Mingming's parents both work in the company. After Mingming went to primary school, Mingming's mother decided to return to the workplace, so she took Mingming to her grandparents' home in her hometown. When I lived with my parents, I was obviously a lovely child and very obedient. After sending Mingming back to his hometown, sometimes he can only see his children once a month. In this way, 1 year has passed. Once when the child was on holiday, the child was taken back to his parents. Just one day, a guest came to the house with a little girl about the same age as Mingming. Mingming's mother asked Mingming to play with her sister for a while. Unexpectedly, Ming Dow said, "She is so ugly that I don't want to play with her." This made Mingming's parents very embarrassed, but they didn't think much about it, just as the child's unintentional words.
Who knows that not long after, when walking in the community, I clearly saw the neighbor's children playing with a toy car and even said, "Can you drive?" There will be an accident sooner or later. "When I saw the cleaning aunt coming, I rushed to the cleaning aunt and said, You are so dirty, stay away from me." This sentence makes Mingming's mother feel scared. Why do you talk so badly when you are so young? Nothing like what a naive child said. Obviously, it was never like this before, and his grandparents were not ugly. Why did it become like this after going back to my hometown for a while?
A child who is mean to others is like a white flower with black spots. Flowers like this will make people feel very disgusted. Under what circumstances, it shows that the child's speech has become ugly and needs timely attention. What are the specific manifestations of bad speech?
What are the specific manifestations of children's sharp words? Attack others' looks
We say that there are no two identical people in the world. Everyone has his own unique personality and unique appearance. We admire beautiful people, but we cannot attack relatively ordinary people. However, children who speak badly often attack ordinary people.
The act of attacking others.
As the article said at the beginning, it is obvious that he will not only criticize others, but also sharply criticize his parents when they do certain behaviors. Mingming's mother once said that the mother of someone in the community danced square dance very well and she wanted to dance. Obviously, he said, "You have poor coordination skills and want to go to the square dance. You can't dance well at all. " This sentence made Mingming's mother suffer a great blow.
Look down on others
Why do children say some ugly things to others? It is precisely because he despises these people. He thinks that ordinary workers and even some service personnel are not worthy of respect, so he uses some ugly words to evaluate their behavior, their appearance and their clothes.
Has your child ever had the above situation? If the children at home have these situations, they must pay attention to them, which shows that the children may have embarked on a wrong path. Parents must find the root cause behind this and guide their children to the right path in time.
Why do naive children talk so hurtful? What is the reason behind this? Causes of children's development (natural)
There is no problem in one situation, which is the characteristic of the child's own growth and development, that is to say, it is the child's nature to speak badly at this time. At the age of three or four, this period is a sensitive period for children's language development. The remarkable feature is that children talk, and they are tough and ugly. This is a necessary stage of children's language development. Children discover their inner feelings by swearing and saying ugly things.
Parents are too arrogant.
In some families, the whole family takes the children at home as the center, doting on children too much and being aloof. Children have developed the bad habit of being supercilious, disrespecting others and being too arrogant. We often see some arrogant rich second generation news on the Internet. These rich second generations are typical manifestations of being spoiled by their parents.
Behavior modeling
A famous person once said that children are the best imitators. Children are born to learn everything from the outside world by imitating the behavior of their parents and others. If there are mean people around, or if the children's parents are like this, the children are likely to learn this bad habit by imitating behavior.
Lack of education
Some parents' own quality or character belongs to a relatively poor category. When educating their children, they don't teach them the quality they deserve. Children don't know what respect is, what is the right way to communicate with others, and what is easy to talk to.
These are the reasons why children speak harshly. It can be seen that, in addition to the characteristics of children's own growth and development, other factors are external factors, not the children's fault. Therefore, parents should adopt the following methods to educate their children and make changes from external factors.
How to educate children in this situation is the most appropriate? Set up a good imitation object
Krupskaya once said, "For parents, family education is self-education first." ? This shows that in order to change children's behavior, parents should first change their children's bad habits of speaking badly and speaking badly, and set up a good imitation object for their children, and children will naturally learn well.
Don't overreact
When a child speaks badly, parents should not overreact, thinking that the child has gone bad at school, severely educating and even insulting the child. When overreacting and eager to reprimand children, children are likely to deliberately oppose their parents. Originally, the child didn't realize where the problem was. After a while, he may not say this, but the overreaction of parents will make the child's behavior more and more serious.
Don't make a fuss
Parents should distinguish between the child's unconscious behavior and some simple imitation. Parents should not take this as a very serious matter, a very big matter, and make great efforts to change and educate their children. At this time, it is necessary to adopt a quiet education method to subtly change children's bad habits.