Near the end of the year, colleagues and friends around me began a new round of anxiety.
My friend willow came to me for comfort from time to time:
"This year passed without doing anything, and there was no deposit. I want to resign. "
"I'm unhappy at work and want to resign, but I'm afraid I can't find a better one. What should I do? "
"I feel so useless. I want to resign and I don't know where to find my next job. "
I don't have any savings. I dare not go to naked resignation, but I'm not interested in my present job. I'm unhappy, but I can't change it. Presumably this is the status quo of many people.
In this case, in fact, we have to split the problem into two points: "I am unhappy at work and want to quit" and "I am afraid I can't find the next job".
2. Measuring the workplace with happiness is the most immature performance.
The purpose of our work is to make money, not to find someone who can make you happy.
It is said that there is no word easy in the world of adults, but happiness is not easy to have.
If you are slightly dissatisfied with your job and want to quit, then we will spend the rest of our lives in high-frequency job-hopping like WeChat games, and it is even more difficult to find a happy job.
We have to admit that measuring the workplace with happiness is the most immature performance.
(1) blx in the workplace
There is a class of people in the workplace called "blx", who always put themselves in the position of victims, and they are unhappy if they disagree.
I always feel that the company's system is unreasonable and unfair, and I don't want to abide by it, so I have rebellious mentality;
Some people are overly sensitive, unhappy with their colleagues, unable to stand a few criticisms from their leaders and feel wronged;
If you don't improve your strength, your mentality will be weak, and the harder you work, the more you will suffer.
The above unhappiness is that self-happiness is not satisfied, unwilling to accept the rules of workplace survival, mentality and behavior are not adjusted well, and they are in a state of passive anxiety and unfairness.
(2) Self-worth
There are still some people who don't like their current jobs, but just think that the work is too boring, repetitive every day, with low self-identity and no self-value in the work.
In fact, this is not something you can solve by changing jobs. There are not many people in this world who are engaged in the work they love.
At the beginning of every job, I start from novelty and do the same thing over and over again. The point is that some people can dig deep into their work fields and settle down to work, and you will naturally fall in love with your work.
Too many people are enthusiastic for three minutes, and after doing it for a month, they say they don't like it or are unhappy. Everyone's time, experience and experience are different, and the fields of work we are exposed to are limited.
Don't judge whether you quit your job by happiness. This negative emotion will affect your work efficiency and make you fall into an endless cycle of unintentional work.
Solving problems with emotions will only add fuel to the fire. So find the source of anxiety.
If it is because their mentality is too pessimistic:
For example, if you are unhappy with your colleagues, then shift your focus to your work. After thinking about it, you will feel that it is no big deal.
It is unhappy to be scolded by the leader. We should think about it. After all, the leader is the one who pays you. Scold it, don't make mistakes next time.
We should try our best to accept negative emotions, gradually recover our reason to control our behavior, and don't let emotions pay for the results.
In addition, if you are dissatisfied with your "self-worth" and unhappy.
I can't resign impulsively, but how to find satisfaction in my work, what shortcomings can I make up, and where is the gap between me and others?
Find the reasons, correct them one by one, and become a better self.
It is always more useful to take the initiative to solve problems than to avoid them!
3, I am afraid that I can't find a job, so I might as well start from these two points.
We have solved the problem of being unhappy and wanting to quit, so let's see what people who are afraid of quitting and can't find a job should do.
When you say the word "fear", you actually reveal your lack of confidence. You know that you are not competent enough, and it is not easy to find a job to support yourself. How can I have the courage to resign?
In addition, if you are afraid of not finding a suitable job, I will teach you two ways:
(1) Ride a donkey to find a horse, leaving a retreat.
If you don't have enough money to live for three months, then I suggest you don't go to naked resignation easily.
If you want to resign, you can ride a donkey to find a horse, pay attention to the right job while going to work, and then resign after receiving an olive branch from the next company.
So that your life can be guaranteed.
Adults should learn to give themselves a way out, and don't let themselves no way back!
(2) Weigh the strength and find a benchmark.
Before looking for a job, you must evaluate your own strength and how much you can be worth in the market.
If your ambition doesn't match your talent, improve your core competitiveness first.
A friend of mine wanted to quit his job six months ago, but he found that the job he wanted was very demanding.
So he immediately reported to the class to learn relevant skills and strive to meet the standards of his favorite company. Last month, he successfully jumped ship and his salary tripled.
So when you feel that you can't find a good job, don't quit or give up on yourself.
Find a goal, for example, if you want to enter a BAT enterprise, then look for requirements and standards in their recruitment information;
Benchmarking yourself, what abilities are lacking, what room for improvement, and at what level;
Make up for the shortcomings, find the gap between yourself and the market, and then improve your ability and core competitiveness through learning.
When you feel confident and capable of changing jobs, then submit your resume. If you have something available, you are not afraid of not finding a job.
Step 4 write it at the end
Everyone will be confused and anxious sometimes, but don't let your emotions make any decisions for you. After all, you are responsible for every move in the adult world.
On Li's birthday, he said, "People don't live to think."
Never ask others what to do next, no one can help you answer, because this is your own life.
Whether you are happy or not, don't resign, weigh it yourself, ask your heart and life path, and every step you take counts.