Goodwill lies itself is a lie, this is unquestionable. Lies, lying is cheating, cheating is immoral, immoral things are not popular, these are playing small teachers and elders have been assiduously taught. But we ask ourselves, and who has not told lies? Whether it is to their loved ones, friends, or do not know each other, there are many kinds of purposes, but when we add a lie to the "good intentions", as if everyone may accept it, which is precisely the weakness of human nature is the focus of the performance.
Mark Twain once said this. Twain once said, "When you can't make up your mind, tell the truth. It will embarrass your opponents and relieve your friends." Therefore, the point of view of psychologists is: do not easily lie, even if it is a good lie.
[Opposite]:
When a poor mother leaves the only meal for her children, while concealing the fact that she is still hungry, do you still want to accuse a kind and noble mother's love of "dishonesty"? In fact, life everywhere we can see the shadow of the good intentioned lies, from the comfort of the sick bed with tears to politely reject the polite, from the love of the sea to the poet's beautiful exaggerated, but they are not so terrible, so that the other side of the defense to talk about the "lie" and change.
[Positive]:
Please note that even if it is a well-intentioned lie, but as a lie itself, it is already contrary to the integrity of the behavior, so, regardless of whether the lie is in a good purpose, as a lie itself will certainly hinder the integrity. Therefore, here I would like to raise my voice, let us reject the well-intentioned lies, *** together to build a society of integrity.
[Opposite]:
The other side of a discourse, pointed out that when a person is faced with two kinds of obligations, when contradicting each other, to alleviate the other party's obligations. But the positive side of the first argument does not argue that good lies and honesty are contradictory ah. How can we directly conclude that a well-intentioned lie must alleviate the obligation of good faith? Please note that the other side of the defense has clearly stated that the lie itself should have the function of deception, only malicious lies are out of deception, please do not narrow the concept of "lie".
[Positive]:
Please note that there is a big omission in your defense. We believe that the first thing to distinguish between things should start from the definition of the elaboration, comprehensive KangXi dictionary interpretation, good faith lies is not factual, say false, falsehood, exaggerate, cover up, distort the truth. From the well-intentioned lie phrase structure to start the analysis, it is a partial phrase, the center word is lie, so the well-intentioned lie is essentially a lie. Although the motive of the well-intentioned lies for good intentions, but because of the good intentions itself there is a certain degree of uncertainty, and thus repeatedly by some "professional liars" to take advantage of - this is an indisputable fact. The "lie" itself is dark, the good and bad things are not measured by the purpose of things, the good intention of the lie itself is false. Although it faded away the beggar clothes put on the cheongsam, but still can not get rid of the essence of its lies, and lies mean deception, thus impeding the integrity. The starting point of the lie is good, but often this lie once punctured, the other side of the harm will be deeper, as the lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior.
In China **** Central announced the "Citizen Moral Construction Implementation Program" in the proposed 20 words of moral norms, "integrity" is a very important norms, integrity is to seek "true", is the pursuit of justice. The ancients said that "truthfulness" is the most sincere of all. The first time I saw this, it was a very important part of my life, and it was a very important part of my life.
As General Secretary Hu Jintao said in his speech: "The harmonious socialist society we are trying to build should be a society characterized by democracy and the rule of law, fairness and justice, honesty and friendship, vitality, stability and order, and harmony between man and nature."
Through the above multi-faceted analysis, we believe that no matter whether a lie is in a good purpose or not, as a lie is bound to hinder integrity.
[Opposite]:
Good lies and integrity are different categories of moral norms, and will not be contradictory, just as a car will not crash into an airplane. Integrity: letter, Chinese culture, "faith" and "righteousness" constitute "faith and righteousness", is a humanistic spirit, the code of conduct. "Faith" and "sincerity" are connected to form the "integrity" of this moral code, is the Poi Lai Pin, modern Western jurisprudence sages put forward the "contractual society The concept of "contract society", the relationship between people are contractual relationships, in such a society, integrity is the bottom line of social morality, China's establishment of a market economy, to establish a standardized and orderly market, integrity has also become the most important criterion. Therefore, the modern sense of "integrity" is the market operation of the moral code.
Goodwill lies, from the starting point and the result of all kinds of goodwill lies, are to protect each other's feelings, to maintain each other's mental health and pleasure, is a kind of humanism. Due to the existence of well-intentioned lies, the world has become a better, more cozy, more harmonious, the world will be full of love, full of sunshine, children grow up healthily, the elderly enjoy their old age, the patient is full of hope.
So, these are two different areas of the moral code, will not conflict with each other, contradict each other, the good lie will not hinder the integrity. A well-intentioned lie is not a "lie" (a malicious lie), just as a whale in the sea is not a fish, and a mouse is not a rat.
[Positive]:
Please note that the other side of the first defense, both lies? What is goodwill? That is, good intentions! Why lie?
Lies, although for good intentions, but as a lie itself, has been contrary to the integrity of the behavior, so whether the lie is in a good purpose, as a lie is bound to hinder the integrity. With the spirit of the nation to a twilight look back, it turns out that the integrity is actually in the lights. Separated by thousands of years, can still clearly hear: integrity is the virtue of the Chinese nation, just like the Great Wall is the symbol of the Chinese nation. A person who loses integrity to leave is hypocrisy: a business if the loss of integrity will face bankruptcy then machine; and a nation if the loss of integrity will be on the fall and death! Keeping faith with the integrity of the integrity of a clean land, keep faith with the integrity of the letter to stay in the success, keep faith with the integrity of the Chinese nation can be eternal. Here I would like to ask the other students, when a person in the loss of integrity, his starting point or good intentions?
[Opposite]:
Please note that the other side of the debaters, we are today I debate whether the good intention of the lies impede the integrity, rather than discussing the dishonesty of the person whether there is still good intentions. Please get the cause and effect logic right. The other side of the defense said that since it is a lie how to goodwill, whether the existence of goodwill lies doubt, since there is no goodwill lies our today's discussion is still meaningful?
[Positive]:
No need, why are we sitting here debating?
The so-called well-intentioned lies can also lead to unforeseen consequences. And give an example: someone is terminally ill, in order to let him live the rest of his life in peace, family and friends unanimously to hide him, which is in no way malicious, and in no way self-interest, but often fails to be as good as it should be, the deception can not be sustained, but instead, the patient loses the rationality to cooperate with the treatment and to deal with the personal affairs of the time. The female philosopher Sisera? Polk warned that such lies can place a person on the verge of a major personality slide. In her book, Lying, Moral Choices in Public **** and Private Life, she writes: " Psychological barriers are removed, the ability to discern truth from falsehood becomes more blurred, and the notion that a lie will not be detected may tend toward paranoia..." Some psychologists who have studied the phenomenon of lying suggest that anyone who wants to tell a " well-intentioned lie" to a friend, relative, or coworker would do well to consider a question that involves the psychological reaction of whether the other person would thank you for your kindness if they knew the truth, or whether they would feel that their long-standing trust in you had been hurt by you.
[Counter]:
The other apologist has already acknowledged the existence of well-intentioned lies. Family and friends don't interfere with treatment, in fact they are for the better, and stress only affects the condition. A mother divorced her husband when the child didn't know any better, and this mother told the child that your father was a seaman and was now abroad and would be back in a few days. The child was full of expectations of life and never suffered or felt inferior because of the lack of a member of his family - his father. Later, when the mother found a new husband and started a new family, she told the child: Your father is back from abroad. As a result, there was no gap between the child and his father, and the father treated the child as if he were his own because the child did not see him as a stranger. The father also treated the child as if he were his own. He tutored the child every day, and the child grew up healthily and became a student of a famous university. When one day the child graduates from college, she finally realizes that her father is not her real father, and although she also cries and is distressed that she has been deceived, he will eventually understand that his mother was right to do so, otherwise she would not have had a happy childhood, a healthy mind, good academic achievements, a happy family, a... ...(so much more).
May I ask the other apologist to ask himself, who in the world would doubt the character and integrity of the other person because of a well-intentioned lie?
[Positive]:
"A well-intentioned lie is more of an excuse" !
Anyone who uses an excuse wants to use it to protect themselves or others. To help us save face so we can endure frustration.
Gesmer said, "It is quite common to think that you are better than you really are." The excuses people come up with are sometimes unexpected. Why do people delude themselves? The American humorist Laidlaw noted, "Most people live not in reality but in fantasy, especially about themselves." Then again, knowing the truth about yourself and your friends is sometimes so brutal that it's best not to know.
Yet most excuses are destructive. Using excuses unconsciously can fool others, if not yourself. So I ask the other person to realize that more honesty and less excuses! At the same time I would like to ask the other side, if we all have this view, how can we create a society of integrity and how can we make our country grow more in integrity?
[Opposite]:
People always give a derogatory meaning to lies habitually. This is because of the crisis of integrity in today's society, in fact, lies are neutral. Even if today's society puts forward the integrity of morality, there is no requirement to speak the truth in all kinds of circumstances, do not allow the existence of lies, good faith lies are not "lies" (malicious lies), and integrity is not contradictory, there is room for its existence, if we do not like the word "lies," the word "lies" will be used. If you don't like the word "lie", we can mind linguists to create another word, such as "false words", "euphemism" to express the meaning of good faith lies.
Good lies leave behind the ugly and come into the beautiful world!
The lie of goodwill, abandoned selfishness, and came to the honesty of the earth!
Please ask the other side of the defense to give examples, who has been hurt because of the good intentions of the lie? Caused a loss of integrity?