The TV series "marriage between the two of us" has a classic line: "Love and marriage are not the same, love is only two people, but behind the marriage is a lot of people. Love can afford to lose, marriage can't." And in marriage, there is a biggest obstacle, that is the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The real relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law starts from the time of menstruation.
Famous writer Ye Xuan for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has this exposition: "between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law there is no really difficult to solve the knot, if you don't like her to do the meal, fewer mouths to pretend to look, and turn around to go out and quietly buy some like to eat to fill the stomach; if you don't like to listen to what she said, the left ear into the right ear out, when you are intermittent deafness. ." In fact, life is like this, more tolerance, there will be more peace, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be more comfortable with each other.
Linlin and Zhikang are university students, but their hometowns are in different places, and they stayed in the city where the university is located after graduation, and Zhikang's hometown is a bit closer to here, but Linlin is different, and her hometown is far away from here.
Now the two have made their own little world in the local area, and there is no preparation to go back to their hometown, they plan to put down roots in the local area, partly for the sake of their future, and partly for the sake of their two children to have a higher starting point in the future.
So the two married these years are frugal, and then in the two families **** the same support, coupled with the two together with the savings, finally enough to make a down payment, bought a house, but also successfully tied the knot.
But the two of them did not live long in the world of two people, mother-in-law came uninvited, mother-in-law to also have her reasoning, she said to come to see his son, live down a few days on the go, but in fact, the heart is to follow his son came to the big city to enjoy the blessings.
After all, she did pay for the house, and she does have the right to live there. Linlin is also a sensible girl, although her mother-in-law came to live together after a lot of contradictions, but Linlin did not capriciously tell her husband to let her mother-in-law go back to her hometown, and she tried to accommodate her mother-in-law's habits, and Linlin is a good-tempered girl, and this can only be made to let the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together under the same roof.
But even a good-tempered person can't stand the laziness of her mother-in-law, who is not only lazy, but also mercenary, and has very unhygienic living habits. She often takes Linlin's skincare products without asking for them as if she doesn't need the money to smear them on her face, and often steals Linlin's clothes to go square dancing, and doesn't have the habit of wearing slippers when she enters the house. No matter what it is, as long as her mother-in-law spends the money, she will look for Linlin to reimburse her.
This is also not a problem, Linlin and her husband usually eat breakfast is basically outside the solution, noon, then in the company point takeout solution, so usually the two will give the mother-in-law some of the cost of living, so that the mother-in-law casually outside the solution, the evening family dinner time in the get a bit of porridge to eat a little bit of food on the line.
The mother-in-law did just that, and in the evening she really did cook a pot of congee with a little bit of squash to make up for the meal. The fact that Linlin thinks it's okay, after all, girls lose weight, but Zhikang can't stand it, and began to complain to his own mother, and it is true that the son's appeal is still useful, the mother-in-law finally the next day, simple cooking some meals, but there is also a prerequisite, that is, to let the son doubled the cost of living.
At first, Linlin was surprised that her mother-in-law was so realistic about her son, asking for money before she would work, but then she thought about it and balanced herself out, because her mother-in-law wasn't just harsh on Linlin, she was harsh on her son too.
Later, Linlin got pregnant, and her mother-in-law was very happy, and she made a special effort to report the pregnancy to her father-in-law in her hometown, and Linlin told her mother-in-law what she was going to do.
Linlin said, "Grandma, in the future, the child and I will need you to take care of, Zhikang and I are both busy at work and can't get away from people, so I don't think I need you to take care of me when I'm pregnant, at least not until I'm about to go into labor, but after that, I will need to take care of you during the month of pregnancy and bring up the child."
Linlin knew that her mother-in-law was lazy, so she added that her mother-in-law would be paid according to the standard of a nanny, and would not lose a penny, but she wanted to start counting from the time she was in her own month.
But her mother-in-law felt that menstruation was compulsory labor, and also felt that it was too much trouble to serve a woman in menstruation, and she didn't make it clear at that time, but the little calculations in her heart had already been calculated.
On that night, Linlin gave birth to the child, and when she was a little more awake, she realized that there was no shadow of her mother-in-law around her, only again in her husband alone, Linlin asked her husband to say where her mother-in-law had gone, and Zhikang this stammered: "My mother suddenly told me she was not feeling well, and after you went into the maternity ward in the evening, she dragged her suitcase back to her hometown, and I asked her to I asked her to wait, even to see the child before leaving, but she said she had asked someone to buy a ticket on the Internet, in the night of the station ticket, said tomorrow morning to go to the hospital to register."
With that, the mother-in-law left, leaving Linlin alone. Later, Zhikang called home to report the news, and when his mother-in-law heard it was a girl, she just hung up the phone, which made Zhikang embarrassed, and Linlin saw it in her eyes.
The next day, Linlin also figured it out, and told Zhikang, "The night I gave birth, my mother-in-law rushed to buy a standing ticket for the train to go back overnight, how afraid she was to take care of me, I think she was either sick, or she did it on purpose."
Zhikang couldn't do anything about it, after all, it was the truth, and he couldn't say anything about his mother. Linlin had no choice at the moment, because Zhikang had a job on the line and couldn't take care of herself all the time, Linlin bought a plane ticket and asked her mother to fly over to take care of her. Linlin really couldn't stand the thought of her mother-in-law taking the patriarchal look, she knew that her mother-in-law was going to come over sooner or later, she didn't concede, instead, she called her mother-in-law after she finished her month.
"Granny, your body is really not very good, you just feel a cold to spend a month to recuperate, I and Zhikang are quite distressed you this back and forth boat labor, and troublesome and torturous.
These are the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world who has been in the same position as me, and I'm not sure if I've ever been in the same position before.
And besides, there's no room in the house for you if you come. Anyway, when we are free we will go back to see you, you just put your heart in your stomach, in the old home to heal well, my mom lived in all your things packed up, tomorrow Zhikang will send your things back to you, I guess two or three days to arrive, you remember to receive it then on the line."
Mother-in-law was quite happy when she first heard that her in-laws were helping with the baby, but when she realized that her in-laws were staying in her room, she didn't sound quite right, and when Linlin said that she didn't want her to come back, she showed a hundred degrees of reluctance, but Linlin had already said that, and she couldn't help it, after all, it was her own fault that she said that she wanted to go back to her hometown, and it would be difficult to live there again now. The first time I saw her was when I was a child, and I was not sure if she was a child.
In fact, mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are a family, so can't they help? The matter of sitting on the moon, many people will ask questions: "mother-in-law in the end should not reach out to help?" In fact, the mother-in-law for the daughter-in-law, can help to help, as long as in their own capacity to do their best on it.
The problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, look at the simple point, in fact, you will find that it is also a simple thing.