These three characters are like three feet supporting a bronze tripod. Only by doing every role well can people's emotions be as stable as a tripod, and life will be out of balance without one foot.
For example, some people only focus on one role and devote all their energy to social and professional roles. Such people often become workaholics in our eyes;
However, some people only focus on the emotional role of the family, such as full-time housewives, and put all their energy into family chores, rarely taking into account the other two roles, which is easy to be paranoid;
There is another kind of person who lacks self and doesn't know what he likes. They follow the crowd and do what society requires them to do. They have no inner pursuit and few dreams.
Don't underestimate these three relationships. If these three roles are not done well, it will directly affect the quality of life in the second half of life.
When you are young, everything you do seems to be unrelated, but in the end it will all belong to a drawer, a world you created. So what we are doing now is the continuous accumulation process, so that our life can grow into a towering tree and provide shade for ourselves and others.
Have you ever thought that people will get old one day, and what kind of old man will you be when you get older?
Cruelly speaking, old age is a process of gradual loss, including physical and mental health, social role, economic foundation and so on. In this period, the triangular relationship shows its importance.
The loss of social professional role is after retirement, which is quite traumatic for a person, as if suddenly losing the value of social existence. Once the emotional role of the family is lost, the spiritual support is completely lost, and people can lose their dependence in an instant; Because they are old and have time, but because some people have not established themselves and found their hobbies, they are gradually lonely all day and cannot exist independently.
Instead of enjoying the happiness that can be created every day, it is a sense of powerlessness. In the long run, people's spirit will become very empty, and some will focus on controlling their children's lives.
Because of the changes in social relations and interpersonal relationships, in the face of the urging of old age and life, the attitudes of the elderly are also showing various differences.
As usual, some autonomous elderly people exist as an intellectual independent, have their own preferences and can give their wisdom to others;
Some become a kind of controlling desire and complaining, taking care of others at work, being a housekeeper at retirement, putting their desire to invest in the outside world into their own families, making the family extremely harmonious;
Others are angry and desperate, afraid of the end of life, desperate for life, and have no motivation to create a new life.
At this stage, children should give them deeper companionship, soothe their psychology, help them find what they like, or find their own beliefs. However, people are born independent, and no one can replace anyone. No matter what age, you can't lose your enthusiasm for life, and you can't lose your sovereignty to exercise your life at will.
When you are young, you must find a fulcrum for your life and be ready to get old one day. The great energy in our hearts must be found out when we are old.
In fact, there are really many people, and their old age is dazzling and dazzling.
Among many types, I admire most and want to be an independent old man. Independent old people, they just get old, but years have not taken away their positive and young hearts.
I have met many old people with different lifestyles. What is common around me are old people who have worked hard all their lives and are still worried about their children's lives when they are old. Life is not busy, and many times they don't even know what to do. It is also common to talk about other people's parents and judge all kinds of right and wrong.
So sometimes I don't understand why some children are brought out by grandparents. Why do they complain, be selfish or swear when they are young? What must be reflected behind them is a family relationship and the subtle influence of adults' behavior on children.
When I was an intern reporter at the university, I also interviewed many old people. They live in a small city, but this does not limit their narrow life.
The old people I interviewed were healthy and cheerful, with their own hobbies and a group of friends with the same hobbies. Some are devoted to painting, some are devoted to calligraphy, some are good at root carving ... and they also like to share. An old man gave me a landscape painting he painted, and when he wrote an inscription for me, his face was radiant.
Square dancing is also a hobby.
I like the 70-year-old retired man in the movie Intern, played by Oscar winner Robert De Niro. Anyone who knows Robert De Niro knows The Godfather, which makes him famous. Now in his seventies, he is shaping a retired man like him, named Ben.
Freud said, "The only important things in life are love and work." Ben has retired. His wife died three years ago. In his retirement, he kept looking for new things to try. He has traveled around the world, studied golf, went to the kitchen, studied yoga, practiced Chinese and so on, but he hopes to find his own existence value.
In a recruitment, because of his Excellence, he successfully became an older intern in a company. Every day, my hair is combed meticulously, my suit, tie and shoes are dressed neatly, and the files in my retro briefcase are in good order. Although I am old, I shine in the crowd, even among young people.
I like his high self-discipline. He got dressed before the alarm clock went off in the morning and said to himself "Let's make it happen" before going to work. When a female boss encounters work and emotional difficulties, she can learn a lot from him by giving her wisdom to deal with these difficulties. She is full of energy and self-confidence, and has a sense of calm and security when she is with him.
In the movies I have seen, it is the first time that the words "elegance" and "exquisiteness" can be used for an elderly man. The world that started at the age of 70 is actually no different from the world that started at the age of 20. The point is, never let yourself be depressed for a long time.
I met a 92-year-old Ms. Phyllis on the Internet. No, you should call her an old girl. See her story, just know what is really alive.
She was a ballet dancer when she was young. At the age of 50, she began to design her own clothing brand. At the age of 80, he ignited his passion for music and began to learn piano and jazz performance. Later, he became a composer and made a record. In order to maintain the vitality of her figure and brain, she insists on exercising, playing tennis, skipping rope and swinging every day, all of which she began to learn after she was 80 years old. I began to learn tango at the age of 83 and began to practice yoga at the age of 85, in order to better balance the dance. ...
She still leads such an active life at her age. She said her secret is: "I have long understood that people need fearlessness, self-discipline and enthusiasm if they want to face challenges."
Her advice to young people is: "Look at me, if you want to say it's too late to do something, please think twice!" " "
With a positive attitude, they will always have a young heart. For them, anything is possible as long as they create it themselves. They never hide in a corner, feel old, complain about others, and still live enthusiastically for their own tomorrow.
As long as you live, you can live a different wonderful life every day.
In fact, there are many old people like this. Because of their experience, wisdom and enthusiasm for life, in the hearts of all people, they never get old, but the younger they live, the more they deserve respect and admiration from others.
They will always have a young and uplifting heart and will not give up hope because of old age. I don't know which comes early, tomorrow or death, so I choose tomorrow wisely.
When I was young, I didn't want to do anything, or I wanted to try something new. I have been raising children for most of my life, and now I just have my own private time, which is only used to develop myself.
As we all know, Grandma Moses became one of the most famous and prolific primitive painters in the United States in his later years. She has been living on a farm. She started painting at the age of 77, and then it became an uncontrollable sensation. Although she has no formal painting education, she has created more than 1600 paintings in the next 20 years, bringing hope to others with her bright colors.
From them, we know that life never starts too late. Many people always say it's too late. In fact, for a pursuer of life, every period of life is young and timely.
There is an energy in everyone's heart, and we should find it when we are old or young. Take the initiative to find happiness every day and create your own life. No matter what age, don't be mentally tired. Living in this world is a hopeful thing.
Never give up fresh vitality, never give up yourself. When you are old, you can just be yourself and care what others think. From the outside to the inside, calm and elegant, energetic and generous.
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Forty-sixth love letter to the imperfect world, addressed to the elderly.
With this attitude, should we young people read more books?