I love you, but I don't want to be with you 01
There is a kind of feelings, called "see each other better than miss". I used to think that this sentence is too pretentious: nostalgia and do not want to see each other, this is not "make" it?
But in the past few days, I've been feeling it.
When I'm away from home, I especially miss my mom and dad. I often call my mom when I'm walking alone at night and listen to her talk for several minutes, but I don't feel impatient. But when I actually go home, within three days, I want to go quickly.
I don't know how many people are like me, and the relationship with parents is a bit awkward. They love each other, but once they're together, there's a lot of conflict.
I love you, but I don't want to be with you 02
At home, I get up late, often already the sun is up, my mom forced me to eat breakfast before lunch.
My computer with a peep film, from the side to see a dark, even if I explained a dozen times, my mom will be the next time as usual let me adjust the brightness a little higher.
The desk is facing the window, the sun shines in the morning will be blinding, I used to pull the curtains every time to block the light, my mom will be persistent to pull the curtains again, said the sunshine, should be sunshine.
Similarly, there are dozens of similar incidents every day.
A word, a line, a stop, a sit, my mother has a set of rules, and like the Tang monk read the mantra as read to me to comply with. I know she's doing it for my own good, but these rules and regulations are so binding that I can't breathe.
It's hard to be free in your twenties, but when you go home, you're back in your teens when you're not allowed to watch TV every day.
So every time I go home for less than three days, I want to escape quickly.
I love you, but I don't want to be with you.03
The generation gap also makes us often disagree. For example, every time I fancy a piece of clothing, she inevitably frowned and said it was ugly, and she picked out clothes for me that only the post-60s and post-70s would like.
I taught her to take photos and compose them in thirds, but my mother insisted on taking photos of people in the center, with the horizon slanted.
She loved the smiley emoticon on WeChat and found it very affectionate.
She captured me with a crooked face and she still put the photo up on her friends. Although I know this is a natural outpouring of her love for her daughter, I still can't imagine how crooked the people in her circle of friends would think her daughter looks ......
These days, traveling with my mom, with a group tour, I get up at five or six o'clock every day, seven or eight hours in the car bumps, two hours of excursions in the crowded area, and I don't get to the hotel until eight o'clock at night!
Originally a cold, the snow mountain trip down directly high fever, and even if the fever does not go down must follow the trip. I was physically and mentally exhausted and didn't think I would ever want to come out to play again.
My mother couldn't understand why I felt so tormented, and she thought, "Tourism is about waking up at 5:00 or 6:00 a.m. Tourism is about seeing the crowds and standing in front of iconic buildings to take souvenir photos.
I complained to my boyfriend that I hated traveling, and that it was a modern day slavery. Think if it is two young people, free travel, sleep until natural wake up and then start the day's journey, there are urgent tasks in the hotel overtime, the trip will be much easier. But at my mom's age, she had to scramble to get up earlier than the chickens even when she came out to relax.
I love you, but I don't want to be with you at 04
I'm very uncomfortable from the snowy mountains, lying on the bed with the oxygen canisters to absorb the oxygen, my mom actually have to take pictures to send to my father to see, I want to stop her, she also laughed a lot of fun and said, "Your father did not see ah. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this.
In my most need to comfort time, she gave me is always chattering accusations, "I have said" "I told you" "you do not listen to me", a day to say a hundred or eighty times, so I can I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on a new product, so I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on a new product.
I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on a new product.
I would complain about her and she would complain about me. My mom once forwarded an article to a friend who mentioned me and said, "My daughter is gentle and beautiful in the eyes of others, and selfless, but why is she so bad-tempered in my eyes?
I have to say, in this world, some parent-child relationships are not so harmonious.
I love you, but I don't want to be with you 05
Previously I read an article about the "whirlwind filial son" program, Chen Qiao En and his mother together, the whole time there is nothing to communicate, but also revealed a hint of embarrassment.
When it comes to the big picture, everyone celebrates the greatness of a mother's love; but when it comes to the details of life, who dares to say that they don't have a problem with their mother?
It's hard to be in an intimate relationship, sometimes even harder than in a shopping mall.
Some words, if it is from the mouth of a friend, you may be able to pull Ta into the interpersonal blacklist with a smile on your face; but if it is from your own mother's mouth, even if it is a thousand times, you can't avoid, and the other side still think that because she is your own person to say.
There is a kind of mother-daughter relationship, said out perhaps a little helpless: I love you, but I do not want to be with you.
Sometimes it's understandable that you can't get along. Just like you and the age difference of more than twenty years, the three views of the difference of a galaxy as a colleague, the heart will also be very tired ah.
You don't understand why she threw her money away on a tourist attraction to buy health care products that "cure all diseases", and she doesn't understand why you always licked Yang Yang's screen on your tiny cell phone. What's worse, she would like you to waste your time on idol dramas to study health with her, and you would expect her to understand why you work late and stay up late to watch Yang Yang.
Before I went traveling, I chatted with a sister on WeChat about how I was going to go out with my mom, but I didn't really like touring with a group. She sent a smiling emoticon and said she was all about giving her mom money, and her mother still doesn't love traveling, she loves playing mahjong, so give her enough money to spend how she pleases.
I was just listening casually, but now I think again it is really wise. We have our lives, and mom has her life, and there should have been no reason to forcefully bind two people's lives and values together on the grounds of kinship.
You love your mother, does not mean that you also have to love her daily square dance, love her circle of friends forwarded pseudo-scientific rumors; your mother loves you, does not mean that she has to love you to sing K all night long, love you to save a few months of salary to buy a 20,000 bags.
06
I've always felt that people who can get along with their moms as "girlfriends" are very lucky. If you've got one, cherish it.
If you're not that lucky, then give each other a little distance.