First, don't treat marriage as a joke. Husband and wife should understand and respect each other. First of all, get to know each other thoroughly before marriage, and learn more about each other's family if possible to avoid unnecessary contradictions and disputes after marriage. Although the pace of social life is very fast now, many people just go home for blind date in the New Year and get married in a few days, but this kind of marriage is just a helpless move. We can reject this form and choose to give up rather than abuse.
Secondly, when we formally get married, it means that we have recognized each other in our hearts, and marriage is sacred. The wedding ceremony is not only for you to collect money, but also an important ceremony to witness the happiness of two people. This shows that in the days after marriage, we should support, trust and rely on each other.
Then after your mother-in-law's birthday, do you think it's appropriate to use overtime as an excuse not to go? Is this overtime really more important than mother-in-law's birthday? Even if it is really more important than your mother-in-law's birthday in your eyes, you can say hello to your husband and mother-in-law and explain why, which is ok.
After all, work, everyone can understand.
Besides, you don't go to your mother-in-law's birthday party because of work. Isn't it normal for your husband to ask your mother to marry your mother-in-law and cook? Do you think this is your husband using your mother as a coolie?
This kind of verbal is to let your mother cook, but you won't let her cook alone, will you? At least let her stay for dinner to celebrate.
In other words, cooking is just a cliche. The real purpose is to invite my mother to celebrate her birthday and connect with her feelings. This kind of thing is normal.
Second, learn to put yourself in others' shoes. Think twice before making a decision. Let's put ourselves in others' shoes. If it's your mother's birthday, and then your husband doesn't attend on the grounds of overtime and doesn't let his family come over, will you be angry again and want to put forward the idea of divorce?
Or, do you think it's appropriate for your husband to ask you for a divorce because of this? Is it confusing?
When two people live together, sometimes it is not perfect. What is important is empathy, tolerance and understanding. Such a marriage will not be too tiring.
If you haggle over every ounce and make a mountain out of a molehill, I really suggest getting a divorce as soon as possible, and don't delay your husband. Maybe it is more suitable to live alone, so there won't be so many miscellaneous troubles.
Finally: after two unrelated people form a family, they must have the consciousness of facing the storm together, and must show their trust, respect, tolerance and understanding to each other, so that the road to marriage can go on for a long time.