MiuMiu, I've read some letters written by celebrities and ordinary people to their children, and most of them have great wishes for their children. Mom actually has a thousand and one great wishes in her heart, but she is not willing to tell you at this time. Because you are still too young, mom is afraid that the one thousand and one wishes will crush you like one thousand and one Tarzan. Today mommy just wants to tell you some little secrets, careful things in mommy's heart.
First of all, mommy should apologize to you because in your three birthdays, mommy was not by your side twice. Even though you are three years old this time, mom has already thoughtfully organized a small children's party for you, but in fact, mom still wished to spend time with you on your birthday, and wished to tell you about the spectacular scene when mom gave birth to you.
Since I can't be with you on your birthday, as a mother, I have to tell you a few things about your life before I leave. As the old saying goes, "When a child travels a thousand miles, the mother worries," but in my case, it's the mother who travels a thousand miles with her child in mind.
The first thing my mom would like to say to you is: you have always been a very good child with good habits, whether it is from work and rest time or eating and sleeping, you can count on people to be satisfied. It's just that lately, because your mom is at home, you've been craving for me. Therefore, when it's time to go to bed, you often still try to trick a book to read or play with blocks for a while; and occasionally, you want to pamper yourself and ask your mom to feed you. In fact, mom is not a person with strong principles, so mom thinks that the occasional dissonance is acceptable, but not too far away from the tone of oh. Mom is not at home, you still have to eat well and go to bed on time. By the way, try to sleep alone. Don't always ask Grandma to accompany you, because Grandma has Grandma's program ah, she has her favorite TV series, we can't be so selfish to dominate ah.
The second thing I want to say to you is that you may have gotten used to my company as your mom has been picking you up and dropping you off at kindergarten the past week. But I want to tell you that you are an important part of your mom's life, but mom still has her own things to be busy with and her own life to go through, so she can't be with you all the time. So when mom is not at home, you have to get used to let grandma and grandpa pick up and drop off, be a child who does not cry oh. Oh, in fact, especially like to go pick up when you are very proud to tell me: mom I did not cry today.
The third thing I'd like to say to you is that your character has always been endearing, except for the occasional bit of petulance and explosive temper. But I still hope you can respect your grandparents and communicate with them. You know what? You are most beautiful when you smile, your eyes squint like a crescent moon. No wonder when your mom said you wanted the stars to come to bed with you you had to say you wanted the moon, I'm sure you love your sister the moon too. Besides, when you have a temper tantrum, you cry and fuss, and you can't speak without catching your breath, so people don't know what you're talking about! So remember, calm communication always works better than incoherent yelling.
The fourth thing I want to say to you is that the most important thing you can do in kindergarten is to eat well, play well, and sleep well. Speaking of kindergarten, your kindergarten is quite dedicated! Everyone is on vacation, but you are still "making up lessons". So you have to treasure the time you have with your children because some of them may have to move to another school next semester. Understand that children often pull you ah touch you ah and so on are joking with you. Often people joke with each other only because they like them. I've been to your kindergarten and I'm so happy for you, I think a lot of the kids really like Miu Miu.
The fifth thing I want to tell you is that you have always been very hygienic, so hygienic that you even have to dry your feet before you go. Mom is very happy that you can be so clean and hygienic, but sometimes you can also indulge yourself a little, such as playing with water ah, play with sand ah, even play with mud, this is the fun of childhood. That's how mom used to play when she was a kid. But no matter what you play outside back, remember to come home first thing is to take off your shoes, and then wash your hands. Only in this way will the germs not sneak into our home, and the chances of Miu Miu getting sick will be greatly reduced. I think you should remember that because that's what Mommy sees you doing most of the time.
Lastly, there's something else on Mommy's mind that she's been wanting to say to you for a long time but hasn't been able to. But mommy thought that sooner or later you will have to face the day and mommy must face that is why your nose is different from others. Even the doctor couldn't explain why Miu Miu's nose was different from others. But the fact is that it happened, and the only thing we have to do now is to face it bravely. But I also know that it's too easy to say, or it seems to be very commonplace to the onlookers. But we are normal people after all, and sometimes it's really enough for us to muster up the courage. Let's just say that we have to come to answer N's questions, mom will give you a few examples first.
The other day at the playground, you and your mom were playing with the ocean baby, you were playing very happily, but suddenly, came a few children, pointing to your nose from afar and said: look at her nose. I noticed the fear in your eyes at that time.
Mom had always wondered how to get you to face and respond.
That day, when I took you to kindergarten, one of the children in your class specifically called out to me, "Mommy, what's wrong with Miu Miu's nose?
I couldn't avoid it, so I told her right then and there: that's just the way she is. The child's doubts were dispelled.
We were at the Xinhua Bookstore that day, and you were reading an interesting story with your mom, when suddenly a strange little girl came up to you and touched your nose with her little hand. You were startled and turned to me for help. I told you: just ask her not to do that. You then said very solemnly to the little girl, Please don't do that. You did the right thing, and I'm very proud of you
But is this how you respond to people every time you're in a situation like this? I used to struggle with the question of what is the better way to clear up other people's doubts and to be truly honest with myself.
Let's say you were playing with MoMo the other day. Brother Murmur kept laughing at your nose. You started out happily playing around with him too, because you two were siblings and you liked him a lot. But he did this repeatedly for about several times, you then finally got a little annoyed and said to me: mom ...... I did not know how to help you out at that time. Because MoMo is no one else, he's a brother. And mom can be sure that he is just joking with you, there is no malicious intent, he has always liked you as a sister. But I saw you in a difficult situation, mom's heart was broken. So mom had to say to you: if you don't like it, you tell your brother you don't like it.
MiaoMiao, in fact, mom knows that all these responses from mom are lacking. Mom won't be there for you every time you have a problem, and you need to learn to face it on your own. I've been thinking about this very seriously, and I'd like to write down my thoughts for your reference:
1. First of all, you need to learn to accept the fact that your nose is not the same as everyone else's, and at the same time, you need to be immune to the curiosity that others have about you. Because in front of the germs, we can only strengthen our own immunity is the best way.
2. You should learn to recognize when people are pointing out or asking questions. In general, most people are out of curiosity. If people question you out of curiosity, you can just tell them: this is me.
3. The hardest part may be when some of your peers are giving you pointers or whatever. Here you first have to find out whether they are joking, in fact, children often do not understand what, that is to say, purely playful psychology. When the other side is just joking with you, you can learn to be spontaneous. Don't be too concerned. Of course, if you really can not stand them like this. Mom thinks you can ask them a rhetorical question: why are you like this? This time the other party will often feel embarrassed. Or just tell them directly as mom told you before: please don't be like this. (But in a firm, friendly and calm tone)
4. And I don't mean to shirk my responsibility, but Miaomiao, you could really look at things from a different perspective. Just because you're a little bit different from everyone else, you're unforgettable to everyone who sees you, and they'll recognize you the next time they see you. You know what? Every time I want to go to the front of the neighborhood to look for you, as long as I stand in front of the security guards, the security uncles will know that I am your mother. They will be very friendly and let me in without showing me any ID. In fact, in our real life, there are so many beautiful people, but how many of them can we really remember? So when we think about it differently, it's good for you in a way.
5. Mom knows that the suggestions or requests above are particularly difficult for you. If you find it difficult to do so, you can find someone to talk to, this person can be your teacher, or your best friend, or even your family. Remember that we are always there for you.
6. Most importantly, mom thinks that you should learn to lift your head up and believe that your beauty comes from within. Let mom tell you a little secret: there are a lot of people, all like you. Those who know you include your mom and dad's coworkers, the uncles and aunts in your neighborhood, your grandparents, your teachers and classmates; those who don't know you include the security guards in your neighborhood (because you are so polite every time), your grandparents at the bookstore, and your aunts at the supermarket, all of whom say that you're very pretty; and even if your mom puts your picture on her blog, those friends who have never met you before would say that you're very cute. So, believe in yourself and be yourself! And one more thing to remember: others will never care more than ourselves.
7. Finally, Mommy wants you to know that she is not trying to be passive-aggressive because of this. Mom and Dad will do whatever it takes to find the best solution for you, while keeping you safe and healthy, and additionally with your consent. But until then, let's make each other strong within ourselves, shall we?
When I wrote this, my mom looked back and started to say that I don't mention too many wishes and requests, but actually now I see that there are quite a lot of wishes. It must be more than you can bear. So mom won't cram it all in at once, and has decided to just give you a little note before mom leaves for Tibet this time that says: Mythical, mom loves you and will miss you.
Words to my daughter: You are the best in Mommy's heart
Baby: It's been a long time, and Mommy always wants to write something for you. You always ask your mom why she got married so long before giving birth to you, but you know what? Not every mom and dad are so lucky to have their own children after they get married, some need to go through a lot of suffering to have their own babies, maybe their babies want to test whether mom and dad have patience and love them enough, right?
Remember that time, mom's body is very thin, followed by dad ran many hospitals, drank many, many bitter Chinese herbal medicine, you also drank, really is not good. Just when mom was very desperate and wanted to give up, you came and gave mom the hope of rebirth, thinking of the suffering she had endured in those years, mom would still shed tears, really, life is really hard, sometimes you find it hard to hold on anymore, but after gritting your teeth and holding on to the past, you will find that the dark flowers are bright and there will be a village again, and that there will be rainbows after the storms.
Your arrival brought a lot of laughter to the family, aunt and Chen Chen brother had not waited for you to be born to accompany the mother, you are everyone's hard-earned baby, Dad always buy a lot of delicious fruits, it is that time, Mom just recognize the monkeys, know a lot of delicious fruits, they can make you become very smart, very beautiful. There was a physical examination, the doctor aunt said you grow a little small, mom was scared, although very afraid of their own fat, ugly, but still let themselves as much as possible to eat meat, fish, so that you grow strong, so when you were born, mom became a fat mom in your eyes.
When you were born, it was the wheat harvesting season, everyone was very busy, but still they all ran from home to take care of you, see you only a few days of work, will look at the balloon, play with their hands, do not cry and do not make trouble, so well-behaved and understanding, we all keep praising you. Sometimes, mom lying on the bed to read a book, you also reach out your little hand to drag the book in front of your eyes, mom does not believe that such a small doll also want to read a book, on purpose to take away, you will ee and drag back, mom and dad for your smart and proud.
There is a children's song on the tape at home, that you are not yet less than thirty days, mom often read when playing with you, at first I thought you wouldn't know, but then I was surprised to find that you are always waiting in the same place, grinning out loud. My baby, you have brought mommy many surprises. You are not like other children are always crying and restless, eat enough, always and around the doll toy babbling talk, tired, will sleep on their own, so even if there is no dad, grandma and grandpa in the side, we play is also very happy, mommy does not feel tired.
Without realizing it, you're slowly growing up and recognizing many animals, plants, and all sorts of things, and as long as people say it, you'll be able to point it out very quickly. At six months, you can already explore the world in the walker, always moving the kettle and water dispenser when we are not paying attention, and then running away when we find out, and then waiting for the opportunity to explore again, your naughty and cute make us laugh.
Many mothers and fathers for their children do not want to drink medicine, injection headache, and you are always so well-behaved, from not letting mom bother, and haircut, which are so many mothers and fathers headache, and you are always sitting quietly on the stool, so that aunts to cut a beautiful hairstyle, Oh, in fact, for a long time your hair is always not long, had to stay a boy's head, so that many people mistakenly think that we are There is a little boy in the family who loves to play and laugh.
When you were a child, you really loved to laugh, just out of the full moon, the weather is very hot, Dad took us back home to see his sister-in-law, in the big sun walked so long, I'm a little heartbroken, I really hope that you can cry, and then, let's hurry home. However, when grandma carried you there, you smiled so brightly. Two months, mom's aunts have come to the home to see you, you lie on the cooler, climbed up, lifted his head to the adults show a smile, the everyone is happy, I did not expect you to turn over so early, so you become more of the family's baby, because of your smart and capable, action, intellectual development is always more than adults imagine and children of the same age, you are the pride of mom and dad has always been.
Nine months, my sister-in-law quit her job to take care of you, I told my sister-in-law: girls, we have to learn to be brave, do not be too constrained her, with her climbing up and down the play is. So, the already childish sister-in-law and you play together, you also learned to be very bold, how high the slide dare to go up and down, mom for your bravery and comfort. Children grow up, always have to leave their mother's wings to fly alone, with bravery, self-confidence, there is a key to success.
Mom likes to read, but also gave you a lot of books, from the beginning of a picture to the illustrations and then to the pure text, baby, those words, mom is ashamed to say that you learn by yourself, you are a child who has a gift for learning, for words, you are not like other children to let their mothers worry about, you are always exploring on their own, in the effort, so that mom has so much time to do their own things. . Son, mommy thanks you!
When you first started kindergarten, everyone loved you, knowing that you knew so many songs, children's songs and stories, and that you were a righteous child. You didn't like it when the teacher disciplined the children and would go and hit the teacher, and everyone was amused by your innocence. You do not know, in the collective life is necessary to have rules, there are no rules can not be round is the truth, made a mistake to be punished. However, one day, you understand, but also by these rules boxed in the hands and feet, is no longer that bold and spicy little girl, you have become a teacher to save the most assured of the good boy, but mom is very heartbroken, do not want you to be so difficult for themselves, adults sometimes have the wrong, the teacher is also the same, to say the words, to do is not necessarily all the right, although the starting point is for your own good, in order to let you have a good The teacher is also the same. The fact is that the children are still children, they have a little bit of nature, and it is normal for them to make some mistakes and be punished a little bit, so you don't have to be too hard on yourself.
Everyone who comes into this world has a different mission, and his ability varies; some are good at singing, some are good at painting, and some are good at writing. No one is perfect, it is because of the lack of shock, there is the beauty and ugliness of some relative words. Everyone should grow slowly within the scope of their ability, beyond their ability to ask too much of themselves, will make people live a very tired, unhappy, you are a serious and down-to-earth child, mom does not require you to compete in every subject, as long as the efforts of the first, understand it can be. Come on, baby, let go of the heart, happy learning, because we do not understand, we walked into the school, into the classroom, do not understand the problem boldly ask, boldly think, boldly say, do not be afraid of adults reproachful eyes, understand is the ultimate goal of our learning. In fact, you have also found that adults are not all proficient in everything, there are places they do not understand, the world, knowledge is an infinite treasure trove, each person can ingest just a little bit of it.
Mom liked to read when I was a child, but there is no home, even writing workbook are two sides with, then mom often want to wait for me to grow up to buy a lot of books, want to see the book all over. You grew up, can read novels, mom moved home to you when you were a child in the heart of those masterpieces, you have their own thoughts, their own little secrets, everyone says you are a thoughtful child, and mom found himself as if wrong, the book lets you know a lot, but also seems to let you alone a lot of your many questions are really even difficult to answer mom, perhaps around the little ones do not necessarily know that you have less many more interlocutors. But you can tell the story you know to the little friends ah, can also be turned into beautiful words, just like the sister of the uncle's family, the same will win a lot of friends, no friends to play and help is very lonely, and we will encounter a lot of problems in life, are the need to confide in a friend, need to friend's understanding, caring and help, because we are the herd animals ah.
You said you like to play with boys, in fact, mom was also like this when I was a child ah, because I do not like the girls for some small things, often do not know why they caused them to shed tears, and boys are different ah, they love to play and love to fool around, accept things fast, the mind of a variety of knowledge, and they often have a new relationship with them to discover, learn many girls do not know the knowledge, and they have a broad mind, not easy to understand, but also a lot of knowledge. They are open-minded, not easy to mess with them, and they do not have to be too careful to interact with them, they are cheerful, lively, brave personality will be subconsciously infected with you, so that you become a girl's tenderness, but also the courage of the boys, generosity. But boys also have shortcomings, such as like aggressive games ah, do not like to stick to the rules, always like to violate the rules ah, oh, so, with their relationship you have to learn to protect yourself moderately, using a variety of methods to curb their vices, but also to show your own personality, boys still like to have a personality, learning and good, but also cultivated girls. Mom wants you to be this kind of girl. In fact, you have already done a good job, but if you let yourself go a little more, and be a little more bold and brave, then you will be even better. It is my greatest wish that you will be able to integrate with your friends and live happily.