It is said that once a person enters the middle age, they gradually learn the ways of the world, gradually become smooth and sophisticated, and will not easily show their true feelings and ideas.
But in fact, for many people, to the middle age still have their own passion for life, but also have a sharp view of many things. Maybe it's because the times are changing, and many of the original judgments of life experience are changing.
In the past, when it comes to women in their fifties, they would feel that they are almost in their old age, but nowadays, in our society, women in their fifties are still very energetic and look very young.
There are also women who still have the idea of falling in love when they are over fifty.
So, after fifty years of age, women are still in love, what do they want?
01
When it comes to philandering, the first thing that comes to mind is the words scum, scum, once a person is very philandering in the world of love, then, most of the lack of true love, only want to play the type of people.
So, for women in the age group of fifty, why do they still want to seek affection outside of marriage and be defined as philanderers and scum women?
The neighbor's Sister Fu has just turned fifty, and in her own words, her marriage is just for keeps.
Married for more than twenty years, the two have also quarreled all their lives, and even their children have advised them to simply separate.
But her husband is a very traditional-minded person who thinks that divorce is a loss of face, so despite the couple's longstanding discord, he was determined not to divorce.
Today, the two have been separated for almost five years, and in the past five years, the two have been living their own lives, and only on New Year's holidays will they sit down with their children to get together.
Pay sister said, such a marriage I originally also can not accept, but he is not divorced, to the court I do not have the courage to temporarily, the first drag it.
Because of this state of marriage, Fu very much want to find an emotional support, she is an outgoing and lively people, so whether in the square dance, or outing groups, she is very good people.
She confessed that she has also had feelings outside marriage, in fact, many times, it seems to be more like a kind of comfort and support, they have never experienced the warmth of marriage in their lives, and do not want to live like this for the rest of their lives.
Fu said, there are also people who say that I am philandering, that I am not serious about my feelings and have no respect for marriage.
But who can know the pain I went through?
I think my so-called philandering is actually trying to find some warmth, and once I really find a suitable home for my feelings, then I won't be able to drag it out like this, and will sort out my marriage, even if it means a lawsuit for divorce.
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Mrs. Feng is 53 years old, and her experience speaks for itself.
Ms. Feng herself does artistic work, which is not quite the same as other jobs, either in terms of the nature of her work or her working hours.
And because of her artistic work, she is unique in her aesthetic and pursuits, and is always a bright sight whenever she appears on the street.
But when it comes to her marriage, she also has a hard time saying what she feels.
When the marriage was introduced by her parents, she listened to them very much in those days, and after marrying each other, the days were quite peaceful.
However, as she began to enter the art profession in her middle age, the couple's conflicts became deeper and deeper, with her husband believing that her work was a bit unprofessional, and her criticizing her husband for not knowing about art and for not respecting her career pursuits.
As time goes by, the two people's differences are getting bigger and bigger, and over time, the couple's relationship is getting colder and colder, and nowadays it's just a matter of each being busy with their own business, with very few chances to see each other.
For Ms. Feng, she also has her own emotional pursuit, perennial emotional dryness, so that she is always trying to find true love outside the marriage, is to get some of the warmth of life.
Conclusion:
In fact, it can be seen from the two ladies, the marriage is in a dead-end state, but did not have the courage to go to the step of divorce.
But not willing to be so cold life, so choose to seek affection outside the marriage.
However, such an approach will often be considered by others as a game of life, irresponsible for feelings and marriage.
So, for everyone, no matter how many misfortunes and ups and downs they have experienced, it is actually the right thing to do to sort out their relationship status and be responsible for themselves and others.