A father, who thinks he is knowledgeable, who thinks he is tolerant and right.
A son, who thinks he can face it, who thinks he can tolerate it.
Yet the father did not recognize and did not want to recognize. The son. Beyond himself.
When two men meet, there is bound to be a war. And the war will only result in being the son getting hurt, because the son is not yet capable of proving himself, not yet capable of earning wealth and rewards for his family through his own efforts. Thus. The father, like all parents in the world, enjoys the perfect excuse of "there is no such thing as a bad parent".
The father thought that the son is the son, I gave birth to you raised you, you have to be obedient to me. As for the son's advice and ideas that are all bullshit, is the backlash. So with his own strong, continue to prove that he is very knowledgeable, very tolerant, very right. So the son was hurt again ......
The son thought that his father should not be a father but a brother. It is important to listen to one's own advice, to be able to believe in one's son, to see his strengths, to dare to face the fact that he has grown up, and to go with the flow, not to pull the rug out from under him. But the son didn't meet the father he imagined. The son is 18 years old and is not yet capable of proving himself, so the son has to put up with all the ways of his "very knowledgeable, tolerant, rightly so, intoxicated by the perfect excuse of 'there is no such thing as a bad parent'" father.
The father was impatient with his "grown-up" son. But the son himself knows that he has never been a child in front of outsiders. He just didn't want to hide himself perfectly at home.
On the contrary. The son is not happy with his "self-righteous" father. But the father himself knows that he doesn't want his son to be incapable of taking on this social responsibility, and he doesn't want his son to suffer the same kind of harm and take the same kind of detours in society that he did.
Two men, one war.
The son thought he was hurt manifested on the outside. The father was hurt pain in his heart.
As a result, what we see is always the son getting hurt.
The father is thinking, "The son is smart and wise. He is beyond me. So I believe he can understand my pain as a father. Maybe my current education method is wrong, but my son will surely forgive me and understand me. Son! Forgive your father's indifference, and years later, you will understand that your father loves you!"
The son was thinking, "I am afraid that such a father will only wait until his son is standing on a high building and wants to commit suicide. Only then will he be able to reflect that there is something wrong with his parenting style, not that there is something wrong with his son!"
But since the son is smart and wise. So the first sentence of the son's idea is wrong, so all the assumptions are not valid. So the son learns to be silent. He keeps on perfecting himself, he wants to prove himself, he wants to prove that all the words of his father will be untenable in himself!
So many years later, when the son succeeds, both the father and the son have their own ideas about the reasons for the son's success.