At the thought of such a problem, I feel at home and a chill rises.
Some netizens said that I lost my parents at the age of 28, one person, one cat and one dog. I'm most afraid of night. I'm afraid that no one will open the door when I go home at night. It seems that loneliness is not all, but the feeling of being abandoned by the whole world!
If this day is bound to come, then what should we do in the next life so as not to feel so lonely and afraid, and what should we rely on to live to feel meaningful?
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Recently, many aunts in their fifties have encountered the problem of pricking their hearts.
Children are unwilling to get married and have children, but they are willing to pursue a more comfortable life and are unwilling to be bound by their families and bear more pressure.
An aunt's son said to her, "Look, Mom, you have raised me so much that you haven't seen any obvious benefits, and you have been worried about me all your life." I have lived with my father all my life, and I have no happiness at all. What's the point of me getting married and having children? "
At that time, my aunt was speechless, and she felt that it seemed reasonable and there seemed to be a problem. After years of urging marriage, my son in his thirties felt that he had his own ideas, and it was useless to talk about it, so he had to go with him.
There are really many such young people now. Everyone is unwilling to follow the old path of their parents. They are willing to eat by themselves, and the whole family is not hungry. There is no need to love and kill another person.
However, they are still vaguely worried about how we, as only children, will live between heaven and earth in the future after our parents leave.
Some friends said they didn't dare to think and didn't want to think. Watching my parents grow old day by day, I just want to spend more time with them and pray silently that they will live to 100.
Some pessimists say that when I want to die alone and can't take care of myself, I will choose suicide or euthanasia.
It sounds really sad. Indeed, parents are a barrier between us and death, and they are also our deepest connection with the world. Without them, we are orphans between heaven and earth, and there is nowhere to go in life, only a boundless way home.
This emptiness and loneliness, from beginning to end, makes people feel that the meaning of existence seems to have disappeared.
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If you really get married and have children, you don't have to face this inevitable sadness?
Maybe, maybe not.
Getting married and having children makes us have a deep connection with two or three other people, rather than the blood relationship after our parents are gone. To some extent, it can dispel some loneliness and emptiness.
However, even a deeply loved couple, one of them will leave first, and even a good child has his own world, and it is impossible to always guard his parents.
This eternal and inevitable emptiness and loneliness in life is something that everyone will face and get used to sooner or later.
The famous philosopher Zhou said that loneliness is the fate of human beings, which is based on the fact that each of us is an accidental existence in this world. From scratch, from scratch, no one or anything can change our destiny. Yes, not even love.
It's as if we fell in love with someone, as if he were the whole world. When one day we lose him, do we lose the whole world? No, we have the world again.
What we have to learn is to strengthen our hearts slowly, forge our ability to be alone, enjoy and dance alone in the process of growing up and maturing.
I agree with a netizen. He said that after my parents leave, I will do what I have never had time to do because of my responsibilities, do all the things that I feel meaningful, feel my unique life journey while walking, and make up for many regrets in my past.
Because I only have myself, I can take a look at the prosperity of the world as Xu sang, instead of "dreaming of traveling around the world with a sword", I should really realize that I have no worries.
I can grow flowers, raise small animals, read books, study the world seriously, and find a fashionable old man to fall in love, sing and dance.
Think about it. Facing the fact that you are destined to be alone in the future, although you are a little scared and occasionally empty, there are still many things to do and many feelings worth experiencing. We don't have to worry or be afraid, just accept it.
Einstein once said that solitude gives you time to marvel, to pursue the truth and to enjoy the sacred curiosity, which makes your life worth living.
Loneliness also has its fullness and richness.
Li Yinhe once said that when a person faces the world physically and mentally, happiness and pain are between his thoughts. If you want to be happy, you will be happy. If you want to be miserable, you will be miserable. Even the feeling of ecstasy can be controlled.
Even if I am the only one left between heaven and earth, I will live my life actively. If I die alone, I will fail my hard-won journey.
If the world is always full of binary paradox, I will always choose the explanation that is beneficial to the meaning of my life for the rest of my life.
When we live a full and thorough life, when we feel the bustling world well, when we walk through the emotional richness and desolation, our life is rich enough without regrets.
At that time, our parents will stand at the end of time and welcome us home with satisfaction.
Don't be afraid, stay true. Enjoy this moment.