How to do a good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship?

How to do a good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship Do you know how to do a good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship? Since ancient times, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is a major problem, may be mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is inherently wrong, disagreements and other issues, the following is my carefully prepared how to do a good job of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship related content, I hope to be able to help you. How to do a good job of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship 1 talk about marriage, can not not mention the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict is a problem that can not be avoided in all marriages. But then again, there are conflicts will have a solution, the solution is good, the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship can help your marriage, the solution is not good, it will become a stumbling block to the marriage. Below, we will talk about how women in marriage should deal with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations, total **** there are 4 points to keep in mind, you must pay attention to, because you can not escape. 1, face up to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law You must have seen a lot of articles about the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law or film and television drama, you may have heard people around you to tell you about their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, but this kind of relationship falls on you how to deal with, you have to carefully consider the next. First of all, women need to remember that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a kind of relationship you have to face in your marriage, you have to face this relationship because it is a part of your marriage, you need to make a list of some of the problems that you can foresee in advance, and think about the solution. Don't take it seriously, and don't let nature take its course until then, because then there may be a lot of unexpected problems, and you won't be able to cope with them if you haven't prepared for them in advance, and it will only make the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict deeper and deeper. No matter how horrible others describe the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you do not worry, calmly to deal with, in order to deal with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations. 2, as a subsidiary marriage to operate The last point we mentioned, the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is a part of the marriage, because the mother-in-law is your husband's mom, you have no way to ignore her existence. Therefore, you have to try to take the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship as a subsidiary marriage to operate, even if you can't do like treating the husband and wife relationship as attentive, but also to come up with the attitude. After all, mother-in-law is also a person, not the devil, you in considerate, filial piety, know how to do a good job, the same can move her. If you try but how can not move her, it can only mean that you use the wrong method. Mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is essentially the same as interpersonal relationships, there will always be a breakthrough, you have to pay attention to observe, a method is not feasible, then another method. If you bite the bullet that she is the "evil mother-in-law", just complain and do not want to solve the conflict, then you can only be tortured, because the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict is not resolved will be like a shadow. 3, the man is the key to the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, on the surface of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law only two people's relationship, but in fact this is the relationship between the three people, do not forget, between them **** have property is a man. Therefore, the man is the key point in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also a breakthrough to solve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This point requires a man to consciously maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, breaking them down one by one first, and then converging them. If men understand this point, then basically there will be no mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict. However, many men do not understand this point, when the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict occurs, he ran faster than a rabbit, can not wait to hide away. If this is the case, it is required that the woman needs to guide the man to participate in the solution to the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict, you know how to do, teach him, after all, he is the mother-in-law's son, it is easier to approach and persuade the mother-in-law. 4, there must be communication Since the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is a relationship between a person and a person, then to make this relationship quality, then communication is essential. This is the same as you talk about customers, make friends, fall in love need to communicate, the need for spiritual communication and material communication. It is important to note that the relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is between a woman and a woman, so it is important to take care of that in terms of communication. It is said that women know the most about women, then play your this book can go to throw the favor. Since the man this mountain you can attack, that mother-in-law for you is not a thing, provided that you are willing to take the initiative to run the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, willing to take the initiative to solve the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict. You are not willing, then no one can save you. Many people may have another opinion after reading this article, saying that the mother-in-law is not so simple, saying that all the mothers-in-law in the world are evil mothers-in-law, holding back to find daughter-in-law trouble. This point is where some women are narrow-minded, saying such things only shows that you have never faced up to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and have never thought of going into business to solve the problem. You are only in the tangled, in the complaint, but this is useful? Your mother-in-law-daughter-in-law conflict is thus solved? Of course, if you really do not want to go to the management of the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, then and your husband to avoid a little farther, no contact will not be a problem. But there is one thing you need to pay attention to, in the future you may also become someone else's mother-in-law, now you can escape as a daughter-in-law, but in the future you become a mother-in-law, you want to continue to escape? Your daughter-in-law also said that you are a bad mother-in-law, what are you going to do? Therefore, in the present relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to think differently, in the future you as a mother-in-law to deal with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations to be able to handle. How to do a good job of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship 2 First, "play deaf and dumb" As the saying goes, "the mouth is the door to disaster", refers to some careless words will lead to trouble and mischief, a lot of things are bad in the mouth on top of the mouth, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is difficult to deal with also have this factor, a lot of mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship and, the problem is very often in this area, the problem is very often in this area, the problem is very often in this area. Problems are often in this area, why do I say so? Because since ancient times in people's concepts and consciousness, that mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is difficult to get along with the norm, in this **** sex perception, about the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship are negative negative, as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in this concept of growing up, and live in this environment. Affected by this, seldom able to receive positive information about the harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that no matter become a daughter-in-law or become a mother-in-law, both will be for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law between the bad information to pay special attention and attention, show great enthusiasm, even if one side of the other side of the words do not have any meaning and color, in the heart of the other side will be half a day of speculation, put forward for a long time, even if it is a good words, will consider whether the Even if it is a kind word, they will consider whether there is meaning in the words, outside the words, whether there are other meanings in it, and will seldom go to the positive side to consider. In this kind of mutual defense, mutual distrust of the information transfer process, to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can not play any positive and positive. It will only cause negative impacts and make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more difficult. So to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so that harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, first of all in the verbal expression of communication and the transmission of relevant information on the more efforts to do a good job of mutual self-management, it is best to learn to "pretend to be deaf and dumb", the so-called "pretend to be deaf and dumb", that is, the external information on the The so-called "pretend to be deaf and dumb", that is, external information on the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as little as possible to listen to, and do not disseminate negative information about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, to reduce the negative energy information on their own to play a role in the influence of the subtle. Within the family, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to each other on the other side about their own words as much as possible do not listen or listen to less, even if you hear bad words, but also pretending not to have heard, not to the heart, as what did not happen, as well as ordinary life as much as possible to not to talk about and comment on each other, do not say that the other side of the rights and wrongs, and do not talk about each other's lengths, so that the conflicts and frictions caused by this is less, therefore Mutual disputes will be reduced, to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to lay a good foundation. Second, "confused" as the saying goes, "a woman's heart under the sea needle", women due to their own physiological and psychological characteristics, often complex and thoughtful, more ideas are also good at calculating, in the phenomenon of difficult relations between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, this reason also accounts for a large aspect, but also an important factor affecting the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. This is also an important factor affecting the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In this case, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for each other's words and deeds, every move will be thinking before and after, left and right, always have to guess a ZiZhouBiDao, think of a A B C D to guess each other's intention and purpose, and will even pick bones inside the egg. Then in accordance with their own assumptions and conjecture to take the appropriate performance, and everything, as small as chicken hair, needle and thread brain of small things, will be gripped, in mind, piles and pieces are remembered clearly, once there is a contradiction, it will be some of the old sesame seed rotten grain things all associated with the association, so that the state of affairs expanded, resulting in strife between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, making it difficult for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along with each other in a harmonious manner. In addition to this, the factors that lead to tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law there is another aspect, that is, in the family, especially concerned about the interests of the gains and losses, the respective interests are very important, catty, every cent. About the interests of the matter are divided clearly, even in some trivial small gains and losses will be clear, remember clearly, suffer from loss, always counting and calculating, which triggered some unnecessary conflicts. As the saying goes, "people to the observation of no friends", between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also the case, in order to make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law friendly to each other, everything is not too clear, in many times, many things should be shown "confused", for both sides of the words and deeds do not deliberately go to explore and analyze, have to be Do not deliberately analyze the words and deeds of both sides, and do not want to distinguish between right and wrong. Ignore the ignore, forget, there is no need to figure out, don't bother to find out, don't always put in the heart, don't forget, we all become simple and simple, in the encounter with the interests associated with the best confused, don't for who more and who less, take advantage of the loss of things on the gold break two, too much, don't count too much too fine and too fine, because we have to know that we are all a family, is a benefit *** The same body, there is no question of gain or loss, if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not to be serious, holding a difficult mentality, then the cause of the incident will naturally be reduced to improve the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to provide a good environment. Third, "avoidance concessions" factors leading to difficulties between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the prevalence of such a phenomenon, that is, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family of the status of the fight and emotional belonging to the contradiction, the son did not become a family before the mother-in-law in the family has absolute authority and status, the mother-in-law has adapted to this model, the formation of this concept, but once the son married his wife, and became a family, then the daughter-in-law that she thinks she is a good person. But once the son marries, the daughter-in-law thinks that she should be an important role in the son's mind, should occupy a certain position, so the daughter-in-law's involvement, once everything to be challenged and impact, the mother-in-law's position in the family to be shaken. The mother-in-law will be somewhat uncomfortable, with a kind of inertia thinking, still intervene and participate in or even interfere in the son's family affairs, reflecting their own wishes, so there is no doubt that there is a lot of time and the son's family has intersected, as a daughter-in-law naturally reluctant to do so, will undoubtedly resist, reject and even resent, as the saying goes, "often moving bricks, only easy to smash the foot! As the saying goes, "often carry bricks, it is easy to smash feet," due to the son's family affairs continue to mix with the daughter-in-law's differences naturally increase, will undoubtedly lead to too much friction, so that mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law are difficult to identify and accept each other. Secondly, as a mother-in-law to bring up her son from childhood, all the love poured into the son, that the son is their only beloved, should belong to their own, not allow others to have. With the daughter-in-law into the door, there is another woman to share and take away their own love, the heart has a great sense of inappropriateness, and as a daughter-in-law, is now that the son is their own love, is their own all, do not allow others to intervene, all of these hearts are potential, and so in this intangible emotional rivalry, each other, and naturally difficult to be tolerant to treat. So in order to family harmony, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law friendly treatment, as mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are to reduce each other's cross places, avoid some unnecessary matters associated with reducing the frequency of mutual involvement in each other's lives, so that the two produced between the chances of disharmony will be reduced in the treatment of family relations as well as emotional support, each adjust their mindset, correct their position, each other do a good job to give each other's concessions, leaving enough The space, then the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law naturally much less dissatisfaction and complaints, to improve the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is extremely favorable.