Recently, I often hear my friends say that they have social phobia, but every time when I ask them what kind of manifestations they have, they tend to be vague. One of them said to me, "April, since I got married, I find that I am less and less social, and I don't like to go to crowded places, and the friends I used to have don't want to get in touch with me anymore. Am I getting social phobia."
Every time I hear such a question, I cry and laugh. Is it not a normal thing for a person to prefer to be alone and not to be lively at a particular segment of events? Why does a person have to have a psychological problem when he or she changes? Our understanding of psychological problems is really still only in the literal sense.
So before answering that question, it's necessary to explain what level of social phobia is considered social phobia. Social phobia is a type of neurosis that is characterized by excessive fear of an objective object or situation, and the individual knows that the fear is irrational, but has no way to control it. Fearful episodes are often accompanied by marked anxiety, and the individual deliberately avoids the object or situation that is causing the fear. Social phobia is often accompanied by autonomic symptoms that usually interfere with their normal activities.
As a simple example, agoraphobia is a form of social phobia. People with agoraphobia are generally afraid of crowds, and they are more fearful of crowded situations. When they are in such occasions, they may experience panic, sweating, frequent urination, etc., and the more serious ones may have fainting spells. They would like to change this, but they often feel overwhelmed and out of control.
Social phobia is not the same thing as not liking to socialize or being good at it, and being cheerful or not is not a criterion for determining social phobia. If you are sure that you are indeed social phobic, then try the following methods:
1, systematic desensitization
Systematic desensitization method is also called interactive inhibition method, that is, in the anxiety triggering stimulus appeared at the same time to let the patient to make the inhibition of anxiety response, this response can be weak, until eventually cut off the stimulus and the conditioning of the link of anxiety.
One of my favorite TV shows, Meet Wang Lichuan, uses this method, except that he is not targeting social phobia but bloodsickness. The main female character, Xie Xiaoqiu, has bloodsickness, and Wang Lichuan bought her a red cell phone in order to treat her bloodsickness. That is, give a stimulus - react - and eventually adapt.
2, psychological counseling
If you can't improve on your own, you may want to go to a professional counseling agency or psychiatry to receive psychological counseling or treatment. The purpose of psychological counseling is to let you recognize the problems you are experiencing, and ultimately to guide you to find a way to solve them.
3, auxiliary medication
Phobias are often accompanied by anxiety and other bad emotions, when the phobia attack may be auxiliary medication. Drugs can not only alleviate the fear of physical anxiety response, but also reduce the vegetative response.
I'm the same way! I worked full-time with my kids for three years!
I don't want to talk about it too much!
But I realized that when I went back to society, I couldn't seem to figure it out,
and then I realized that I was out of touch with society,
I basically spent all of my time with my kids,
and I thought that he was the only one in my world!
I'm afraid of being derailed, I've done micro-businesses, I've done Taobao stores!
Every day as soon as the child went to sleep, I began to go online to understand the domestic situation!
But even so,
society still seems to be not very friendly to me!
The first time I went out on my own, I felt like I couldn't even cross the street,
looking at the cars I was afraid of!
The first time I bought something on my own, I forgot how to ask how to bargain!
In the past three years, my city has opened a subway!
The first time I rode it, the ground crew helped me buy a ticket!
I feel so far behind!
And I've become timid!
I became afraid of interacting with people!
I summarized that getting married or having a baby is a step into another stage of life for a woman!
The lifestyle has changed, the people around you have changed!
Even the environment has changed, so how can you stay the same?
My advice is, if you still have your job, don't throw it away and move on with your life!
The premise of a good marriage should be that you are an individual who is not dependent on others!
That way you can switch between a lifestyle where you live well on your own and two people don't suck!
If he loves you, he will try to bring you into his social circle,
and if you love him, you will bring him to meet your friends!
And that's how you get more friends!
Sometimes you don't want to communicate not because of others but because of yourself!
The only person who can change himself is himself!
You can't and don't have the ability to change the people and things around you!
Open your heart and mind to embrace a new life!
Go for it! Girl! Be brave! You can't empathize with others who aren't you! If you can change, then try to change. If you can't, then try to accept! Don't lose yourself!
Social phobia how to break? I feel like I'm slowly becoming like this after I got married, and I used to be very cheerful.
Social fear is also called social anxiety disorder. It is a kind of psychiatric disorder, originally called fearful neurosis.
Mostly related to environmental events, knowing that excessive unreasonable, but can not control their own fear of psychology. Fear occurs often accompanied by, restlessness, dry mouth, shortness of breath, rapid heartbeat, red face, stuttering, cold hands and feet, and so on ...... symptoms!
How to treat, the heart disease also rely on the heart disease doctor, first of all, the treatment of psychological shadow area, more and external communication, such as on the market to buy food, dancing, conscious of the shopping malls and merchants to bargain. You can also find relatives and friends to come to the house party, all will enhance your anti-fear of discomfort symptoms.
If the fear does not improve it is necessary to go to the hospital and take medication! You can also go to a counselor, consulting! Get rid of this disease as early as possible, so as not to cause more harm! Thank you!
Social phobia how to break, I have a girl here, before the marriage bar is a good girl, kind-hearted and extraordinary appearance. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money from the government.
But after marriage, due to their own limited culture, can not give her husband to help. And the husband's career success, gradually cold and dislike her, that she is just a look not useful vase. Not as good as a nanny. How to see how bad. She dared not speak loudly in front of her husband. The family also did not give her a good face. Sometimes the words are stuttering.
It didn't take long for them to divorce.
After returning home, the family did not leave her alone. They encouraged and guided her to participate in social activities and charity events. At first, she was afraid to talk to strangers, and even saw tall gay men not dare to approach.
Now, after her family and her own efforts, she has regained her confidence and found a job as a cashier in a supermarket, which is not a very high salary, but she feels very good about herself. The company's website is a great place to find out more about the company's services, and it's also a great place to learn more about the company! She is very happy, and it is said that a coworker is very interested in her and wants to pursue her. A bright future lies ahead! I wish them all the best!
This is an interesting question!
If you were really socially unstressed before, that means that your current social disorder is not primary, which means that there is nothing wrong with your personality itself, so it is a stress social disorder.
So, dude, you might have a problem with this marriage.
Let's try to figure out why:
First of all, is your wife socially dominant? And gives you a sense of oppression? If so, that's the problem. The solution is to talk to your wife honestly and get her understanding and support.
Secondly, if it's not your wife's problem, there's a possibility that your wife's family is very strong? Giving you a lot of pressure in life? If so, you can isolate yourself from their interference for a while and lead your own life.
Third, you may have had social failures at weddings or at social events before or after that made you feel bad. This sentiment needs to be bolstered by some social success, and you can start looking for good feelings in your interest groups or good friends.
Fourth, there's the possibility that your arrangement of life after this marriage has been finalized has stressed you out so much that you've taken a hit to your self-confidence, which has given rise to social withdrawal. It's called the desire to push those non-rigid desires down a bit to give yourself a break.
There may be other reasons for this, and I'm not going to push it without knowing more about the situation.
Brother, this is very normal, the quality of life can not keep up with many people will be like this, to prove that you are a love of family. Family-centered, wife and children first, I should have guessed right.
Before marriage is very cheerful, what are cheeky, a person full of family satiety, of course, happy. After getting married and having children, slowly the family stabilized, and the usual day is to go to work and go home from work. Especially when your income is not high, your general social gatherings are rarely go, others called you once or twice when you do not go generally will not call again, slowly and then lost the old friendship, this time the circle of friends will slowly change. Social phobia in fact do not have to how to break, after all, life are your own a family, remember, live your own day is the best day.
Don't ask me why I know! Because I'm the same way [laughs and cries] [laughs and cries] [laughs and cries] [laughs and cries]
Do you have any idea why you have a social phobia? Where does the reason for this social phobia of yours come from? You can't help anyone if you haven't even figured out some of these reasons.
You said that you got this social phobia after you got married, so it's something that happens later in life. There is a period of change in the human psyche, as to why you will be like this, or the previous sentence, first of all, you need to know why you will become like this? Social fear comes from low self-esteem within, and a lack of self-confidence. When a person has doubts about themselves, or has low self-esteem internally, with socializing it is a fear that comes from within. In order to change your mindset, first you need to understand why you have this fear of socializing at a deeper level. This reason is from where, what makes you have this kind of mentality, the only time you know these, you can change your mindset.
Although my answer is meaningless, I think you should think about why you have this mentality.
In fact, to be honest, I am also Fortunately, I seem to have found some ways Not confident mostly because you think too much Sometimes you have to come up with a little ignorance of the kind of conceit Nothing to touch the wall to accept the lesson on it But be sure to let yourself confident even if a little conceited
There are also some psychological hints to it from the beginning of the first to carry out some psychological hints to start self-adjustment to be an aid to the people. Aid No way to put it bluntly, people's self-confidence are by hints or external hints, such as the previous reason why we are confident most likely because we want to do a lot of things, or else is to give themselves a boost to self-adjustment
And! You've got to live hard, you've got to strive for something in life ***
Because when you're married, it's all about the family, it's all about the kids. Slowly you get out of socializing, it's not a fear, but you have your own responsibilities, family responsibilities. The only people who are with you are your family, the people who love you. Socialization is a kind of interest in communication, if you are doing about the social industry, naturally follow the pace. You can go out with your loved ones to see more of the outside world, or you can go to travel, happy happy to play, then your mood will be liberalized. One way to do this is to climb a mountain and say your heart out loud at the top.
Since the fear does not have to socialize, why make yourself so miserable ah! No one is forcing you to, right? It's all about your own inner turmoil.
Since the marriage, on the down-to-earth life of their own, someone close to you to continue to socialize, no one close to their own small life, the heart of the life on the good life, with a family and no family can be the same? I don't know why I'm thinking about that. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.