In fact, I think that a person feels lonely when he is single, mostly idle! The scary thing is to be naive enough to think that it's because you're not in love. Kids, you can't live well on your own, and you expect to live well with another person in your life in the future? I've always thought that it's much harder to maintain a good life for two people than it is for one. If you enter into a relationship today to get rid of your loneliness, you will end up in loneliness because you have something to look forward to. The only way a person can bring joy and fulfillment to another person is if they have their own life in order. Instead of needing the other person to complete themselves. Of course, it is true that many things are much more convenient and interesting with two people than when they are alone. What is being talked about here is simply a matter of mindset. Once you understand the premise we'll talk about how to have fun and be fulfilled when you're alone.
Many people say that single people have to live a good life such as those who what to cultivate hobbies, work hard, make friends. Although there is a certain truth, but in my opinion is bullshit, who understand that the inner anxiety of the time who can not focus on playing, even when alone, few people are willing to take the rest of the time to work, the feast is full of friends to return home to the feeling of emptiness and loneliness, not to mention that sometimes a person at home with no other voice will be panicked.
I found that people who can't stand being single generally have a **** same characteristics - house + lack of love syndrome. Basically no group activities to participate in, no hobbies, and no very clear life plan or career goals? Weekday: work + sleep. Weekend: surfing the Internet + sleep. The work is busy up okay, a idle, after dinner in addition to cat in the home of the Internet do not know what to do, do not feel empty is strange. If you have something to do every day, you don't have time to dwell on whether you're alone or not.
There are many ways to fill your loneliness, far more than just falling in love. You can read a good book or travel across the world. You can also eat chips and drink yogurt at home to catch up on TV shows, or go to the gym and sweat it out, practice yoga, swim, play tennis, square dance, dance senior Disco?All are ways and means to get rid of loneliness.
Establish your own social circle. You can participate in more group activities: ball games, dinners, travel, singing K, marathon. Since they are all friends, you can join the Zhihu offline activities group and some interest groups, you may not be able to make so many friends at the beginning, but to go out more, more participation, more to recognize and filter, always meet. After forming a circle you can get together from time to time.
The key to solving loneliness is to find something you love that fills the void in your spirit and becomes your spiritual support. Go all in emotionally and make yourself better and better in the process. Gain a more interesting and richer inner world. At this time when you meet that favorite person again, two inner rich and interesting people together, life may become more interesting. And two lonely people in order to get rid of loneliness together, perhaps only more lonely it.
Cultivate hobbies that are suitable for a person to participate in. For example, a fitness activity could be running three times a week. Or learn a skill that brings you joy: swimming, dancing, photography, cooking. Keep learning and enriching your brain. For example: professional knowledge and skills that are useful for your work, books that enrich your soul and help you understand life. Have three or two close friends to talk about things. Life's unhappiness, work pressure, accumulated pressure for a long time, people will be tired. Talking can properly relieve this pressure. Maybe this works better for girls. Boys seem to be more inclined to digest their own emotions and bear the heart.
There are always times in life when you feel empty and lonely, and some people are lonely for just a moment, while others are lonely all the time. I think the people who always feel lonely this time to reflect on their own, to see if it is too little homework, too little tuition, too early from work, the work is not saturated? Idle out of loneliness.
Witnessed the hot female colleagues rushed to date and mindless work, and single me is very focused on the work, can feel their own growth, as well as the boss with the growing favorite, gradually understand why when the boss of the people are mostly late marriage, single for a long, long time. I am not talking about to work and single, but, since you are single, why not take the lonely time to work to one hundred and twenty percent, work and feelings are different, pay a point, more or less always return.
We usually communicate with our friends, relatives and parents. More and loved ones contact can discharge the inner sense of isolation. Because the family is always concerned about and support you, but also a lot of travelers outside the work of the power and warmth of the source. So, from now on, take the time you spend obsessing about whether or not I'm alone and whether or not I'm unhappy and make some long-term investments in your life. Here, I think two things you will never regret investing in: investment in health and investment in knowledge.
Just incorporate exercise into the rhythm of your life and soon you will never feel lonely again! Like I have to go to the gym 3-4 times a week and do strength training with a 7-10km jog on the side, the biggest worry for me instead is how I'll find the time to do this without being single.
Occasionally I feel chilled out when I'm home alone, but most of the time I still feel free to be alone and not have to care about anything or take care of anything. You don't have to set aside time every day to chat with someone, you don't have to think about whether she really went to sleep after this good night, you don't have to coax anyone even if you originally felt that you were right. You don't have to think about what you're going to eat for two, you don't have to think about what you're going to do on the weekend, you don't have to think about who's going to be who in the future, you can order takeout if you're alone, and you can stay at home on the weekends.
I was once burdened by being in a relationship. If you blindly enter a relationship without finding someone who is like-minded and interesting, not only will it not be fulfilling, but it will lead you into the abyss of a bad situation. So, be careful when deciding on a relationship. A good quality relationship will fulfill you, and a bad one will wear you down.
When you've been single for a long time, you're really afraid that someone is going to pop into your life and then leave. It is clear that you are living a good life, but two people are not suitable for each other. There is a sense of unease that the rhythm of life is suddenly disrupted. Like a kitten hiding behind the cardboard under the bed, someone takes away the cardboard and then drags it out from under the bed, saying there is a new friend for you to meet. It can feel like a chore to spend time with a lover, especially when most relationships will be built on sacrificing your own preferences and time to please the other person.
Everyone understands that you can't concentrate on having fun when you're anxious, and even when you're alone, few people are willing to spend their downtime working, and you're more likely to feel empty and lonely when you return home after a banquet full of friends, not to mention the fact that some people get panicky when they're home alone with no other voices. So I think to live a good single life is also need to talent, first of all you have to itself is a quiet nature ah!
It's not that I don't envy those lovers who are in pairs, and I would like to have someone with me once in a while, but in the long run it's difficult to get along, as if I don't have the courage and perseverance to be with someone. Will be eager to embrace with someone, but afraid to embrace after a long time apart, or after the entanglement of each other pretending not to know, more like not want to embrace the person. I've always heard people say that people who are not in love are unwilling to settle, and there are even times when I don't even have someone I can settle with, and it's all just a rush to get here and a rush to get away.
Single life is a good life is a thousand trees pear blossom, not good is a sad cloud miserable Wanli condensation, all depends on personal character and cultivation. Of course, if you and I as single life is full of freedom, there is a side effect, that is, the requirements of the relationship is higher, more reluctant to casually go to love, without the "lonely" this "power", I think it is also going to be left longer, haha!
Don't think it's normal to have to fall in love at such an age. The ideal state of a person is to be able to maintain a good state of mind and a positive attitude towards life in any state. The fact is that a person can also be a very good life.