The disadvantage of being too real is that each of us has a different life, but not all of us live the life we yearn for, and we will always encounter various problems in life. The following are shortcomings that are too real.
Too real shortcomings 1 first, sweet-cheer for yourself.
Just because others took advantage of your honesty, and you don't want to tell others, you can only sulk and make yourself happy. This will affect your mood, whether dealing with people or doing your own work, it will make you feel powerless and inefficient. So don't be too honest, lest you end up angry with yourself!
Second, extreme-will affect your decision.
Honest people are the easiest to go to extremes, and once they go to extremes, it will affect your decision. So, don't be too honest. Be tactful when it's time to be tactful. This is for the final result and personal safety. If you are blindly pinned down by others, you will inevitably get yourself into more trouble because of your honesty!
Third, being bullied-becoming the target of others.
This is why people are good at being bullied. You are so honest that everyone wants to bully you. Because everyone wants to pinch the soft persimmon, once the people around you agree with you, it will make you the goal of everyone, then the bullied people will have no desire to survive. This will be the biggest blow to you. Be careful and be honest!
Fourth, procrastination-it will waste your time.
An overly honest person will be obsessed with a problem, because he can't figure it out and is afraid to argue with the other party, which will eventually waste more time and delay more work. Therefore, you can't be too honest, you must be generous, and you can put it down when you should, and you can always hold it. In the end, you will lose even worse and lose more thoroughly!
Fifth, inferiority complex-affects your mental health.
Honesty is a good thing, but it is used by others, which does not meet the inner expectations of honest people, so it will make honest people feel inferior. In severe cases, it will endanger people's mental health. Honesty is ok, but don't be too honest, because it will make you feel inferior and affect your principles of dealing with people. I hope I can get your attention!
Disadvantages of being too real 2. Too sincere, easy to get hurt.
Should a person be sincere?
It should be, but I think everything is measured. You can be sincere, but don't be too sincere. Don't let people with a heart take advantage of your sincerity.
"Compare your heart with others" is a principle that many people believe in when dealing with people. After all, only by making friends with your heart can you get the attention of others. Only when you are unprepared for people and ignore the "sincerity" of the occasion will you become the most vulnerable one, thus affecting your cognition of others.
Therefore, in my opinion, being sincere with others is absolutely the first priority, but being too sincere will only make you vulnerable.
It is good to be honest with others, but if your sincerity is too sincere and you are unprepared, your sincerity will only give your weakness to the enemy.
As the saying goes, "one should not show off one's wealth", but some people just can't bear to be wary of the people around them. They always tell all their family background, which seems to be sincere communication with others, in exchange for sincerity with your attitude and mine. But in the eyes of a willing heart, your exposure is just to find trouble for yourself.
There are also some people who are sincere to others, regardless of the occasion, and say something from the heart. If someone asks them to talk about their shortcomings, he can list a lot of problems. Holding me in my arms is just because I think you are good, but in the eyes of people with bad relationships, it is just to lose face.
So friends didn't take it for granted. They don't make friends with sincerity, but make enemies with sincerity.
So, whatever your purpose is, don't be too sincere, especially when you don't know each other well enough.
Being sincere to others is a good thing, which shows that you are virtuous and willing to treat others well, but excessive sincerity can only show that you are unprepared for others. If you are used by a willing heart, you can only lose yourself.
In my opinion, no matter how natural you are, you should also pay attention to some sincere skills.
First of all, you should learn to judge others. The most important factor in judging is time. There may be fewer sheep in wolf skin, but less doesn't mean no. When a person is kind to you, don't rush to tell the whole story, you can consider telling it first. Only by learning to judge a person's quality can your efforts become valuable. Sincere feelings can stand the test of time, and a person worthy of communication will not leave quickly because of your reservation.
Secondly, we should choose different treatment methods according to different objects. "Telling lies to everyone" not only means that a person is duplicitous, but also means that he knows have it both ways. For a stranger you just met, all you have to do is to be vigilant and observe carefully. For a friend who has been in contact for a short time, all you have to do is protect your important privacy and associate with him. For a long-time confidant, you can make friends with him, but you should also consider this person's personality.
Finally, don't give blindly, and know how to give up when you can't get it. A person who is willing to be friends with you will not be unresponsive when you pay, nor will he keep all of himself when you are sincere, so no matter who you get along with, don't give up blindly when you can't get it, and don't force each other when you can't be friends.
Summary:
In my opinion, the most hypocritical way to treat people is to change some existing facts intelligently, which seems perfect, but in the eyes of others, you just don't want to expose you.
Most of the friends you make with false feelings are insincere, so don't worry about the friendship you get by cheating someone. However, being too sincere with others is also a taboo. When you don't know someone well, you will show them your hidden wounds. You think this is your sincere performance, but it is just another joke in life in the eyes of others.
People who know you won't stay away from you because you don't tell your own story, because they understand that this is just a way for you to heal yourself. People who don't know you will always want to tap the value of your life, and when the value runs out, that is, when you leave.
People are always lonely, so we want to find a partner who can accompany us through the journey of life. High-quality solitude is better than low-quality companionship with our friends.
People who have a sincere heart are the kindest and the most vulnerable. There is nothing wrong with your kindness and sincerity. What is wrong is that you don't have a good grasp of the scale and let others regard your sincerity as a consumable.
So in my opinion, being too kind is easy to get hurt. You should learn to protect yourself, protect your sincere heart and entrust him to the person you should entrust.
Disadvantages of being too real 3 Why do people who are too real often get along badly in the workplace?
As the saying goes, if the water is clear, there will be no fish, and if people look at it, there will be no disciples! Many people in this society would rather listen to good words than truth. Because the truth is often unpleasant to hear, many people don't want to hear it.
Li Shimin in the Tang Dynasty was a wise monarch, and Wei Zhi, the minister, was a man who dared to make suggestions. Wei Zhi always goes against Long Yan's outspoken persuasion; Sometimes the emperor was particularly angry, but Wei Zhi kept his face calm and the emperor calmed down.
Li Shimin once got a good kite, put it on his arm, saw Wei Zhi coming, and hid it in his arm. Wei Zhi deliberately played for a long time, and the kite finally suffocated in the emperor's arms. Wei Zhi dared to give advice, and to tell the truth, he benefited from meeting such a wise gentleman as Li Shimin!
As the famous founding emperor of the Tang Dynasty, Li Shimin was open-minded, good at listening to various suggestions from ministers and attached importance to talents. If we had met other emperors, Wei Zhi might have been killed. Numerous ministers in history were executed by the emperor for daring to tell the truth, and many cases were recorded in the history books.
Therefore, after Li Shimin's death, Wei Zhi still kept his own style, dared to make suggestions and offended many people, so the ending was tragic!
Xiao Shenyang was a big corrupt official in Qing Dynasty. He is good at reading the mind of Emperor Qianlong, and he is proficient in everything, talking with people and talking nonsense. Although Emperor Qianlong knew little Shenyang was corrupt, he entrusted him with a heavy responsibility when he was in office, trusted him very much and was unwilling to kill him. Therefore, the corrupt official Xiao Shenyang mixed well, made the officialdom proud by various means, and the shopping mall earned a lot of money.
Later, when Qianlong died and Emperor Jiaqing ascended the throne, he quickly copied the home of Xiao Shenyang and found a lot of gold and silver treasures and huge amounts of silver. It can be said that the greedy are extremely rich. But for Xiao Shenyang, he has enjoyed the splendor, status, beauty and official position for most of his life, and he already has everything he needs.
Therefore, the ancients said that advice when most needed is least heeded is good for action! The ancients all know, no matter in the workplace or officialdom, don't be too serious, and it is the last word to take part in accidental amusement!
Of course, if you mix this method for a long time, you may feel very tired, and more and more feel that you are not really yourself. Everything I said didn't come from my heart and true meaning. Everything is just to cater to my boss, my superiors and others, so that my boss, superiors and others like me and integrate into this money society.
Maybe I really want to be my true self, but it's hard to live according to my true self.
It is clearly a good word from others, but others find it ugly;
What you obviously do is good for others, but others think you must have ulterior motives;
Obviously you are honest with others, but others think you are a fool, easy to bully and trample on your dignity at will.
I have to wonder if I did something wrong. It's hard to be a real person.
Why are people in the workplace so impetuous and unreal now?
Now it is a commercial society, and the essence of business is value exchange. In this process, it is inevitable that some people will speculate and cheat.
Some people say that I don't want to change myself and do things I don't like for this society! However, people in rivers and lakes sometimes can't help themselves!
Xiao Lu went to work in an enterprise soon after graduation. One day, his boss designed a work for customers and asked for their opinions. Everyone says that the design is so perfect that customers will definitely like it. The leadership is too powerful for us to design such a work.
Xiao Lu saw it and said that the design of the leader was pretty good, but it lacked originality and originality. Mr. Wang of the other party wants creative product design, which may not meet the needs of customers and has to be redesigned!
When other colleagues heard Xiao Lu's words, they suddenly became silent, and their superiors were embarrassed. Fortunately, the superior leader was generous and hurried around. They gave him a meaningful look. Well, what Xiao Lu said is very reasonable. I ignored it. In the future, everyone should learn more from Xiao Lu. Thanks for reminding me!
Everyone else is worried about Xiao Lu. It is true that newborn calves are not afraid of tigers and have never met a pit. Sure enough, Lu Xiao took fewer and fewer projects, and occasionally the tasks assigned to him were leftovers left by other colleagues, and Lu Xiao was gradually marginalized. He paid a heavy price for his truth!
This phenomenon is also a common problem that many newcomers, who have just graduated from college and just entered the workplace, are prone to make. In fact, they mean no harm, just like to express their true thoughts, but they often lack expression skills. Therefore, you often get bruised and bruised. After experiencing some things, you will slowly learn to change yourself, but you may also slowly lose your true self and live unhappy!
In fact, being true to yourself in the workplace can still get along well. You just need to pay attention to the way of communication. Before expressing your true thoughts, think about whether the other party will be unhappy and whether there is any risk. Can you put it another way, so that you can express your true thoughts without offending others, and the other party will feel that their suggestions are very helpful to you, instead of just making trouble, so that the other party can thank themselves!
In short, my heart is full of positive energy, I pay attention to expression in the workplace, and I think more. I believe I can be myself and get along better in the workplace!