There are a lot of people who love each other, but not all of them are able to hold hands and enter the marriage hall. Some people are just suitable for love and not suitable for marriage, long couples have to meet some of the basic requirements, otherwise, even if barely married will be difficult to have a long and happy life.
One, each other is a friend to talk to.
As a husband and wife, the most basic should be a friend, and should be a good friend or know, unless you are just purely physical sense of succession type of husband and wife, otherwise even the relationship between friends are not up to how to do husband and wife, even if reluctantly done husband and wife will not last.
Two, have **** the same life values.
Things come together, friends should be in the world of life and value of the world have a basic understanding of the same, at least each other default each other's life values, otherwise how to do friends?
Friends and so on, couples to live together for a long time, of course, more have to have *** with the same life values. Couples pursuing life and life goals are not consistent, there are serious differences in the view of things, how to carry on the marriage?
Three, each other can fully understand trust.
Understanding each other is the basic premise of interpersonal communication, and to be a husband and wife, understanding is of course the most basic to do. The other side does not understand each other, the other side of the family background, education, character temperament, personality traits, habits and so on, all of these should be fully understood, at least have a basic understanding.
Understanding of course is far from enough, after understanding, if you can accept these things you understand, you also have to fully trust each other, no trust there is no interaction, couples especially so.
Four, easy to communicate with each other in case of trouble.
Between people, of course, it is inevitable that there will be some problems and conflicts, couples of course, and because every day together, the possibility of friction and conflict is also greater. Conflicts are not terrible, the terrible thing is that they can not communicate with each other and let the conflict develop and intensify to an unmanageable point, so do a couple of an important and basic requirement is to be able to communicate with each other easily.
Fifth, each other have dedication and sacrifice spirit.
Husband and wife is a typical combination of rights and obligations, but get things and you pay for things will not always be proportional, and can not be completely equal. One spouse will always give more, while the other may give less, and as a couple you certainly can't be calculating and have a spirit of dedication and sacrifice.
No one owes anyone in the marriage, and there is no difference between high and low, willing to sacrifice to pay is also one of the basic elements of the couple.
Sixth, each other can do tolerance.
People make mistakes, people have shortcomings, husband and wife due to close contact, more able to find mistakes and shortcomings, so as a husband and wife should have a tolerant heart, can correctly and rationally look at each other on the shortcomings and mistakes made, neither fault-finding nor unprincipled connivance.
Tolerant of small and insignificant shortcomings and mistakes, to help each other correct the big mistakes and shortcomings, husband and wife to make progress together.
Seven, the interest should be able to basic similarity.
People have their own aspirations, but couples should maintain the basic consistency of interest in the interest of the same viewpoints can be generally the same, the only way to be consistent and will not go further away or even centrifugal separation. The basic interest in order to live together for a long time, the appearance of separation of the couple can not be happy.
Eight, each other can firmly support each other.
Marriage is different from the important point of love is that marriage has to face more real-life pressures and problems, marriage is also more tedious and even boring, and therefore encountered difficulties and problems are much more.
Whether it is a wife or a husband, whether in life or at work, will encounter some unforeseen difficulties, which is not terrible, the key is to be able to get each other's firm support. If you retreat at the first problem, this is even worse than a friend, the future of married life will not be able to go on.
Nine, accept each other's families.
Many young lovers are often prone to overlook this point, thinking that marriage is a private matter between two people, and can be disregarded without any other consideration, which is of course a kind of naive romanticism.
Marriage is a matter of two young people, but also both parents and the two families, couples in addition to each other's love, but also must be able to accept each other's families, if you simply can not tolerate each other's parents family of some of the actions, and they can not do without asking you about your business, then your future married life will be a lot of trouble.
Ten, there is a basic material economic basis.
Suitable for love is not the same as suitable for married couples, because marriage in addition to the romantic more is the reality of life, there is no certain material economy as the basis for married life is impossible to carry on, so two too much with the artist temperament of the people may not be suitable for married couples, because they are very likely to be immersed in the romantic art of life and do not know such as the road to live and The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.