Wen | Snowfall
It is not difficult to find, want to live a good life now, can not be too idle, busy, only want to busy things around.
But once a person is idle, there are many things around for no reason.
And people are also so, if the side is idle, that probability will also let you become idle.
Chatting about other people's gossip or doing things together that kill time and are pointless.
But because the people around you are so idle, you'd be out of place if you weren't a little more idle, and even if you wanted to try to get ahead, you'd be dragged down by them.
Don't be too idle yourself on the one hand, but at the same time stay away from people who are too idle for your own sake.
In real life, people with brains are never friends with those who are "too idle".
01
Before there is such a friend, he is idle to what extent? He would call you every day to ask you out.
Every time he called, I would know that he must have invited me to have dinner together again.
And so it was, eating with a table of people who were not very familiar and who were nodding acquaintances to their friends.
After dinner, we went to KTV, where we sang and played cards and chatted until midnight, and went home in the bright moonlight.
In fact, my friend is very good, warm and sincere. The first thing I'd like to say is that I have a habit of calling a group of people to drink and eat together.
I went a few times and found that the people he was with were similar to him, with a leisurely job, and didn't know what to do after work.
So they ate and drank together, talking about other people's business or meaningless topics, sometimes drinking until midnight without rushing home.
I was very anxious to go home. I chose to leave early because I woke up early for work the next day, but they treated me as an oddball, and my friends even blamed me for intentionally finding a reason to leave.
Sometimes when people are too idle, they become prone to rambling, and when they think more, they have more negative emotions, which also invites negative energy to you.
In fact, socializing with people who are too idle is a drain on us.
Wasting his own time, and at the same time will require others to spend time as he does.
Because of this, we need to withdraw from such circles, although it also takes some courage to do so.
In fact, the penetrating people, know and idle people to maintain a suitable distance, they never because of the idle people, to waste their time.
There was a movie called "Paddy's Hot Chicks", which tells the story of a mediocre girl who eventually rebounded.
She used to eat and drink every day with her mates and her grades went down the drain.
Her mother was so anxious that she sent her to a cram school. Unexpectedly, the tutorial teacher helped the girl and the girl's attitude changed.
In order to get into college, she studied hard every day, and her previous sisters, who still lived the same days as they once did, sometimes took the initiative to call her, but they were all rejected by her.
Finally, the girl got into the desired university.
In fact, we are always surrounded by friends who are similar to the girl's sisters and are more idle, so that we become less progressive.
They think that even if they go to work hard later there will be no reward. Those women who work hard, in the end, still have to go to marriage and have children.
Those who want to improve their education, in the end, it is not the same as them, the efforts of others as a blind fold.
The influence of idle friends on you is subtle, at first you do not feel, time is long, to slowly understand.
Only by rejecting them, you can work hard and your motivation will not be denied.
02
Why can't you get along with people who are too idle?
Because people who are too idle have more time and don't know what to do, their emotions will become sensitive, they will like to think blindly, and it will be difficult for them, and they will also make the people around them unhappy.
If you have a very idle person around you, you will know how much trouble.
If you are surrounded by family members who are very idle, they will not be in front of you all day long spouting about marriage and why they are not married and have children.
If your relatives are idle, they will be together to talk about your gossip, will guess your income, and relationship problems and so on the situation.
With such idle people around, he will spread the quarrel between you and your partner to everyone's ears, and your accidental wrong words will be amplified by the people who have the intention to do so.
If your buddy is idle, he'll always be looking for you to come out, no offense, just that he has a lot of time on his hands.
While it's normal socializing for him, it's intrusive for you.
The things you are exposed to are also slowly starting to change, he may be looking at the scenery while you are looking at work papers.
With him, his time is free, but yours is squeezed out.
In case you are very busy yourself, both in life and at work, distance yourself from people who are too idle.
Because they want too much, you can not spend so much energy and time with him. And too idle, easy to make a thing complicated.
For example, one look and one word, they will think too much, and it becomes difficult to maintain a relationship with them.
For example, if the other person is your family, then let them do something else, it can be reading, or go dancing, develop a hobby.
Compared with other people chatting about gossip, this life will also be more interesting and more fulfilling. In fact, it's not that life is boring, it may be us who are bored.
03
Once in the Internet to see such a story, before the girl has a friend, very much like to chat shopping.
Almost every day to chat on the phone, but also move to call her out to shop for clothes.
She because she goes to work, there are a lot of things to do every day, but can not stand her to send a message to ask, had to chat with her and other friends.
Not two days and came back to her, around has changed a few people. In this way she went a few times, really can not hold out, took the initiative to say to her, there are things to find her, and now she works a lot, the party will not go.
After saying that, she found her life became much easier.
In fact, we always think of being comfortable and living an idle life, with nothing to do every day, without our efforts and thinking.
In the short term, we may feel enjoyment, but after a long time, we feel life is too boring.
Life is not long, be sure to stay away from a kind of people, he will bring "bad" you, is the kind of people who are too idle.
In fact, there are too many things to do in our life, don't spend your time on people and things that are not worth.
Let's block out meaningless socializing and keep ourselves busy so that life can see high returns.