I have answered many times. One day, just after answering another treasure mother, my son suddenly grabbed me and said seriously, Mom, you still call me a good boy at home.
God, I'm really embarrassed!
However, I found that many precious mothers do the same as me. When people praise our baby for being beautiful and lovely, the first thing that comes to mind is modesty, especially praising others, which adds a hostile atmosphere. So I didn't think so much. Will the baby be energetic and think that adults are duplicitous?
/BBA 1cd 1 1728 b 47 100378 ca 04 c8 CEC 3 fdfd 0323 a 6？ X-BCE-process = image/resize，m _ lfit，w _ 450，h _ 600，limit _ 1/quality，q _ 85。 The most important thing is that China lacks inspiration and education, and children also need it. When someone praises her, if she always denies it, the child may become a little arrogant after a long time. And it's not good to compare the baby with others.
Since then, I have developed a mind. Before others praise my family first, I will praise the beauty of other people's babies first, and then see how alert Ma Bao is to the answer. Then finally locked in a normative mystery?
What kind of experience is it to have a beautiful baby who is often praised by others?
I believe that many parents have the experience of taking their babies out and being praised by others, so how to answer others' praises?
China is a traditional modest country, and modesty has become an essential quality for all. Therefore, when others praise their babies, many parents will humbly say, "No, they are actually very naughty." In the eyes of adults, this is a virtue of modesty, but in the eyes of babies, it is a denial and distrust of babies. Sooner or later, it will make babies feel that their parents are duplicitous and have a certain impact on their values.
/C2 CEC 3 fdfc 039245 16 e 2d 6 c 78 c 94 a 4c 27 c 1 e25 a 6？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 Yuan Yuan's daughter is very beautiful, just like Xiao Pufu. Every time Yuan takes her daughter out, there are always some people who praise her for her beauty. At first, my mother-in-law was superstitious, saying that such an answer would make the baby uglier and ruin the beauty of the baby. She also said that when others praise her daughter, she must be modest, so that the baby can grow more beautiful, so when others praise her daughter again, Yuanyuan will say, "That's it, it's actually very naughty."
Once, however, Yuan Yuan took her daughter to the mall and met her middle school classmates. When the students saw their daughter, they all praised her for her beauty. Yuanyuan just said modestly, "No, no, it's very skinny." But Yuanyuan had just finished speaking, and her daughter was very wronged and said, "Mom praised me for my beauty last night." Seeing her tearful eyes, Yuanyuan was sad and embarrassed. Since then, Yuanyuan has learned the essence. She sees that others usually praise other people's children first, and then answer them with high IQ. So far, this embarrassing scene has been avoided.
Nowadays, babies eat well and are beautiful.
However, Yuan Yuan learned the general answer from a mother with a high IQ: "Now babies eat well and look beautiful." This answer is simply a universal formula.
Yes, today's children are very beautiful, not only praising other people's children, but also affirming the advantages of their own babies, so as not to make them feel wronged or disappointed. In fact, the baby wants to be encouraged and affirmed by his parents. If you blindly ignore the baby's mood for your so-called modesty, it will make the baby self-doubt and easily make the baby lose self-confidence, so please don't hurt the baby when others praise your baby in the future. You can use "Now the baby is eating very well"
However, I have made up my mind. In the face of unfamiliar people, I will give the following official reply. But in the face of acquaintances-the baby is beautiful, he follows his mother. Ha ha laugh
Of course, in teaching children. We should correctly guide children to accept recognition, and we should appreciate the recognition of others.
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When we take our children out, there will always be people who praise them as handsome and beautiful. Hearing this, we basically answer: thank you. Later, my mother-in-law said that I was too indifferent and enthusiastic, so I changed my answer: What's there to see? Too naughty. Look at your children. Cute and clever, I feel so enthusiastic. But I have answered it many times. I had just finished answering another baby's mother when my son took me.
In life, this kind of situation often happens. Friends praise your children. If you answer that this is not nonsense, people may think that you are bragging and not modest at all. If you answer that the child is not good-looking, the child will be unhappy.
Different people say different things, and compliments are definitely different. I've seen it many times. Ma Bao's friend said that the child was not good-looking, but the child turned around and grabbed her and said seriously, Mom, you still said that I am handsome at home! At that time, adults and children could only laugh it off.
China has regarded modesty as a virtue since ancient times, but it also lacks encouraging education for children. However, children often like to be affirmed and everyone likes to be praised. If your child is praised, you deny it. In the long run, children may become very inferior.
There are also many parents who like to compare their children with other people's homes. Children are generally disgusted with this, which is easy to cause their inferiority and rebellious mentality.
Let's see how moms will react.
@ Yue Quan: Every time I take my niece out, I always meet people who are familiar or unfamiliar and praise my girl for her good looks, but I always add that she is not like you. Are there many daughters like my father? Isn't this calling me ugly in disguise?
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@ Yuhuanya: If a treasure mother praises my baby for being beautiful, I will say that they are all the same, and your child is beautiful!
Generally speaking:
First, looks are given by parents, and praise will make the baby look beautiful and get something for nothing.
Second, the praise for the baby should be specific, and you can boast that the baby looks good when it smiles; You can boast that your baby's teeth are so white. You must brush your teeth often. You can praise your baby's eyes. You must protect them. Of course, your baby can sit still and learn to stand and walk? These are all learned by the baby through his own efforts, which is commendable.
Third, the beauty of the soul is the real beauty. Let the baby know from an early age that the beauty of the soul is the real beauty. By reading story books, watching news together, being polite, being polite, and participating in volunteer activities, the baby can correctly understand the beauty of the soul.
/BD 3 15c 6034 a 85 EDF 1 dcfc 9 EB 42540923 DC 5475 b 2？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85. From then on, I grew up. Before others praise my family, I will praise other people's babies for their good looks, and then I will see how other baby mothers respond tactfully. Finally locked in a standard answer?
This answer is really a sign of high IQ. Modesty at the same time, but also admitted the beauty of their own baby, really low-key high-profile But also suitable for any occasion. Some people boast that children are dolls, and the longer they are, the better they look. At this time, you replied: Now that the children are eating well, everyone is beautiful, and your family is more lovely. This not only expresses modesty, but also flatters others successfully. People must be very happy.
But I've already thought about it. In the face of unfamiliar people, I will give an official answer like the above. But in the face of acquaintances-it is normal for the baby to look good, follow the mother. Parents should also learn to praise other children in front of their children, so that children can feel that not only she is praised, but everyone will be praised, so there is nothing special about "being praised by themselves", and other children also have excellent places.