First, with the age of growing up, there is no longer the unrestrained, carefree life of childhood. The former children's companions, now also busy with each other, began their own new life, people in order to live, and each of them are busy, get together and leave more, the heavy pressure of life pressurized us breathless, you do not have time to take care of the scenery around you, the life of the whip constantly whip in our body, so that we have to fight forward, for the family, for their own sake, for the sake of life, for the sake of survival. We have abandoned our childishness and returned to reality. Sometimes in order to survive, we have to give up the dreams we once had.
Secondly, the more mature you are, the lonelier you are, because of what has happened to our perspective of considering problems. When you are small and unrestrained, you never think about how to live in the future. But when we grow up, we have to think about the problem of life, with the growth of age, the burden of the family has fallen on our shoulders. We can not escape, can not retreat, there may be times, no one to tell, need to be alone to carry the burden of life. After a long time, it will become more and more lonely, the heart will feel immense loss, only the responsibility for the family, so that we are full of confidence, and strive to move forward. People tend to only see the scenery in front of people, have to ignore the behind the sore and pining.
Third, there is no straight road in life, full of thorns and challenges, in the process of our growth, it is necessary to go through, older, the more we experience, but also become more mature, but also will look down on the world of these prosperity, after the prosperity, the rest is only their own inner loneliness. From the young unseasoned, and then to grow to after, mature and stable, how much wind and rain during this period, only experienced people know the hardship, when someone for you to offer flowers and applause, they often see only the side of your success, but they can not see, you quietly pay behind the scenes, the hardships of the hard work.
With the growth of age, we are no longer a teenager, teenage dreams have gradually receded the color, the burden on the body has become heavier and heavier, we need to pay more and more people, and understand their own people are less and less. But as long as our hearts are full of love, full of care for the family, the thought of friends, our loneliness will be reduced a lot.
When you feel lonely, don't run away, don't retreat, don't avoid. You can go out for a walk, you can also talk to their dear ones, there may be unexpected gains, because after all, they are our trustworthy people, mutual understanding in times of crisis, mutual support, will give us infinite strength, enough to support any difficulties in the world.
In my opinion, this must be a manifestation of psychological decadence.
A person with a full heart will not feel bored or increasingly lonely. It is reasonable to say that as a person grows older, he should be more and more mature, and his knowledge of life will become clearer and clearer, so he will know how to take care of his own life, such as the owner of the problem, which must be a kind of human nature retrogression towards.
When we are young, we don't know how to get ahead, we like to think nonsense, we tolerate our own boredom and pretentious loneliness. But as we grow older and experience more, the heart will slowly change. With the maturity of thinking, we understand what is the responsibility and obligation, we know how to cherish themselves and cherish the time, we have no time to be bored and suffer.
In life, boredom must be lonely and boring, this kind of people want to get anything but nothing to do, all day long whimsical. This state of life must be a decadent and undesirable state of life. And a truly mature people, already know how to recognize and improve themselves, and strive to find the most perfect self, to become the person they want to be. This kind of people's life must be wonderful and full, they do not go to boring time, their heart is rich and bright, so they never feel lonely.
When I was young, my children were small, my days were poor, and I was busy fighting for my livelihood all day long, and I always wanted to live a good life. Feeling hopeful, hopeful, year after year, looking forward to a good harvest. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it.
When people reach old age, their children are all established, the days are getting better and better, food and clothing do not worry, but feel that it is not interesting, lonely.
To solve this problem, we must organize our own life in old age, more hobbies, more friends, so that the days are full of some. For example, playing tai chi in the morning, taking a walk in the evening, jumping a square dance, twisting the big rice-planting song, so that life is enriched.
When I was a child, I played innocently and carefree, but when I grew up, I needed to fight for my own career, and I needed to find another partner in my life.
In such cases, we create multiple situations.
Focusing on our own personal space
Growing up, the pressures of work and life stop us from having more time to genuinely make friends.
Most of us make friends for the purpose of a better job or to help ourselves.
The most common way people connect with each other is through social software.
Because of the responsibilities that come with it, and after losing the number of face-to-face interactions,
we feel more and more alone.
Growing up, we all have social anxiety
We think about whether it's the right thing to do.
Because first impressions are important,
like I said above, because everyone has a life.
If you make a bad first impression,
you won't even get in the door of opportunity.
Then we became more and more conscious of our image,
wearing mass branded clothes, talking to people in a similar way,
and working to a standardized process.
Because everything has to be fast, your boss's company has to compete, and your leaders demand you to be fast,
so you can't slow down, slow means out.
Social anxiety makes everyone's pores tense,
repeat that every day,
and you get lonelier and lonelier.
Create a life of your own
While work and society move fast,
we can create a space for ourselves.
It can be a hobby of reading, free to fantasize in another imaginary world.
Or it can be writing, which is a very good hobby.
But more importantly, do it according to your own preferences.
In increasingly fast times, everyone's gets lonely,
With your family you have to slow down and enjoy your leisure time together.
When you are doing your own hobbies, slow down and don't put too much pressure on yourself.
Well, I'm @GrowingUpWithBooks May no one be too lonely on their way to growing up.
It's the absence of ideals and dreams.
As we grow older, the pressure of life and family responsibilities become greater and greater, we are in disguise all the time, and we do not even know where we have lost our true selves, or what it is really like!
Outside, you have to be a qualified employee!
At home, you want to be a good wife and husband!
In your parents' home, you are a good son, a good daughter!
In front of the children, you are a good father, a good mother!
I don't know when I belong to my own space and life alone, so it is inevitable that I will become more and more lonely inside!
But on the contrary, if you can enjoy it, really into the role of it, rather than as a task to complete the words, may be another situation! So no matter how much pressure life brings us, we should be positive to face, to live, life will naturally give us a good return! (At least a pleasant mood!)
Because you have this idea itself shows that you have been in progress, imagine if you are still in place your realm, thinking,, concepts, still stay in that simple world, the so-called high places are not cold ah, the general success of the people are lonely, as for the boredom: this and lonely can not be confused with boredom basically shows that your heart is very empty, to want to sublimation of the mind must not only read and learn, but also to think about the future of the world. Sublimation must not only read and learn 。。。。。
As we grow older, we will give up those useless design, learned not to give others trouble, and finally can understand to understand their own people less and less, will feel more and more lonely!
Previously, I always felt energetic and inexhaustible, with the growth of age is slowly being sharpened by society, more and more with the flow, but I always feel that this is not what I want to live, may be not get is always the best, get it is also so!
Of course, different ages and stages of thought are not the same. A small child would not have such worries. Children look at things around them as fresh and curious. As they grow older and get used to seeing things around them, they won't be as curious. People have decadent boredom, which should be constantly explore, constantly learning. Experienced the sweet and sour life, and then back to the very silly and naive teenagers is impossible. So do well for yourself. Strive, struggle. Live to learn old, realize the value of their lives.