My family used to live in the Northeast, and I grew up in an ethnic minority community. Most of the people over there who are obsessed with male superiority are Han Chinese. We always say that when we look at the world, in a patriarchal society, everyone favors men over women. But in my experience, only Han Chinese are so obsessed with having boys. Including my highly educated 90s female classmates, I would have thought that they are young and have received higher education, will not have this kind of thinking, coupled with my desire to have a girl, sometimes shopping together to see the girls of cute things will say, this later to your daughter. They will be unhappy, as if to say that she gave birth to a daughter is a curse on her.
I thought this was an isolated case, but then I realized that many of my Han Chinese friends, regardless of gender, age, and education, are y rooted in the belief that having a boy is an honor, and having a girl is inferior.
Later, I went to Shanghai to study and found that the local students in Shanghai were a little better, but many of the Han Chinese students in the south and the students around Shanghai preferred to have a boy. The more self-esteem girls have, the more they want to have a boy. It's as if having a boy in the family would make them look better among their friends.
I was surprised!
From a young age, my mother said that if I was a boy, I threw me away, thanks to me being a girl well-behaved and lovely balabala...... coupled with relatives of my generation are boys, I have a bunch of older brothers and younger brothers, coupled with the fact that I grew up better than them to learn, and not like a boy fights to get into trouble, so my family said that they think I I have a bunch of older brothers and sisters, plus I grew up studying better than them and didn't get into trouble like the boys. Because of this, I always thought that women were very honorable, until I grew up and fell in love, and when my boyfriend protested, I didn't know that I had to respect men.
So I was so devastated when my Han Chinese 90 friends said to me, I don't want a girl child, I want a boy! the time, inside is so broken ...... Gosh, just this rotten thought, you are still graduate students, and you yourself is a girl child.
Boys and girls as long as they are their own children! I love them all! My current daughter is almost 5 years old, and watching her grow up day by day is the happiest thing ever.
Although the process is hard, boring and tiring. Whenever you see your daughter's innocent smile, you will be able to leave all your worries behind!
Many people ask me if I want to have a second child, my choice is not! I've got a lot of gray hairs on my mom and dad's head from bringing up my daughter! My lover and I also spent a lot of energy to raise our daughter to adulthood, I will have successfully completed my task, haha!!!! I'm going to give myself a vacation from now on and enjoy life!
Boys are a bit better to raise, right? You can beat them up if they don't listen. Nursing is easy when you're young too. And, after all, it's a male-dominated society, so you don't have to worry about being cheated when you grow up. I don't have to give birth to a child, so I have to worry a lot less. If they are nurtured well, they can be unique when they grow up, and can become talents in a certain field, which is very fulfilling. In the family, it is also very fulfilling to be a good father and husband. I am a woman myself, I like to raise my son, very leathery kind of boy, can become a girl's favorite corner in the future, quite good.
The impact of the concept of raising children to prevent old age, we used to have a rural proverb "the girl who got married sells the field of the marriage", meaning that the daughter is older, married, and the relationship with the mother's family is estranged, the care and attention to the mother's family can not afford to do so. In fact, the reality of society, we see the opposite, I see a lot of sons of all kinds of unfilial behavior to their parents, while married off the daughter often every now and then back to visit their parents. So my personal conception is more like a daughter, I think nowadays girls are more filial and understanding to their parents.
Due to the influence of traditional concepts, most people of my generation have not raised children before, and the concepts in their heads may be more likely to want a boy. Because most of the older generation expressed this preference in their words and behaviors, we grew up with this tradition, and it was inevitable that we would be influenced by it.
I was pregnant with my wife, although I should say that I don't care too much about boys and girls, that time can only have a child, boys and girls as fate, so I don't care about the pregnancy is a boy or a girl, my wife said to go to find an acquaintance to do the ultrasound, I'm not interested in, and even the child out of the maternity ward, I don't care if it's a boy or a girl.
However, during my wife's pregnancy, I joked with others or talked about the child in my stomach, I was treating the child as a boy. For example, to also pregnant friends said she is my son's mother-in-law, my son later how to, etc.. It shows that I have a little boy preference in my bones too.
However, when my daughter was really born, I had no such gender preference at all, probably related to the one-child policy at that time, my daughter was already born, but also so cute, where to think about what the son of the matter.
In the process of raising my daughter, I have become more and more fond of my daughter, especially when I see some of my acquaintances' boys being so mischievous, which makes people hurt a lot, and I am glad that I gave birth to a daughter.
Daughters are well-behaved, can dress up beautifully, especially with the father is also more close to some.
Many of my friends love their daughters more than I do.
When our generation becomes old, maybe this tradition of preferring boys will be broken, and we won't treat boys and girls differently like our older generation did, and then maybe more people won't want to have a boy as much as they do now.
Thank you for your question!
Honey, why do you think that?
It's because people around your circle have this incorrect perception of you.
Research studies, the birth of two daughters have the highest happiness index, and then a son and a daughter. Maybe when you are young, you feel that you need to have a boy to pass on the family name, and then someone will follow the husband's family name and continue the family name.
But really look at the next few decades, gave birth to a daughter, retired after the basic dashing happy, playing mahjong dancing square dance, gave birth to a son, but also have to help manage his small family, but also help with the child, very hard, there are two sons, there are two daughters-in-law every day than the day of the fight, the day is really not good.
There is a joke, in fact, you think carefully, but also quite meaningful.
If you love a man man, give him a daughter, when he is 60 years old, there are still people around his neck. If you hate a man, give him a son, when he is 60 years old, there are people who beat the table, and he wants a house, want a car...
These are many people's experience, so don't bother too much about men and women, know filial piety and courtesy, in the future are the same,
Why do most people like to have a boy? Blueberry to answer this question for you.
Boys really don't grow up to worry parents as much as girls do. As a young woman of childbearing age myself, I am yet to have children. But I also like the idea of having boys because I originally grew up all the way from a little girl myself to where I am today. I know the tediousness and hassle in between well.
The first point is that men and women are different, because of the reason of the body structure, the girl is more emotional when encountering things, easy to be sad and sad. The first thing is that the girl's body is more emotional, and she is prone to sadness and grief. Some of the troubles, which are unfounded, are indeed self-inflicted. Hormonal changes will also make the girl have more emotional burden.
Then a little more directly, if you yourself have a daughter in October, with all the difficulties, you know from the time she's born that she'll go through the hassle of menstruation, the helplessness of menstrual cramps, and the pains of giving birth once she's grown up. A man getting a child is not at all comparable to a woman getting a child.
Also, in society, the safety of girls has been a hot topic all over the world. Girls are not as strong as boys and are more vulnerable to conflict. When a girl is born, the parents' nerves are on high alert, fearing that she will meet some bad guys and leave an indelible psychological shadow.
The above three reasons are my own humble opinion. For my future child, I really hope you are a boy, you will be freer, more powerful and more reassuring to your parents.
The same is a mother born, the boy is clearly enjoying more of the mother's love, the family's favor, around the neighbor's friendship, everything to compete for the best, when the favor, a little from the, or bawling, or storm, or slamming the door to leave, so that the family can not be peaceful, coaxed, held, accommodated, busy and not very happy. The girl is like the grass by the roadside, silently, self-perpetuating, never and do not expect to enjoy or brother or brother that care, more dare not send young master temper, and do not compete for favor, as if that is the patent of the boys, meek like sheep, to help their parents share the burden of household chores or life, and never complained of hardship, everything seems to be natural ...... < /p>