Three women, one drama, around 10:30pm, the three of us, Yu Yang and Seaweed, finally ended the tea party.
"Sister, I have to go out right now, a friend called to say he was drunk, need me to pick up." Even the bland tone could not hide Yu Yang's leap of joy, and I could see the pink bubbles rising and falling all around her.
Before I could open my mouth, Yu Yang said, "It's the boy who came into the unit with me, Wen, who is drunk and wants me to pick him up."
"It's so late, I'll go with you." I said.
Yu Yang listened to me and called the boy, "My sister in the same dormitory to go with me to pick you up, she does not worry about me, where are you now, we will go over to you."
I thought to myself, "I'm afraid I won't be able to go tonight!
"Huh? You don't want us to pick you up? Then you take care of yourself on the road." Yu Yang hung up the phone, turned around and walked into the room. Seaweed and I then followed suit into her room.
"Yang Yang, I'm telling you clearly, that boy called Wen is not reliable!" Seaweed and I looked at each other in deep thought.
"Sister, you also know that Ah Wen has a girlfriend, and she's quite pretty, I hinted to him before that I don't like to get too close to guys with girlfriends, but he doesn't seem to care." Yu Yang said helplessly, sweeping away the excitement from earlier.
"Then you must avoid being alone with him in the future, especially at night, this kind of unfaithful and unrighteous behavior of his is really unreliable, in the future, even if you break up, you should not be with this kind of person, otherwise you will suffer." I can't wait for Yu Yang to face her situation squarely.
I've seen Wen a few times, he's quite handsome, but so what, he's not a good person, he's a "blue face"!
Seaweed added: "Sister, you are still too young, he obviously wants to play with you ambiguously, and you will be the one who suffers in the future."
Yu Yang: "Sister, I know in my heart, if I confess to him, he will definitely say that I am self-interested, at that time I'm quite embarrassed, now the most upset me is how to let him understand what I really think, it feels like he is always pretending to not understand."
"Then you should stop spoiling him in the future, just pick it out and then just keep a distance from him." I'm really a little anxious.
Yu Yang nodded understandingly.
This matter is considered to have turned the page, however, by this matter, I thought of more. The girl who entered the society, excluding those who have been through things, precocious, life experience is not enough really easy to fall into some full of temptation in the "trap", wasted years, it is regrettable.
The girl who is new to the society is most likely to fall into which traps?
One of the traps: ambiguous love, fall into the emotional spare tire, experience emotional trauma
My friend Xu Ting, is a very important feelings of people, often work outside, the company's home towns will organize gatherings every year, we rely on each other together, you can find the feeling of home.
There is a handsome young man Ma Yue, two years younger than Xu Ting, each party will take the initiative to send Xu Ting home, one to two, Xu Ting heart secretly. The company's website is not yet popular, so it's a good idea to help Xu Ting buy a ticket before going home," he said.
Xu Ting wanted to take their relationship a step further, so she went to the movies with Ma Yue every now and then, and Ma Yue was busy buying tickets and snacks, which was very warm.
Xu Ting, a very straightforward girl, expressed her love for Ma Yue during a QQ chat with him. But Ma Yue's reply made Xu Ting quite hurt, he said, "Sister, you make a fool of yourself, if I really love a girl, I will be very active to chase."
Xu Ting how to refuse to believe that Ma Yue does not like him, enough to pester Ma Yue a year, Ma Yue direct showdown, from the phone turned out his and his hometown girlfriend intimate photos, Xu Ting such as thunder, a long time can not be recovered from the huge gap in the middle.
After a few days, Xu Ting can not help but miss in the sneaky, open qq space to view the horse month's sayings, this time the shock is even more, the original, horse month every show of love are set up permissions, and Xu Ting ambiguous during the time he specifically turned off Xu Ting's view permissions to create their own single scam. The first time I saw this, I was so happy to see you.
Xu Ting, for this relationship before and after the consumption of four years of light, with two years to accept the reality, during the period of Ma Yue also tried to add back to Xu Ting's qq, but was Xu Ting direct refusal.
For most of the girls, the breakup is not bad, the bad thing is that I obviously love you to the depths, but you played with my feelings.
I hope the young girls, can be bright eyes, do not do feelings of spare tire, to find a good cause.
Pitfalls #2: Don't know how to say no and be wiped out by the workplace's "greasy men"
I believe that most of the girls in the workplace have heard this kind of talk at the table, "They're all out of the workplace, and the drinking is a part of the socializing," he said. Girls also need to give the leader a toast to the future."
Many girls have surrendered to the thought of the future, picking up a glass of wine and joining the ranks of drinking.
The workplace is so, once you end up with a glass of wine, as long as the public **** occasions you have to become the banquet indispensable "stimulant", said a little bit hard, a group of old men like to have a young girl drink to cheer up, as a way to comfort their "greasy" and aging. "
This is the first time I've ever seen a woman in the world.
Push the cups between, by the way, touch the girl's hand, pretend to be drunk on the occasion of a girl's waist, do not dare to move their hands to move their mouths, by means of alcohol to molest a few words, but also accounted for the cheap, in the face of all sorts of predicaments, young girls can only be helpless to accept, do not dare to retort, into the passive.
Trap No. 3: Caught in a well-designed deception of married men, was cheated
Excluding the initiative to throw themselves in the arms of the girls do not say that the married man deceived is roughly divided into two cases: one is to hide their own marital history, the girl "was a small three"; The other category is to divorce and true love as an excuse to lure the girl to be fooled.
Before listening to others, there is a department of small leaders and a young female employee under the hands of an extramarital affair, the man's wife in the field, so for a long time did not find the husband's adulterous relationship, how things are exploded?
According to sources close to the matter, the girl was pregnant, and had previously been promised a divorce of the young leader is not willing to divorce at all, and hope that the girl can get rid of the child, they are also willing to pay.
The girl loved like crazy, or would not risk universal condemnation with a married man unmarried first pregnancy, the girl really can not help, chose to force the upper hand, the man looked at the woman has been out of control, showing his true colors, threatened the girl if she continued to force him to divorce, let her back with a stain on the departure.
The girl was completely enraged by these words, wrote a letter sent to the unit executives, helpless executives, although shocked, but the relationship between the hard ah, hard to transfer this little leader away from the other positions have not been punished, the more bizarre is that people's positions do not fall back to the rise of the girl's side can only abort the child, with a small amount of compensation for the spirit of the cost of leaving the office in a sad way.
So, how can a girl who is new to society do a good job of protecting herself?
01 establish a correct view of money, learn to see through the phenomenon of the essence.
A lot of mature women have told us from their own personal experience that some men are not interested in being early, and when someone is attentive to you, you have to recognize your own weight.
Some young girls think they are young and beautiful, bully beautiful, always think that the boys pursuit of them must be true love, in the vanity of the boys under the influence of sugar-coated shells, into the arms of the "love", but you do not know that you thought of the true love is just a bait released to the prey of others.
Smart women, never see a person's true motives, before they lose themselves, "scum is the most impatient", the best role of time is to test the sincerity.
Often this argument, "willing to spend money for you is the true love of men", for men who do not lack of money, this is too good to do, that for the lack of money for men to speak, this is actually not difficult to do, for the girls who are vain, how many can distinguish between genuine and high-fashion? The friend circle camouflage some basically can achieve the same effect.
Comprehensively, the material to give at best only the surface, and the girls are the first to establish a correct "money", rather than be money smashed dizzy.
Self-earnings of their own spending, is every independent girl should do, you have seen enough money, in order to resist the temptation of money, you have not been long-term lack of money, and will not be anxious to get money. Not relying on others to secure a life, you can really take control of your own life and respect your own heart.
Not every girl has the advantage and luck to marry into a rich family, maybe you are just a companion of others who spend money to relieve boredom. My father once warned me, "when you accept a man's gold and silver jewelry at the same time, it means that you want to live with this man ****, if there is no such intention, don't accept, or else take the man's hand is short, and other people let you pay for what, you lose the opportunity to refuse."
02 not in the "danger" in order to eliminate the future.
Many safety education experts have pointed out that "the best way to avoid danger is not to put yourself in danger".
To be honest, the first time I read this, I suddenly found the magic formula for safety - why would I want to go when it means there will be danger? Wouldn't it be foolproof to realize that I shouldn't go before the danger happens?
But a lot of girls take chances, think they're lucky, and put themselves in harm's way without any responsibility. Those girls who get drunk in bars and lie on the street drunk and have their bodies picked up are the ones who are not. They're just taking a chance. The result is a "sheep in the tiger's mouth".
An adult must have a clear understanding of themselves, do not easily challenge the human nature.
03 bravely say "no", do not give each other a chance at the beginning
Many girls who have just embarked on the social, thin skin, do not dare to refuse others, the results of a step back step back, so that they are in a difficult situation. Instead of regretting when things happen, it is better to set a bottom line from the beginning and bravely say "no" to things you don't like.
Our first unit of "Za Sister" Pan sister, just to the unit to participate in a few unit dinners, the table, led by the department of the big leadership "proposal": Pan as a unit of the department of the flower, you should drink, and later on the work of the big help.
All kinds of people heard this sentence, like a chicken blood like asked Pan sister to pour the water, replaced by alcohol.
Sister Pan has long been in the heart of the idea, bluntly said: "I'm allergic to alcohol can not drink, I just came to the unit may be people do not know me too well, I'm a person who never use alcohol to disinfect, so this wine really can not drink." The first time I saw this, I was able to get a good look at it, and I was able to get a good look at it.
There are young girls who really don't want to drink, and they find Ms. Pan to ask for advice.
Sister Pan said: "Do not want to drink, do not drink, directly set out their attitude is not on the line, do not be soft, this kind of thing there is a first time, there will be a second."
"You really do not know how to drink ah?" A girl simply asked.
"I will ah!" With a wry smile, Pan continued to add: "Those who do not know how to drink should practice in private, and those who can drink should practice drinking, so that in case they have to drink to cope with certain occasions, they will not lose their sense of propriety, and they should always stay sober."
This wisdom of saving for a rainy day from Pan is worth learning.
04 cultivate a sense of independence, not gullible.
The vast majority of parents nowadays protect their daughters too well, and many girls simply do not know the world of danger.
Many girls are victimized because they trust others and put themselves in the hands of the devil, which is saddening. This is a terrible thing that is still happening in the world today, and no one can predict who will be next in line for disaster.
In the interaction with people do not "make shallow words deep", always be vigilant, will help you understand the fundamental intentions of others, once found that this person is not good people, do not "lead the wolf into the house", resolutely cut off the contact is the best policy, this time there should be "I'd rather kill 10,000 people by mistake", I hope the girls can abandon the "woman's benevolence", cultivate a sense of independence, not gullible, understand right and wrong, know how to refuse.
05 not rely too much on moral constraints, know how to use the law to protect themselves in critical moments.
Often heard a sentence, "If apologizing is useful, why do you need the police? Not all people follow the morality, when the moral bottom line is broken, only the law can sanction the crime, so we have to believe in the law.
A real report from the media, a woman walking on the road in the middle of the day, suddenly appeared a few strong man, forcibly took away the woman, the woman panicked, crying for help, the criminals said to the unidentified masses of family disputes, a lot of passers-by gave up rescue.
The woman looked at the passers-by do not believe their own, directly in front of a stall smashed to pieces, stall owners how to let her go, determined not to let the woman and a few strong man to leave, so the police for help, the criminals look at the police, fleeing.
Afterwards, the woman told the owner of the store and thanked him for the timely alarm to save themselves, the owner also expressed understanding. After the incident was reported by the media, we have to praise the woman's resourcefulness.
The woman's skillful and indirect use of the law to protect herself is commendable. There are times when evil is evil, and morality ultimately restrains those who have a conscience, and the law is the only thing that can protect us in the true sense of the word.
Protecting yourself is the best way to be responsible for yourself and your family. Every girl has an equal right to experience life, so please cherish this precious opportunity and try your best to blossom, and I wish every girl a wonderful and happy life.
Rose, I hope that there is a road to choose from in life, always growing upwards, longing for the stars and the sea, ordinary and extraordinary.