There are three more mature ways to have an annoying coworker:
One, change yourself.
There is a saying: can not change a person to try to change themselves.
This person we can not escape, can not get around, change yourself, is to say, change your own view of him.
You know, we look at a person, a thing, is going to be emotionally charged. A person and then let people hate, he will always have a flash point, there will always be so one or two things to do to call you touched, let you intimate, in your eyes and heart on the enlargement of these one or two things, downplaying and ignoring some of his shortcomings, and so on, your emotional color of him changed, you will not be so hateful to him.
Besides, everyone has their own growth environment and living environment, colleagues of the personality strengths of the performance of the external form, his growth environment and living environment will have his unique connotation, something may be your colleagues of the personality strengths, there may be your colleagues have to be so. Do you understand all these? Have you approached your coworker's heart and environment? Walk in, it is possible to make their own coworkers to produce a different new view.
Second, change coworkers.
Classmate love, comradeship, the same thing this three love is a person in the society of the three main emotional support and maintenance, the highest realm can **** life and death, with the suffering. For the same thing, in the change of their own at the same time, but also to heart for heart change colleagues.
To change colleagues, 1 is to approach him, heart for heart, stand in the perspective of colleagues to understand him, more help him.
2 is to help him, not to "help the evil", is to use positive energy to infect him, guide him, *** with to face.
It is not easy to change a person. There are 2 points you have to have confidence: can change colleagues, no matter how much, but also the progress of colleagues, or your good deeds; make colleagues change the more, your "better than seven floor pagoda" will let you two more confidant.
Three, away.
The above efforts go down the drain, stay away. Say away, as long as the colleagues, space is unlikely, is to say that the intersection, to do their own thing is the hard way, "Anyer east and west, south and north winds", I'm sure from the still calm.
The world will always have people who hate us, no matter how good we are, even if we are RMB, there are people who regard money as dirt.
Similarly, there will always be people we hate in this world, no matter where we go, there will be one or two people who are not in harmony with our aura.
When this problem is brought to the workplace, it will evolve into the fact that no matter what company you work in, you will encounter annoying people, maybe the degree of annoyance is not the same, but this person is always there, what to do?
1, I do not recommend resignation
Resignation is a cure-all, I have said above, no matter where you go, such people will appear in your life, so resignation is simply useless.
2, I do not recommend compromising
Compromise and pandering may make your relationship have a slight easing, but you will be uncomfortable inside, you will feel very stifled, and every day to work with the same mood as the grave words, such a class will make a person short life.
3, fix a heart, calm as water, such as how to meet the waves, can quickly return to the quiet place
This is what I think the ultimate way to deal with interpersonal relationships, in fact, not only do we hate the people who will make us uncomfortable every day, sometimes with us to live in harmony with our coworkers will be friction with us, which are unavoidable and objective facts.
If there is really a company that makes you hate your colleagues, first of all, you have to ask yourself, what do you hate him, there may be two kinds of situations:
One is for no reason, to see him do not like, it is estimated to be the enemy of a previous life.
In this case, what you have to do is to cultivate your own heart, because if someone else did not do anything to violate you, you hate him very much, then you look at people with tinted glasses, judging others, which is not enough for you to cultivate.
The second is that you have had a conflict, and from then on, you have formed a relationship, or he is targeting you in every way.
At this point, we must not miss the past and not afraid of the future, the past let him pass, but do not be afraid of the future with him again friction, if it really came to the point of fighting with him, do not be afraid, do not be afraid to say, to say, the noise of the noise.
In fact, a lot of time to say open, gas canceled, the contradiction is no longer.
To do everything to things not to people, things in the past on the past, do not keep turning over the old accounts, because turning over the old accounts is not the other side of the harm, and the torture is your own.
In short, it is a sentence, life, work, encounter unhappy things and do not like people, do not be afraid to boldly live, after all, the earth is not worth it, live and happy is the most important.
Try to answer your question, I hope to help you it, first of all, to analyze the following your personal situation at the moment:
1, she is your team leader (supervisor);
2, she is hypocritical, say a set of things to do a set of things to their own interests as the dominant;
3, behind her back, like to say something bad about others.
This world is popular poisonous tongue, for such a "rogue" team leader, she can only make their own workplace life is painful, the highest level of counterattack method is to fight fire with fire, to do in the heart of no other.
Personal advice advice, follow the three principles:
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1, does not involve the work does not communicate;
2, in the event of not timid;
3, do not talk behind the back of the people
1, does not involve the work does not communicate
More words will be lost, less talk can reduce a lot of friction, in addition to the work needs and handover. In addition to the work needs and handover, try not to talk more with this kind of colleagues, the more exchanges, the greater the chance of being disgusted.
2, not cowardly
Some people, even if you do not go to provoke him, he will be no reason to provoke you. This type of disgusting colleagues to be careful spicy, they may again and again to test your bottom line, and you are disgusting to make people eat malicious harm.
This time to be reasoned, but to grasp the degree of good, so that around a few coworkers to hear on the good. Disgusting coworkers are everyone hates, you stand on the moral high ground, your other colleagues are certainly on your side, camp division good fear of losing?
3, not behind the back of people bad words
You are disgusted with her behavior behind the back of people bad words, do not go to become such a person. This point I think is very important and will relate to the evaluation of your personal character by others.
In front of coworkers try not to complain about another coworker, even if he's disgusting, complaining can be told to family or close friends. Talking behind someone's back subconsciously gives the listener the impression that they may have spoken ill of someone else.
Summary
Finally, I'd like to share a quote from a friend
Don't let negative energy dominate your life, when negative energy builds up and is not properly released, it will only make you miserable and negative, and you'll hate the atmosphere and even the world, so please forgive these people for letting you have a negative emotion, life is short! Hidden sword playing slippery people everywhere, just different degrees. Not only one or two, no Zhang San and Li Si, no Li Si and the king's bachelor. The reason is not in others, but with yourself. Whether you are happy or not actually has something to do with yourself. Most of the errors because of other people to make themselves unhappy are generally idle to find their own, I say so you do not upset, do not demean your meaning.
People encountered in the work, especially colleagues, is not for your will to transfer, just like you off the birth to what family, fate. The word karma belongs to the neutral word, good karma happiness, bad karma pain. The solution is only your own thoughts, to adapt to all kinds of karma, if full of light heart will be bright, full of good things heart will be happy. Because you hate that person you change can not forget him, then you have to change yourself, more to find his advantages and strengths. Look at the merits of others is not how good for others, but how good for yourself, there are many benefits.
Look at the merits of others, they can be happy; subconsciously can learn the advantages of others; can be good solidarity with others; can enhance their own quality and style; to do a good job has a lot of help; can prolong life and not sick. And so on, the benefits are many. As for the bad practices of others, they will be punished.
Enough said, I hope you are happy!
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What to do with a colleague who makes people hate you?
What can I do if I have an obnoxious coworker?
Hello! I'm Joy who loves to sing! I'm happy to answer your question!
1. First of all, I will look for the reason in myself, to see what I have done not good enough, because 1/3 of our 24 hours a day is with colleagues. If we don't look at ourselves first, the problem will never be solved.
2. In the unit as little as possible to talk, more officers. And colleagues to maintain the usual relationship is good. We treat every colleague to do the same, help each other, do not make right and wrong, politely get along. In the work should not sneak and say slip, should be down-to-earth to do a good job, especially the collective and colleagues work together, should pay attention to their own words and deeds and every move. What kind of a person are we? Every move in the unit, we all see in the eyes. Never play smart to colleagues, because everyone is not stupid, do all of these. I believe that if we get along with our colleagues for a long time, everyone will recognize us. In case something happens, we also have a clear conscience, right?
3. If we do ourselves well enough. That believe that colleagues will not come to us to find fault, there is no such thing as a nasty coworker. Besides, the colleagues do not eat ours and do not drink ours, why do we have to go to hate colleagues? We are all adults. Besides, we may work together for years. Who would want to have a bad working environment every day. Of course, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. We just have to try to be tolerant and understanding of others. As the saying goes, one step back is the way to go.
We survive in society, always encounter people and things they do not like. But you have to understand one thing, you hate her at the same time she did not lose a hair, and your mood has become very bad, so you are punishing yourself with other people's shortcomings, this is not desirable, according to our common people say not cost-effective. For now, her hypocrisy doesn't affect you, it's just that the gesture makes you look uncomfortable; her selfishness will need to be sensitized slowly. My advice is: change yourself, adapt to the environment, sincere for sincere.
In fact, the most difficult thing for people to do is to recognize themselves and change themselves, others in your eyes are not necessarily the real others, then your heart is not necessarily the real themselves, your shortcomings you do not necessarily find in time, then she is also the same, she may not recognize their own behavior is very annoying. Since you can not kick out of this unit, and can not give up this job (and as if it is not worth it), and every day still have to spend time with her, then only slowly try to change yourself, at the same time in the possibility of sensitizing her, this is a very good way to save yourself. Change, fit, these will make you comfortable. The survival of the fittest, human beings are able to reproduce on the earth, while the dinosaurs, which are hundreds of times more powerful than human beings, became extinct, the reason is that human beings have a strong ability to adapt, adapt to the environment is the embodiment of our ability, and it must be clear that we go to adapt to the environment, not for the sake of other people, it is for their own sake.
Hello!
How to get along with nasty coworkers is a difficult thing, first of all, you can not ignore the matter, because you need to cooperate in the work; on the other hand, you can not be with each other cold or hot war, because it will make the atmosphere of your office become very awkward, affecting the mood of work.
In a situation like the one you describe, your coworker is really not doing a good job, and I would contact you to try
1. Get along peacefully
Don't show your disgust on your face. In your daily work, you should still treat him the same as anyone else, such as meeting and greeting him in a friendly manner, speaking without sarcasm and irony, etc. After all, you may also want to *** with the work of things, and low head to see the head, the relationship between the rigidity of your no good, but also affect your mood.
2, forbearance
Forbearance is a very high state, is a virtue, not all your emotions are ready to burst out. You feel that he did not do a good place, do not rush to lose your temper, friendly reminder of him, perhaps you will receive an unexpected effect. Too much dwelling on trivial matters will seriously affect your life.
3, think differently
When you have an aversion to a person later, it will cause a chain reaction. You'll be critical of everything he does, and no matter what he does, it won't make you feel satisfied. At this point you need to adjust your emotions, might as well do a shift in thinking. If you are in this position, you are not the same will do.
4, minimize contact
There is a saying that you can't afford to avoid, if you really hate this person, no matter how difficult to convince themselves to change their views, then try to minimize contact with him.
You hate a person, this is a private matter, in the company, pay attention to the private and public affairs clearly, do not feel that you hate her, refused to discuss with her, cooperation, so the loss will be their own. So even if you have how dissatisfied with each other's behavior, and then work. The above should also try to do their best, not because of personal feelings and make the work of a big mistake, so it is really not worth the loss.
I don't know if that's right, can I help you?
I don't know which aspect of this colleague makes you hate? If it is the character, then try to stay away from him, or transfer out of this department so that he does not give you small shoes, if it is tolerated some small problems, or choose to tolerate it, because after all, you have to see each other every day, and make it too rigid, if you get up to the mood of the class will not be good.
How annoying can it be? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. The first thing you need to do is to get a good look at the newest version of the game, and then you'll be able to see the newest version. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. To be a person should be a modest gentleman, such as the sea like tolerance, and let people feel like a spring breeze. Guanzi. The Art of the Heart": The heart is in the body, the position of the ruler. The heart is the monarch of the people, the pattern of grandeur, the heart of the broad people regardless of good times and bad times can be sure of peace. As the saying goes, it is better to have distant relatives than close neighbors, which is the importance of the people around you. Colleagues are together every day. More tolerance and understanding to help will certainly deal with the relationship. Remember, they have beams in their eyes will see others have thorns in their eyes.
Every company has so many people hate colleagues, I believe many people have this experience.
In my last company, the most annoying thing is not that she will gossip, but that she gossiped about your things and then have to go around telling others, bluffing and exaggerating.
Even in your face, my party did not say a word to comment, you are how idle, gossiping about other people all day long, but also add oil and vinegar afterward, chewing on a couple of mouths as a flavoring agent for others, not tired?
"@ Sui Xiao Er said," each work environment, there are people hate uncomfortable colleagues and even leadership, the terrible thing is that such people are still complacent every day, behind the back of the farewell to the people, instructing others to do this and that, etc., there is a person like this can be annoyed with all of us, but there is no way to change.
What to do? Do yourself a good job, adjust your mindset, do their own part of the matter, the other, all things with the heart newborn for people, are the first time.