Why do you have to like young people? Old are old, but also to go to desperately like people, this life is not tired, in the end for whom to live ah.
What is it like to be old and wear an old-fashioned hat? In the morning in the neighborhood slipped Pomeranian, encountered 16 buildings slipped with the golden hair of the old lady Wang, nagging to talk about family life? In the evening, go to the square to dance with your old arms and legs that can't be stretched? Intervene in your children's household chores? You imagine the old look, in the above picture run back and forth between the poor imagination you do not want to think of the oldest old people have 10,000 kinds of appearance, you only want to think, the old man, it should have a disgusting look.
Nothing to do, broken mouth, stubborn and brutal, refused to change ...... to the elderly stamp, you feel unusually easy and effortless. Many young people only know to draw a line with the elderly, ridicule their demeanor and thinking, mouth smacks body smacks that they will never become that way when they are old. Do you know what older people think of you? Childish, arrogant, egotistical, impetuous, take for granted ...... It seems to be no effort to give you a stamp of approval? But the elderly will not easily go to reject you, even if he thinks you are a mouth full of unrealistic brats, look, laugh, they will still be willing to admit that the world or your, you young fashion, really good. Over is over, their once, is you guys over, so over does not count, over tolerance.
There is a shameful notion that the title of this value-oriented. Both want others to understand, but also to abandon others. How do people who will be old feel about one side of the resistance to them as a group, but also the other side of the conviction that the reason for so doing is another group of young people to tell them, you are different from us so you have to understand us to do so? Don't be such a double standard bitch.
What is true understanding you know? It's just to live your own life and don't tell anyone who to do what they want. Older people make themselves streetwise and individualized not because he's trying to blend in with you guys, but because he's lived too long and he knows to be himself. Older people make themselves old-fashioned, and not on purpose to make a look out of touch with the world, he knows what is comfortable.
On the other hand, you, with the present high and mighty look to figure out another you do not see into the eyes of the look, have you ever thought that will be your future? The future is going to be old, and when the future embraces you, don't take the present for granted.
You live your present, they live the rest of their lives. The first thing you need to do is to get a good understanding of how to use the Internet and how to use the Internet in your life. Experience and age, grinding a weapon to each of the elderly, they are carrying weapons never point to you to say that you want to crossfire, why do you need to be naked and blades to each other?
The old is not shameful, the old did not get in the way of anyone's business, or get in the way of their own business did not give you a blockade, you say you are very disgusting and shameful.
Young is shameful, desperately want everyone to like them, lose the appearance of self, and rashly accuse others, very shameful.
My in-laws are a great example. My parents-in-law are over 60 years old, and their two sons and daughters-in-law have never disliked them, but instead respect them.
My husband and I were introduced to each other by a friend, and our families live 40 minutes apart. We got along for a while and found each other quite suitable, so we went home to meet our parents at the end of that year.
The first time I saw my future parents-in-law, I was really nervous. However, after meeting them, I realized that the two old men are very easy-going people, so I put my heart in my stomach.
My father-in-law opened his own pig farm some years ago, and now it has been transferred to someone else; my mother-in-law opened a small clinic at home, and the business is not bad.
My mother heard that my husband's family is two sons, always advised me to think twice: "In the future, not only the mother-in-law relationship, there are also sister-in-law relationship, you can not think of such a simple.
I advised my mom not to worry about this kind of heart: "Your future in-laws are sensible people, you don't have to worry about this first."
On the 23rd day of the year, my husband's family came to my home to propose marriage. The mother-in-law also spoke directly at the dinner table: "Lili parents, I'm also a stupid person, not very good at talking, but I'm a person, straight to the point, if I say anything wrong, you also please bear with me."
My parents smiled and said, "No, no, we also have a say."
My mother-in-law said: "Then I will not beat around the bush, you know, we have two sons, Xiaowei his brother married a few years ago, we gave 150,000 dowry, and now Xiaowei this we also plan to press this standard. The first time I saw this, it was a very good idea for me to go back to my old school, and I was very happy.
At that time, 150,000 is not a small amount of money in our place, my parents do not have any requirements for the bride price. But my parents have a condition, because I am an only child, my parents want to have a child in the future can follow the mother's name.
My parents-in-law said, "We don't have a problem with that, and besides, it's the mother's hardest job to carry a baby to term.
My mom said that she was very happy with her in-laws because of this, and that they were really sensible people.
After the wedding, the in-laws took the initiative to pack up the county house and moved back to their hometown.
I also said: "Dad, mom, you go back like this, people don't know what to say I'm this daughter-in-law to drive you out of it."
My mother-in-law smiled and said: "We want to go back to live, you two just got married, we live together more or less inconvenient."
I said: "There is nothing inconvenient about it."
My mother-in-law said, "You don't have a child yet, so it's good to have a life together, and we'll come back if you have a child and want our help."
At that moment, I was really warmed up, and such a sensible mother-in-law is really rare.
One year after the wedding, I was pregnant, and the day I was confirmed pregnant, my mother-in-law said she wanted to move here to take care of me.
Three meals a day, always changing the pattern to do me, the whole pregnancy I gained 40 pounds.
In the later stages, my mother-in-law discussed with me, "Lili, you should go to a monthly center.
I said, "The center is very expensive, so don't waste your money."
My mother-in-law said: "That's no good, now the Internet are talking about what the month of hatred is not **** Dai Tian, postpartum women which, was emotionally unstable, and then if I two in the birth of any suspicion that it is not even more costly.
I laughed and said, "Mom, in your eyes, I'm the one who is unreasonable."
My mother-in-law said, "Of course not, we didn't have this kind of treatment back then. Now that we have the ability to do so, we should let your next generation enjoy themselves. We can't let you suffer anymore."
The children are not the only ones who have suffered a lot.
When the child was half a year old, I was ready to go to work, and my mother-in-law was afraid that she couldn't handle the child by herself, so she asked my father-in-law to come and help.
I was a little worried at first, after all, my father-in-law is a man, living together will be more or less inconvenient.
But I didn't have the problems I thought I would have with my father-in-law.
My parents are very careful about personal hygiene, and my father-in-law has never worn an undershirt at home.
Usually when I'm home alone with my father-in-law, he'll take the initiative to find a reason to go out and walk around the neighborhood, just to avoid embarrassment.
My father-in-law will never enter our room, something is standing outside the door far away to say, mother-in-law into the room is first knocked on the door to get permission before coming in.
The first thing I've noticed is that I've been a smoker for more than 40 years, but since we've been living together, I've been trying to quit, and I've been going to the stairwells to smoke a couple of cigarettes.
All these small details, I feel that I have been respected.
In terms of feeding and educating children, my mother-in-law would also take the initiative to ask me for parenting knowledge.
I even laughed at her: "You've been a doctor for most of your life, you still need to learn from me."
My mother-in-law said, "You're always laughing at me. Nowadays, we are talking about scientific parenting, so I should abandon those old ideas."
One day, I had to go to the hospital to see a doctor.
Once the child threw the bowl in a tantrum, I grabbed him and beat him up.
Afterwards, I asked her, "Mom. I'm sorry, but I don't know if you're going to be able to get away with this.
My mother-in-law said, "How can I not hurt, I hurt a lot."
I asked her, "Then why didn't you stop me?"
My mother-in-law laughed and said, "You are a mother who educates her children, and if I stop you, it's not against you. If the child knows that there is someone to support him, it will be difficult to teach him."
Honestly, it's rare to find a grandparent who is so clear.
Every time I argue with my husband, my mother-in-law avoids the issue. I asked my mother-in-law, "Other people's parents are to persuade the fight, you are good, directly away?"
My mother-in-law said: "This is a matter for you two couples, we do not get involved, as the saying goes, couples fight at the beginning of the bed and the end of the bed, we do this as a parent of a blend can not be so."
Before I bought the courier will quietly take home, afraid of mother-in-law said I spend money.
I didn't realize I was testing my mother-in-law, but she said, "Women should buy buy buy, what's wrong with that."
Since then, every time I get a delivery, I share the joy of unpacking with my mother-in-law.
Last year, my husband's brother changed his house, and my parents-in-law gave me 200,000 dollars.
The family dinner time, mother-in-law said: "The oldest of these 200,000, is considered to be our two old man to give, the oldest two now do not buy a house, this money we can not be less, in the future you want to do business, this 200,000 mom to you to save."
In fact, not to mention 200,000, usually even to buy toys for their grandchildren, in-laws will choose the price is equivalent, never favor who.
Although we have two sons, we have never had a fight between our sisters-in-law.
My in-laws never said anything like I've eaten more salt than you've eaten rice, and I've traveled more than you've traveled more than you've traveled.
The family will discuss with us the big and small things, according to their words: "We are now old, now is your young people's world, we contact with the new things is not as much as you, naturally, or to listen to more of your idea."
I think such an old man, no one will mind.
I have summarized the points of how the elderly can do not be disliked:
① respect for the daughter-in-law and her family;
② take the initiative to withdraw from the young people's life;
③ pay attention to personal hygiene, and develop good
④ Do not interfere in the private life of sons and daughters-in-law;
⑤ Do not intervene too much in the upbringing and care of the next generation.
⑥ Treat your children as fairly as possible;
⑦ Do not rely on the old, willing to accept new things with an open mind.
This question is very close to my heart because we often discuss it in the office. Especially when I see some of the old people around me acting in a particularly offensive way, I'm often reminded not to make that mistake in my old age.
I think if you do not let the young people dislike it? First of all, we must have a good body, as the saying goes, there is no filial son before the bed, especially nowadays, the children are not always around to work, let them stop working to take care of the elderly is too difficult for the children. So when you can still move, try to exercise more, let your body great, this is not only for their own good, but also for the sake of the children, less to them to increase the trouble.
In fact, we need to keep learning, especially the emerging social software, and so on, so that we can video chat with our children when they are not with us, and at least we know how to use it, and we don't need to be taught by our children, but we don't have the patience to teach our parents how to use it.
There is also the need to learn to have some reservations, not to make their own money all used in the children. As an elderly person, there are three treasures around, the day will be more comfortable. First, there is the old nest, do not have to go to the children's side of the gas, but also do not give the children angry. Secondly, there is the old capital, do not have to reach out to their children to ask for money, to achieve self-sufficiency, the three best when there is an old companion, at least you can talk to pass the time, headache and brainache have a caring person at the side.
The most important point is to maintain a happy mood, do not save money, do not be careful, generous, optimistic, so that you can laugh at everything.
When we are old, live so many years, should have seen through everything, everything practiced, the eye of the world.
We should know tolerance, openness and generosity. Young people are always not well thought out, immaturity is their true colors. We are young is not so over? Why be harsh on them and bring unhappiness to yourself and them? Turning a blind eye and being wise is the only way to be truly wise.
We should know how to put it down, no longer count, no longer seek. All of them have been a cloud of smoke, regrettable or not, successful or not. It's almost time to get into the ground, and what's the use of caring about it? In time, put it down, give yourself a frank, to the soul of a home.
We should know how to be contented and happy. To be able to live to this age has been very difficult, than those who left the field in the middle of the lucky more. Then, we should be satisfied with everything around us, with everything we encountered, not to be picky, not to complain. Enjoy your last moments.
We should love clean, not sloppy, not ragged. Let yourself clean and fresh every day, at least you are comfortable, and the young people will not mind.
Finally, be happy, happy, optimistic about the rest of your life.
Every day now is a precious gift from God.
The first thing you need to do is to live one day at a time.
In this era of dramatic and rapid change, the experience of older people has been basically worthless, and the fresh lifestyle, fresh state of life is very different from the past. When you are old, you should admit that you can't keep up with the times, and you should recognize that this is the world of the young. You only belong to the history, quietly look at the back of the sail away, enthusiastic encouragement and affirmation of young people, and this world, and young people to reach a reconciliation, to achieve harmony **** life. Not to be disliked by the young people, should do the following:
First of all, we must maintain a positive and optimistic mindset. To look at young people with more appreciation, instead of feeling that they have no hair on their mouths, not firm, impulsive and reckless, not as experienced as you, you should recognize the young people's way of thinking and young people's measures to solve the problem, is adapted to the times, perhaps you are not used to seeing, but often more effective.
Secondly, to maintain the spirit of learning and the attitude of curiosity about the world. A good learning, and constantly ask people around the person, everyone is always willing to accept and voluntary help, even if he will make many elementary mistakes. Learning always leads to progress, and progress can be synchronized with the world, and thus also with young people have **** the same interests, hobbies and a basis for dialogue. At the same time, to maintain curiosity about the world, have the spirit of exploration, will also slow down the pace of aging.
Third, a healthy body. A bad body is difficult to continue to maintain an optimistic mentality, at the same time, will inevitably need to take care of the young people, then the young people have so many things, they are working for the cause, how can have time to take care of you? No filial son before the bed of a long illness, dragging others down, and their own increased sense of guilt, everyone is adversely affected.
The fourth is to have their own life circle. People are social animals, inevitably seeking groups, to obtain a sense of value identity. When you get older, you should have your own hobbies and interests, and try to have some expertise in a certain field, so that you can find your own circle, and get mutual help and appreciation in the circle, which is not completely detached from the society, and will not bother the young people's life, and at the same time, you may also have some help and leadership to the young people.
Fifthly, we need to have appropriate life goals. Although it is said that life will end, but with the improvement of living conditions, the human life expectancy is also prolonged, to have a clear goal, and work hard for it, so that will also be respected by young people. People who have ideals and practice them, regardless of whether they are humble or prominent, command respect. Thus, young people will take the initiative to be friends with you, to learn from your life experience, your light and heat will continue to play out.
Our country is a state of propriety, advocating the behavior of respect for the elderly and love for children. So, how can you do it yourself when you are old and not be disliked by the young? Please come with me to learn it!
First, abide by social morality. The elderly must have the appearance of the elderly, never in front of young people to rely on the old. For example, the elderly do not work, live, rest in people's loud noise; do not form a mob team, unscrupulous in the middle of the road or crowded places through; in the bus does not go to force young people to give up their seats. Can sympathize with young people's hard work and helplessness when squeezing the bus. Try to do young people on and off duty time period does not go out, do not give young people add to the traffic jam.
Second, have a generous mind. Elderly people should not be catty, anyone can be approachable, kind and amiable. To win the respect of young people, the elderly should learn to care for young people, everywhere to become a role model for young people.
Third, there is a positive spirit. People grow old, learn old, but also struggle to the old. Older people who are unkempt and muddled all day long will not be respected by young people and will be disliked by young people. Therefore, the elderly should not be rigid in their thinking. Their own rich experience accumulated in life, can go to influence the growth of young people.
Fourth, self-discipline, healthy thinking. Nowadays, there are very few elderly people by the young people dislike or curse, is because they are on their own behavior. Such as smoking and drinking in public **** place; in crowded places on the woman's hands; scolding the young people who do not give up their seats in a timely manner; in the home for no reason to abuse their sons and daughters-in-law; crowded to others to say a long time ...... the elderly, once the outrageous behavior, not only by the young people's dislike, and perhaps also by the sanctions of the law.
So, the elderly to not be disliked by young people, first of all do well. Do it economically, charismatic personality, and admired for its quality!
Know the old and understand the old, not to sell the old.
1. Live independently and autonomously, try to stay away from them as far as possible, try not to disturb and trouble them.
2. If you don't have the **** same language, try to communicate and contact as little as possible.
3. Young people's occasions, resolutely do not participate.
4. Have their own habits and enjoyment of life.
5. In daily life, many things do not listen, do not ask and do not say.
6. You go your way, I go my way.
First: the body must be well maintained
Second: do a good job of economic planning, can help the children absolutely do not look for the children to ask for money
Third: adhere to the study of the newspaper, do not be old and blurred what do not know, can be in the cell phone bank on the purchase of electricity, water, payment of bills and what to master, try not to be too out of date
Fourth: the children need to help, and obliged to, and do not need immediately back to their own homes.
Fifth: son daughter-in-law conflict must stand on the side of the daughter-in-law to criticize the son, to daughter-in-law to smooth the air
Old, want to not be obnoxious, we have to pretend to be deaf and dumb, even if you are not deaf and dumb, not accustomed to things, as long as it is not the principle of the error, do not say it, for example: the day is not too dark on the light, the TV is often open all day, sleep to very late to get up
The first is to make sure that you are not too dark. late to get up ......
As a senior citizen, no matter how much contribution you made to the family when you were young, do not always put on the heart, the past let him pass, everything to face the future!
The elderly in order not to let the young people dislike, they have to read more books and news, read all aspects of the article, to enhance their thinking, to keep up with the modern form of social development, to prevent being eliminated by society, to prevent the generation gap with their children.
The life of the elderly should be regular, nutrition should be balanced, maintain regular exercise, such as; walking, tai chi, singing, dancing, etc., more suitable for the elderly to participate in exercise activities, the elderly health is very favorable, as long as the body is healthy, will not be tired of their children to wait for their own children do not give them an unnecessary burden.
We older people if the economic problems, physical health, and children to talk about no generation gap, there is a harmonious and warm family, is each of us older people *** with the same expectations.
So the elderly to keep a clear mind, maintain a healthy body, talk and do things to keep up with the current situation, do not give their children trouble, if they have the ability to, but also try to help their children to do some of the chores within their reach.
I believe that such an elderly person how can make children dislike it?