mother-in-law, but learn how to communicate with her. What if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good? 1. Let bygones be bygones: In the process of living with my mother-in-law, sometimes there will be some small frictions, but sometimes she will say something you don't like to hear or do something that makes you unhappy. Let bygones be bygones, don't keep it in her mind, and don't argue with her mother-in-law. A family needs to live in harmony. If it's not a big matter of principle, don't worry too much. 2. Take care of your husband's emotions when making suggestions: If you encounter anything about your husband's family, especially when it comes to money, you should make suggestions with your husband at this time, but you must take care of his emotions and have certain skills when speaking. You need to gently explain to your husband, and let him better understand his difficulties, and then help him make suggestions, so that your mother-in-law feels that you are thinking about your family. How to get along after falling out with my mother-in-law? 1. If you are a woman who loves her husband deeply, you should take the initiative to talk to your mother-in-law. Whether you quarrel because of you or not, you should apologize to your mother-in-law, so that a reasonable mother-in-law will never ignore you, and you will make your husband love you more, because if you bow your head first, he will feel that you are a person who loves yourself and is an educated person. Sometimes you want to talk to your mother-in-law, but you can't save face to change the status quo between you. Then, you can also ask your husband to put in a good word for you in front of your mother-in-law and indirectly let her know that you want to make up with her. At this time, with the help of her husband, maybe the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will get along better. Fourth, the difference between mother-in-law and mother? 1. When you are willful or even angry, your mother-in-law will not tolerate your daily life like her mother, and even close people will have friction. After the conflict between mother and daughter, you are willful and even angry. Most mothers will not be indifferent and will not hate themselves. And even if your mother-in-law got along well before, she can't tolerate you like her mother, and even hold a grudge and even be angry because of a small matter. This is the difference that blood is thicker than water. When you are spoiled, your mother-in-law will not understand that your daughter is your mother's intimate little cotton-padded jacket like her mother, and she likes to spoil when she is in trouble. Similarly, her mother enjoys her daughter's coquetry. For example, at her mother's house, tell her that she is hungry, and her mother will immediately cook your favorite meal and won't let you clean it up after dinner, which is different from her mother-in-law's. If you do this, she will be labeled as lazy. When not doing housework, most of her mother-in-law will complain and nag, while most of her mother will not be at home, and her mother will often love herself. Daughter, I usually do housework by myself and never say anything. But if you are a mother-in-law, if you are lazy, it is impossible for her old man not to talk about it. 4. My mother-in-law is very stingy and my mother always gives her support when she spends money occasionally. After marriage, the lifestyle of young people is often different from that of their mother-in-law. Occasionally, I will buy myself some high-end clothes and go out for a trip, but if my mother-in-law knows, she will probably be very stingy and think that spending money is too extravagant and there is no virtue of thrift and housekeeping. And my mother will never say anything when she knows. When you complain about your husband, your mother-in-law often doesn't sympathize with you like her mother. When you need to complain, you can complain about her husband's bad habits in front of her mother-in-law, such as unsanitary and throwing dirty clothes, but it is always wise to say good things in front of her mother-in-law, because that is her son. When you need to be taken care of, your mother-in-law will never be as devoted as her mother. She always wants her children to be healthy and happy, so when you need to be cared for and taken care of, her mother will give you everything without reservation. And the mother-in-law can't do it wholeheartedly even if she has more heart and strength. What should my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do if they quarrel? 2 1. Understand the mother-in-law's mood. Before his son got married, his mother-in-law was his only closest woman. Now suddenly, a woman younger than herself "robbed" her son. As the saying goes, "marry a daughter-in-law and forget your mother." Seeing that the children who have been brought up with hardships are only thinking about their wives, they will definitely feel a great sense of loss. As a daughter-in-law, you should put yourself in each other's shoes. Don't just think this man is your husband. You should occupy all his thoughts and love. Remember that he is the son of his mother-in-law. Therefore, when you are free, you should encourage your husband to go home to spend time with her mother-in-law, or take her mother-in-law outside for fun on a rest day, so as not to make it so difficult for the elderly to look after their children. 2. Remember that although your character is married, you should change your previous address from "aunt" to "mother", but don't think that you can treat your mother-in-law as your own mother. What I'm talking about here is not the difference in filial piety. Parents and families should treat filial piety equally. I mean, mother and daughter can be no big or small, whether it's a joke, a prank or an argument, after all, it won't really affect the blood relationship. But mother-in-law is different. You can be a little coquettish, but you must not be willful. Once there is a contradiction, it is likely that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will drop to freezing point. Even if the situation will ease with the passage of time, I don't know if the emotional rift can really be repaired. 3. Be sure to have a good attitude towards your husband. In front of her mother-in-law, her attitude towards her husband needs careful consideration. If you are too close to your husband, your mother-in-law will think you are disrespectful. No matter how spoiled you are in the world of two people, at least restrain yourself in front of your elders. If she is cold to her husband, or judges and tells her husband what to do, her mother-in-law will feel worse. How painful it must be for the baby in your hand to let your wife boss you around like this. Even if the daughter-in-law is respectful to her, there is no way to please her mother-in-law. Therefore, in front of her mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law must leave her husband with enough face to balance her mother-in-law's heart, and at the same time, she should prevent her mother-in-law from being jealous and not have too many intimate little moves. 4, to "cater" to the mother-in-law's consumption concept, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have different understandings of consumption concept except ideological differences. Generally speaking, the elderly pay attention to the economy, and it is most important to buy affordable things. Therefore, if she knew that her daughter-in-law was a fashion-seeker, she would definitely think that such a daughter-in-law could not be a good family. In her concept, fashion is equivalent to burning money. In fact, this is just an attitude towards life, but a daughter-in-law should never try to change her mother-in-law's consumption view. It is difficult to change the mother-in-law, but easy to change the price. No matter what kind of goods, as long as you think its real price is beyond your mother-in-law's psychological tolerance, then give her a discount, 50% discount or 30% discount when you tell her, as long as it can make your mother-in-law not feel that you have lost your home. 5. Don't expect too much. Maybe you got along well with your prospective mother-in-law before entering the door, but don't be naive to think that being a mother-in-law is just as harmonious. After all, I didn't get married, but I was polite on the surface. Just like when you go to other people's homes, you must behave appropriately, but no one can always be nervous in daily life, and bumps and bumps are inevitable. As a daughter-in-law, don't really think that your mother-in-law will unconditionally tolerate and spoil you like her own mother. This must be realized on your wedding day, otherwise the gap between reality and dreams will hurt you. It's best not to expect too much from the beginning, maybe the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can get along well. 6. Satisfy the "vanity" and "old child" of the mother-in-law, that is to say, the elderly need to be coaxed like children. For the mother-in-law, if you can hear people around you say, "Your son and daughter-in-law are really filial," it will be as sweet as eating honey. Therefore, it is suggested that the daughter-in-law should go to her husband's house more often and buy something for the elderly from time to time, such as clothes, which is a very suitable choice. When they go out, they can proudly answer other people's questions about where you bought them. "This is from my wife!" Although the old man doesn't want these things, she can also feel your love from these things and enhance their feelings.