As the title says,
Not everyone will do this, but there will definitely be some. Haven’t you heard of such a popular saying at the moment: Fire prevention, theft prevention, and girlfriend protection!
Of course, although this sentence reflects a certain social phenomenon, it is more ridiculing and funny. In fact, this phenomenon can be said to have always existed, but it is not gradually becoming more popular. The more serious this situation is, it is impossible to develop into a mainstream situation, because after all, most people know how to be self-disciplined and respect moral standards, and they cannot pry into the corner when they see the man who is their best friend. If that is the case, wouldn’t it be Everyone will be in danger and the world will be in chaos.
In fact, the occurrence of this phenomenon is mainly due to the inaccurate positioning of their respective identities and unclear boundaries. Some women regard their best friends as their own from the bottom of their hearts. They are more important than anyone else. Their relationship is very close and they talk about everything. And this kind of relationship is often established before marriage and develops and continues after marriage, so that each other is the same. Knowing too much, especially after marriage, continuing to maintain this kind of relationship will inevitably blur the boundaries between each other, allowing the other party to interfere too much in the family and the emotional relationship between husband and wife, and even worse, Even the privacy of the bed between husband and wife is disclosed, and in ordinary life, there is no boundary or precaution, and he often lets his girlfriends stay at home at will, and some even do it when he goes out. Asking your best friend to take care of the children at your own home, having your husband and your best friend live in the same room, etc.
These unprincipled, unbounded, and unpreventive behaviors will inevitably cause both men and women to feel emotionally distraught. The positioning of the person is confused, the boundaries are blurred, excessive close contact in life, and the sparks of emotion are easily triggered. If the determination is strong, the position is unstable, or the person has his own agenda, he will naturally stay together and secretly form a knot. , leading to emotional betrayal,
Therefore, confusion of identity positioning, unclear boundaries, no bottom line, no precautions, no due distance between each other, weak self-control ability, etc., are the reasons for best friends to get involved in their own families. The main reason, of course, is that there are very few best friends who have other intentions and try to get involved in their families, but these are only a very small number.
Thirty years ago, my classmate Su Su I am good friends with another classmate Wang Xin, or best friends in today's terms.
At that time, everyone was eighteen years old, at the age of flowers and jade, and full of youth.
Su Su was assigned to work as a nurse in the inpatient department of a hospital, working three shifts. The small night shift is from 5:30 in the evening to 1 in the morning. Whenever Su Su works the night shift, around seven or eight o'clock in the evening, Wang Xin will come to the inpatient department to visit Su Su and accompany Su Su to work. What follows is Su Su's boyfriend Xie Feng.
Su Su and Xie Feng were introduced by a friend. Xie Feng was a doctor in another hospital. The two had been in a relationship for three months.
Su Su was quite busy at work, rushing from one hospital bed to another, leaving Wang Xin and Xie Feng to sit in the office. They were both young people, so there was no problem in chatting, and they gradually became familiar with each other. .
Wang Xin and Xie Feng came to accompany Su Su on several small night shifts. At that time, Su Su thought they were accompanying her, but the slow-moving Su Su only understood it later when she was severely injured. , then where can I accompany her? !
When Wang Xin and Xie Feng accompanied Su Su to the fifth night shift, Xie Feng said to Su Su: "Look, you are so busy at work, and we feel intrusive when we sit in your office." You're at work, why don't Wang Xin and I go watch a movie? You go ahead and get busy!" Su Su felt that Xie Feng's words were quite reasonable at the time. When Su Su came to her senses, she wanted to give herself a slap in the face.
From now on, when Su Su works the night shift, she will do it alone, without anyone coming to visit or accompany her. Wang Xin said that her unit was busy with something, and Xie Feng said that he was helping out at the hospital. Later, when Su Su understood everything, she realized that it was all excuses.
During this period, Su Su and Xie Feng talked about their ordinary love, took a walk and talked about their hearts.
After a few months like this, many friends and colleagues came to tell Susu that they saw her boyfriend being very intimate with another woman, in a movie theater, in a park, in a snack bar... that woman It seems that I came to see Susu.
As soon as Su Su heard this, her head felt like it was going to explode, her heart broke into pieces, and red particles were flying all over the sky.
Su Su approached Xie Feng, but Xie Feng refused to admit it to death. Su Su went to Wang Xin, but Wang Xin told lies...
Although Su Su had a rift in her heart, in those days, people would not break up easily when they fell in love or got married, so she continued to fall in love with Xie Feng, Two years later, the two got married smoothly.
After the marriage, Xie Feng often did not go home. Su Su gradually got used to it and gradually began to grieve. However, the two did not divorce, and they often had cold wars under the same roof. Later, Su Su no longer cared whether Xie Feng and Wang Xin still had contact.
Su Su devoted herself wholeheartedly to her work. More than ten years later, Su Su became the head nurse of the inpatient department.
In a society filled with materialistic desires and traps everywhere, there are all kinds of people. Fortunately we didn't meet him, but such people do exist.
Best friends mean that they talk about everything. They have many secrets.
They talk about everything, and they can always find countless topics to talk about when they are together. They talk about the world, gossip, family affairs, and even tell their girlfriends what their boyfriend likes to eat.
As time goes by, your best friend even knows yourself better than you do.
I have never wanted to admit that my best friends can take advantage of me. We are all highly educated people who know what we can and cannot do. Just like the principle that applies to men, friends and wives should not be bullied, and just like best friends, you still have to have a basic bottom line as a human being. Everyone knows this truth and will not easily exceed this limit.
Such people do exist in real life. I don’t know if I should condemn it morally, but it sounds like it’s really unethical.
Best friends like to talk to each other about everything. They are so good that they can share the same clothes and eat the same bowl of noodles. There are few secrets between them. Women are naturally fond of gossiping, and they love to talk from the bottom of their hearts, so they will share everything with their besties.
You should talk to your best friends about what your boyfriend likes to eat and what you should prepare for him during the holidays. Some decisions are even made with the advice of my best friend. Over time, your best friend will understand you and your boyfriend better than you do.
People still need to maintain a certain safe distance between each other to avoid being hurt.
Love is a wonderful thing, and the spark is ignited at that moment. This is how it is between men and women, no matter who they are, as long as the feeling comes, they can't control it.
There is no corner that cannot be pried, it just depends on how much strength you use.
It is not uncommon for women to take advantage of their besties, whether in TV dramas or in real life!
More than 20 years ago, a female colleague of mine lost her husband to her best friend. At that time, her best friend was having a miserable divorce. She often cried bitterly in front of her colleagues, which aroused great sympathy from her colleagues, and she often Invite her best friend to her home as a guest, and even let her stay at her home from time to time. The result was tragic. It wasn't until her husband wanted to divorce his colleague that she found out that her best friend and her husband had been together for a long time! My colleague was greatly stimulated and almost suffered from depression. He has not been able to get out of it for more than ten years.
When a woman takes advantage of her best friend, it must be under special circumstances, such as being lovelorn, unhappy in marriage, or divorced. At this time, women are often depressed, in a gloomy mood, or have an unbalanced mentality. If your best friend is happier than you, you will be more jealous. After all, women are more self-loving and narcissistic. At this time, if your best friend's boyfriend and husband are a little more careful and act sympathetically, the two of them will easily hit it off!
Women are most likely to do wrong things when they are vulnerable!
You must behave appropriately when getting along with best friends. Especially when your best friends have relationship problems, you can sympathize and care about them, but you must keep a distance. Don’t act stupidly like a savior, make blind ideas and worry about anything. In the end, people have to pay for their own feelings!
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There is no corner that cannot be dug down, only whether it is worth digging, what do you think?
Although this approach is unethical, there are still many such examples in life. As Xiaoyu, I strongly disagree with it.
Hahaha, have you ever heard the saying that there is no true friendship between women? Women are essentially competitors, not collaborators. The only person in the world who is not jealous of you is your own mother. So, with a normal heart, haha ??
Guard against fire, guard against theft, guard against best friends, where did this sentence come from
After seeing each other for a long time, he just didn’t feel that his best friend was better than him.
Because the relationship between best friends is very subtle. They have the same hobbies and the same language, so there is comparison. You often talk about how good your boyfriend is next to her, or when you go on a trip. Calling her on all the time is a disguised stimulation for her, so it feels very fulfilling to pry into the corner.