Speaking of drifting north, the reason is actually a last resort. There are several reasons.
I didn't have a chance to go to the TV station after graduating from the director department. It's all relevant for students to go to TV stations. I was envious at the time.
I took several civil service exams and interviewed twice, but. I looked at myself in the mirror for a long time. I am thinking that I am 173 and weigh 108 kg. I'm ok (I'll evaluate my appearance in the above picture later). I wonder why I can't pass the interview.
After graduation, all the work that has not been compiled is based on finding an object. I remember my boyfriend, the mother of the Environmental Protection Bureau, kept telling my mother why I couldn't be admitted to a civil servant or institution. Hurry up and find a way to get your daughter admitted, and then say that a bunch of his sons have capital to work stably. Eyes full of pride. Go to my boyfriend's house for the New Year and face the greetings that their families seem to care about. "When will you review and take the civil service exam again?" That's a steady iron rice bowl. Keep a baby and rest for a year. You have to work hard! " I can only swallow my tears into my stomach. I can only break up decisively.
At that time, the feeling of dating in Shenyang was that the ugly girl who opened 1500 was more popular than me after working for a month. When I was an intern in the Public Security Bureau, the eldest brother of a secretary wanted to pursue me and invited me to dinner. Only after two contacts did I know that his master's family in China Interpol University was well-off. He suddenly asked me one day what your parents do, and I said my mother is an accountant. Dad drives a van. Then he said, can't you take the career or civil service exam? He was not enthusiastic about me later because there was no so-called stable job in my job.
Everything in my hometown is unfair, but I am a grassroots family. I can't fight for my father. Do I have to blame my parents? No So in May of 20 10, there was a talent contest for Yang Lan to find talented women, which made my life turn for the better. I went back to my hometown for a party two years ago and learned some information about people. Those peers who have stable jobs through family ties are talking about their superior treatment and existing capital at the proud dinner table. Then he used his smug little eyes to ask me how difficult Beijing was. Come back quickly, don't drift. Houses in Beijing are too expensive. I hope you can tell me how difficult it is to drift north. Look at you. I said I have a house. They also said, what should I do if my parents are old? A house belonging to your husband. How dare you let your parents live here? I said to buy my parents a house in full before marriage. They also said that it will be difficult for children to get married and buy a house in the future. I said that my husband bought his son's house when I was pregnant. Bought two. They finally shut up. They went on to say that Beijing was so tired. The work in my hometown is stable and leisurely. I said that if I didn't have a stable job, I would work hard to earn all my money back a few years ago. Race against time, take your parents out to travel and see the outside world, so that you can live a good life. When I say such a proud civil servant friend, I only represent part of it. Please don't sit in the right position.
Life is too short, and some roads are impassable. Maybe you will get different surprises by taking another road. These are some opinions that I can't adapt to my hometown. Don't spray if you don't like it. I hope that when I return to my hometown, I will recall the happiness of my childhood, not flatter each other.
In a word:
This kind of thrift and luxury refers not only to material things, but also to spirit.
My home is in Shenyang. A high school classmate went to Beijing and worked in Beijing after graduation. I've never been rich, and I've had a bitter life, but it's also wonderful. Watch exhibitions on weekends, attend lectures at universities after work, visit cities during holidays, go to see plays, make friends with bands and make friends online. Her boyfriend at that time was a foreigner. Although she has no money, her spiritual life is very satisfied.
For a time, her father was in poor health, and her company in Beijing had a branch in Shenyang, so she applied to work in Shenyang. Beijing's income will be very good in Shenyang, but except for one thing, her daily leisure life is almost gone. However, she still tries to create every opportunity to enrich her life. For example, she had a hard time finding the English corner that had disappeared in the city. The English corner was a product of a long time ago and almost disappeared, but she tried her best to find it. But spiritual life is really incomparable with Beijing. Not only less, but also more expensive. After staying for a while, I couldn't stand it anymore and went back to Beijing.
Isn't it popular to go home now?
You can go back to your hometown physically. What about spiritually? I can't go back.
Let's share it. I was in Jiangsu before, and I went after graduation. I stayed for more than two years, and then I went back to Wuhan for a year. To sum up, 1. First-tier cities have high wages, high consumption, many young people and rich nightlife. 2. The general home line is 18. Without young people, the consumption is not very low, but the salary is insanely high. Our salary is almost 2-3 thousand, of course, there are many, just take most of them as an example. There are few job opportunities, and it is not convenient for those companies to travel. Many of them either didn't get the bus or they will leave after 5 o'clock. Public transportation is underdeveloped. The key is that there is no high-speed rail in our city. It is estimated that all counties and cities can count them. Generally speaking, those who can come back can't afford to buy a house outside and can't save money for a year. When you are older, you should get married and come back to develop. Then buy a house. Generally speaking, coming back to work is not suitable. I don't want to work in a low-paying job, and there are no young people. They are all aunts. I don't even have a young girl to get married. Ha ha. Hard injury! There is no life ceremony, and I feel that I can see my old age. Life is forcing you to refuel.
I used to drift north, my hometown is a small county in Jiangsu, and now I work in Suzhou.
Tell me how you feel. First of all, I am very happy to come to Suzhou. The city is still very dynamic, especially the park, which is full of technology companies. The overall atmosphere is not much different from Beijing. So I can adapt.
But when I returned to my hometown, it was different. In Beijing and Suzhou, I am exposed to the most job information or industry trends all day. What I want most is how to achieve the monthly target, how to strive for by going up one flight of stairs this year with my own efforts, how to get a better evaluation at the end of the year and get a higher year-end and so on.
It's not the same when you get to your hometown. What I've always heard is: Where do distant relatives open big companies? This is his telephone number. Please contact him more when you are free; Or so-and-so's son is living well now, and there are several houses in XX. Why don't you take refuge in him? Or XXX became the cadre of XX. If you are free, I'll invite him to dinner, and you can talk to him. ...
Human relationships revolve around you all day. It really seems that you can make these relationships and please these people.
Many people say that big cities depend on themselves and small cities rely on relationships. This sentence really came true. In big cities, everyone has a competitive environment in relatively equal. As long as you make more efforts and get better grades, you will have room for promotion, and everything will be subject to the results. In small cities, it seems that everyone is always thinking about how to maximize the value of the network. Even unrelated people can find ways to climb up the relationship.
Of course, I am personally glad that at least I found a job similar to that in Beijing before, and I can get rid of the entanglement and trouble of those networks. Maybe I'm just a hard worker in my life, and I won't care about these human relations, but at least I can live a little freely without looking at anyone's face.
First of all, if you stay in any place for a long time, you will not be used to leaving.
So the focus of this question is actually what is the difference between first-tier cities and third-and fourth-tier counties. Of course, if your hometown itself is one, then what we are discussing may be that you have stayed in Beijing for a long time and are not used to going back to Shanghai. It's more about climate and humanities, so I won't discuss it here.
It is said that the biggest advantage of big cities over small counties can be simply divided into two types.
1. There are more choices in big cities.
Including the choice of work, the choice of lovers, the choice of consumption and so on. Companies in big cities can differentiate a wide range of jobs with enough scenes because of their developed industries and rich talents, and they will take the lead in experiencing them in developed cities, so many jobs that did not exist before will be derived, such as escort, cobbler, porn appraiser and so on. It means that when you choose a job or are ready to change jobs, you have enough choices, while in the county, you may only be assimilated into a limited position.
The same is true of love. When you meet people with different degrees in big cities, you will have more space to find the right one. Small counties, relatively fixed villages, may just be a word from the matchmaker.
Not to mention consumption, every district in a big city basically has at least one shopping center, which integrates shopping, entertainment and catering. Just ordering takeout, you have much more choices than the county seat.
2. Big cities are efficient.
Maybe you will say, there are many people and cars in big cities, so how can efficiency be high? On the contrary, it is precisely because there are many people in big cities, offices have to derive efficient business processes, and poor services and systems are more easily exposed in big cities, so gradually, big cities will become more and more formal, and combined with online development, offline workload will be more released. However, small towns are not. What they do in the wasteland is unruly. This is not unreasonable. The more isolated the environment, the more likely it is to create a small circle. Everything depends on relationships, which is more likely to happen in small towns.
You already have the adaptability of your living environment. If you go back to your hometown in the countryside for a while and then go back to the city, you will be uncomfortable.
I have worked for three years, and I like the living environment and working atmosphere there very much. Although I am tired and stressed, I have hope and freedom. But I am an only child, and my mother is in poor health and worried about my lifelong events. Even coaxed and cheated to play the family card and finally returned to my hometown in the fifth and sixth tier cities.
The above is the background, and then I will talk about my feelings about my hometown after I come back.
First of all, there is no nightlife. Summer is better. There is no one in the street at seven o'clock in winter. Watching TV with my parents at 7: 30 in the evening is boring enough. I want to go out for a walk. My mother asked me what was unsafe to go out at night! Is 7: 30 an important night? Still not safe? I'm a man, okay?
Then the city is too small, but shopping is very convenient. There are only a few shopping malls, and nothing has changed since leaving home. I visited them all in half a day. The advantage is that shopping saves time and effort. There is no choice in one or two big shopping malls one or two blocks away. I would like to thank Ma Yun. Without him, I, the young people in this town, want to be extravagant. The disadvantage is that I get tired of visiting a few times and have no choice.
It also has the same common problems as other small cities. There are few young people. During the day, it is old people who wander in the streets and buses. They have nothing to do except sit around with free bus cards for the elderly every day. They play chess in the park and dance in the square at night. Many of them retired from various institutions and units. As for some older people, they are still working to earn living expenses. I'll talk about the reason later.
Now let's talk about work. It is estimated that many friends are paying attention, and I am most distressed now.
When I first came back, my family urged me to find a real job. What? Are you serious about your work? Later, I learned that working in the system of civil servants in my hometown and state-owned enterprises or institutions is called serious work, and other jobs are called part-time jobs. I just came back from a big city and have been talking about office work. Of course, I won't compromise. After I refused my parents to spend money and exercise to find a job, I began a long journey of finding a job. After more than two months of job hunting, I finally know why working in my hometown is so popular and why civil servants have a sense of superiority.
At the beginning, finding a job in Shanghai always followed the routine, such as surfing the Internet, job fairs and recruitment newspapers. As a result, I found that the recruitment information you saw this month is still there next month, and even after a year or two, the recruitment information has not changed. Later, I realized that these long-term recruiting companies basically regard recruitment as an advertisement, and recruiting people is also a basic salary system. If they can't achieve the performance required by the company, there is no salary at all, so the more employees, the better.
Later, I interviewed several companies that looked ok, and they were all the same. I will probably introduce it to you below.
Most of the working hours are from 8: 00 to 8: 30, and from 5: 00 to 5: 30 after work. Most of them don't work overtime, and they have two days of paid rest every month (you are not mistaken, it is paid rest, and the daily salary is calculated according to the average of 30 days in a month, so your two days of rest will be paid by the company, which belongs to the benefits given to you by the company. All holidays are open (except the Chinese New Year, which usually takes about seven days off). Five insurances and one gold? Tell you confidently, don't mention it to me I am not a civil servant here, nor a public institution, nor do I have these things. Then I will draw cakes with you and tell you what the company will be like in the future. You just got back from outside, right? If you don't go to Shanghai, the treatment will be the same. (Illness) Start ... A good company is one that tells you that it has done a good job one year later (quite a few will tell you that it failed to meet the company's requirements one year later, or continued to work hard for one year, or left the company).
After Duolun's attack, I finally understand why my parents want me to take the civil service exam, and even try to spend money to arrange a job, because there is really no suitable job except within the system. Let me analyze it for you.
In this small city with five or six lines, the average income is 2,000 to 3,000 yuan, and five insurances and one gold are generally not paid outside the system. 20 18, the minimum old-age insurance is 6688 yuan, which is already two or three months' salary, and the medical insurance for employees is nearly 3000 yuan, so basically everyone has paid 2 10 medical insurance for urban residents. Everyone knows the proportion of medical insurance reimbursement, so a serious illness can still destroy a family. Many people have to pay endowment insurance. After all, they all want to have security when they are old, but looking at their poor income, they just want to tighten their belts and pay the lowest grade in fifteen years, which is also the reason I mentioned above. Many retired people in the system go for a walk in the park every day. Which one of these people retires is not three or four thousand yuan, which is completely enough in this small city, and it will save a lot of money to subsidize children every year. Ordinary people tighten their belts for fifteen years, retire with hundreds of thousands of poor pensions, and have to take another job to support themselves (not to mention that their children are unfilial and tired when they are alive), so they will see old cleaners in hospitals, properties and so on. , 1120 a month, right, 20 18 1120 a month, everyone is still scrambling to do it.
The above is the reality, and I am helpless. Of course, I finally got a job. Although there is no guarantee, I have two days off every month, but I have to "do as the Romans do" and can't stay at home all the time. What can I say after work? I found that everyone had no enthusiasm for work when they were in Shanghai. Everyone is working steadily, no hurry or slow. At first, I was very active. Later, I found that the more active I am, the better I will work, because the work is not as good as you think. There are many other jobs. You can do it, right? All right! Other jobs that don't belong to you will be pushed to you. As the company accountant said, my job is 30% accounting and 70% odd jobs. Overtime is generally not available, even if it is occasionally overtime, there is no overtime pay, and there is no hope of promotion if you work hard. Even if you are promoted, your salary will increase by 200 yuan to 300 yuan. The boss still thinks you are very kind to me, so I just muddle along like everyone else. People often complain that after working for a month, the salary is not as high as others. Indeed, the wages of many grandmothers in the park are around 4,000 yuan, all of which are retired by a certain unit. Drink tea and read newspapers when you are young, sing and dance when you are old, and then find relationships to arrange your children into the system so that the younger generation will have no worries. There is also an old man whose retirement salary is nearly 5,000 yuan, but it is still too small, because he has to give his son more than 2,000 yuan a month, but sometimes he says that the treatment is good. After all, he has worked in his post for more than 20 years without going to work, and he is satisfied. Yes, many aunts and grandmothers work temporarily or take sick leave. They still pay insurance after not going to work for more than ten or twenty years, and spend it with the old-age insurance that our young people have worked so hard to save. I wonder if the old pension will collapse?
This is what I have seen and heard in my hometown over the years. Living in this unrelated town is very tiring, and it is impossible to get rich after a lifetime of hard work, because good jobs and projects are reserved for our own people. So far, I am still working without any security, so it is impossible to go. I have parents and children in the world, so I can only try my best to live, not asking for more, just asking to live less tired.
What I often think now is that when the child grows up, she will never be kidnapped by her family like me again. I don't want to live that life, so let her live a free life.
First-tier cities rely on themselves! Live the truth! Hometown, one-year-old strange relatives are at sixes and sevens: I can't see that you are better than them! All kinds of idiots write and direct themselves, forcing you to listen to him suddenly! Go back to the village for the New Year! Everyone in the village said that they earned 1.86 million a year! But I don't have a house or a car, and I said I would borrow money from my family to buy Magotan. I said my salary is very low! You earn so much a year, I want to borrow some money from you for a big house. I've been driving Mercedes! All right! Rich villagers, I don't understand
I really asked the foreigners who work in my unit that they have integrated into the city life, and the young people in their hometown have gone out to work. Basically, the elderly are very sad. Only when I go home for the New Year, I can't live in the countryside at ordinary times. Maybe their parents will die and never go back.
I'm really not used to it. I am not in a first-tier city, but I have returned to my hometown. I want to go out with my friends and ask where to go at night. The other people's answer is: this supermarket is closed and there is no place to shop.