"Sister you sit on the bow of the boat, brother walks on the shore, love love love fiber rope swinging leisurely ......"
Seeing the lyrics, does your mind also come with a melody?
In the 1990s, a song called "Slender Man's Love" was sung in the streets and was a hit.
Singer Yin Xiangjie also shot to fame with the single.
The female lead singer of the song, however, was not as well known. Outside the public eye, she quietly did more meaningful things.
In 2003, she was the first artist to enter the SARS quarantine zone as a sympathizer; in 2008, she was the first military singer to enter the Wenchuan disaster area.
She is Yu Wenhua, a famous soprano singer.
You may not be familiar with her name, but you've heard her songs.
The fact that her works are more popular than her people is a rare beginning for her as an artist.
Yu Wenhua is a national-level actress and a famous military singer who has been praised for "embroidering flowers with her voice".
When she performs, she always shines and glows. Her heart-wrenching songs and emotional renditions make it seem as if she was born for the stage.
But in fact, it is this step on the stage, she walked a long time, but also walked very bitter. The company's main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said.
People on the people, must eat the bitter of the bitter.
In 1965, Yu Wenhua was the youngest daughter of her family, and when she was born, her father was already sixty years old. When she was a child, her father was already 60 years old, and the family was so poor that they had to live off the land and depend on the sky for food.
In her essay "My Mother and Father," she describes:
"I was born in the ordinary countryside of Hebei, and my ancestors have been farmers for generations. My father's family was so poor that they couldn't afford a daughter-in-law, and only my father, who was at the bottom of the pecking order, was able to get a daughter-in-law."
At that time, the family was so poor that they could not afford to buy snacks, and the father, who felt sorry for his youngest daughter, would pick up some leftover apricot kernels.
He always carefully smashed open the kernels, took out the whole almonds, soaked them in water to remove the bitter taste, and then brought them to his daughter to eat.
The father was with her for a few years, and this little story between father and daughter is an exclusive memory she treasures.
The bitter almonds are sweet fatherly love.
When she was in junior high school, her teacher asked each student to buy a pair of blue acrylic sweatpants.
Mother didn't say a word after hearing this, just stared blankly into the corner.
Seeing his mother's blank expression, Yu realized that his family could not afford it.
Later, his mother went to a neighbor's house and borrowed money.
Yu Wenhua took the handful of money her mother gave her and ran to the supply house in one breath, only to find that:
The crumpled change and dimes in her hand still didn't add up to enough to buy a pair of four-dollar sweatpants.
Yu Wenhua said that was her first taste of bitterness. But instead of crying, complaining or even feeling embarrassed, she suddenly understood her mother. She wrote:
"In this moment, I grew up, and this was the beginning of my true understanding."
Growing up as a person is always a momentary occurrence.
From that day on, Yu Wenhua, at a young age, began to study hard and desperately, vowing to find a way out for himself and his family.
Singing and studying became the most important things to her. At the age of seventeen, she enrolled in the Hebei Provincial Art School as she had hoped.
During her time at the art school, life was still difficult for Yu Wenhua. She could only afford to eat the cheapest meals in the cafeteria and had no money to buy a decent dress. She was also teased by some of her classmates from time to time because of her shabbiness.
At the most sensitive age of a girl, she bore it all silently and learned to be strong. She firmly believes:
There is no such thing as an impassable obstacle in the world, and as long as you get through it, you'll have a bright future.
Yu Wenhua studied for three years without any distractions, and was finally admitted to the China Conservatory of Music as she had hoped. After graduation, she successfully entered the Central Song and Dance Troupe, and her life has never been the same.
Every test that fate arranges for people must have its own reasoning. People just do what they have to do well, and God has its own measure.
As someone said:
A person who has gone through different degrees of exercise has gained different degrees of cultivation, different degrees of effectiveness. It is like spices, the more they are pounded and ground, the stronger the fragrance.
In the pursuit of music, Yu Wenhua also harvested love.
In 1995, she married her first husband, music producer Li Fan.
The classic "Slender Man's Love" and "It's Not Windy, It's Not Raining, There's a Sun on the Sky" are all from Li Fan's hand. Their love for each other was once celebrated.
A year after their marriage, their daughter was born and the family was happy.
Unfortunately, the marriage lasted only four years before coming to an end. 34-year-old Yu Wenhua became a single mother.
Divorce is ultimately a difficult decision for a woman, let alone in those days. During that time, she fell into a depressed mood, and there were reports:
On the night of her divorce, Yu Wenhua was tempted to commit suicide. Had it not been for her daughter, she might have gone.
But the bitter-sweet mix is the flavor of life.
If life is unreasonable, no one can bargain with it. Yu Wenhua, who has come a long way, has long since seen through this truth.
She organized her emotions, and once again lightly loaded. She has always believed that if you are brave enough to say goodbye to the past, life will reward you with a new beginning.
In this way, Yu met her pianist husband.
The two of them experienced a romantic "online love" at a time when the Internet was just emerging. They knew each other, but they didn't know each other very well. It was only in the course of chatting online that they developed a mutual affection for each other.
Yu Wenhua later married her pianist, Mr. Li Nian.
He was always polite, modest and gentle, and loved Wenhua and her daughter. After the marriage, Li Nian gave up his own career and became his wife's manager, focusing on Yu Wenhua's acting career.
Yu Wenhua finally found her own happiness.
When people are at their lowest point, they are most likely to give up. And then tell yourself: this life, this is it.
In fact, life is no different from climbing a mountain. Only by climbing a higher mountain can you embrace a more beautiful view. Only by experiencing the lows can you reap the rewards of better times.
Wang Wei wrote in "Farewell to Zhongnan":
Walk to the end of the water, sit and watch the clouds rise.
Don't give up lightly, or you will be sorry for your efforts for so long. When it's hard, hang in there and life will be different.
Yu Wenhua, who focuses on her work and public welfare, almost never appears in the entertainment news.
Only for a while did rumors suddenly emerge that she and Zhu Zhiwen, the "Big Clothes Guy," were "so close that they used each other.
The story began with a photo of the two, which media reports said was taken at Wenhua's home, showing her in her pajamas and Zhu Zhiwen, both smiling happily.
Later, others came out with photos of Yu Wenhua going to Zhu Zhiwen's hometown.
But very often, what we see is only the appearance, not the reality.
Yu Wenhua did have a crush on Zhu Zhiwen, but it was his talent and simplicity that she saw.
In the public's impression, "Brother Daiyi" became famous on the stage of "Avenue of Stars". The person who brought him to the stage of "Avenue of Stars" is none other than Mr. Yu Wenhua.
Without her, there would have been no "Brother Daiyi" today.
They had a purely mentor-pupil relationship, and it's even less well known that it was her lover, Li Nian, who first recommended Zhu Zhiwen to Yu Wenhua.
Li Nian saw a video of Zhu Zhiwen singing on the Internet and thought it was good, so he recommended him to his wife.
Yu Wenhua was instantly impressed by Zhu Zhiwen, because of his singing voice, but also because of his rare simplicity and innocence. This kind of Zhu Zhiwen made Yu Wenhua see himself as he once was.
The same people grew up in the countryside and love singing. For them, Yu Wenhua knows best how difficult the road is.
In order not to let Zhu Zhiwen's talent be buried, she decided to help him realize his dream.
After communicating with the "Avenue of Stars" program team, Yu Wenhua, together with her staff, went to Zhu Zhiwen's hometown, hoping to bring him to a bigger stage.
While Zhu was preparing for the competition, Mr. and Mrs. Yu invited Zhu to their home, where Yu personally taught him to sing. The photo that caused the misunderstanding was also taken at this time, when Li Nian was nearby.
In the face of rumors, she never minded them, and was on cloud nine. Yu Wenhua knew:
Life is her own, there is no need to explain anything to others.
She was just living her life, happy as ever with her family, and the rumors went away.
What doesn't crush you will eventually make you stronger.
04
A few years later, Yu Wenhua was once again put on the hot spot for "having her heart broken by Yin Xiangjie".
In 2015, Yin was arrested and jailed twice for drug use. After his first release, he decided to reform.
As an old partner who started out together, Yu Wenhua trusted Yoon Sang Jie, believing that he had a good nature, but just took the wrong path for a while.
While many people shunned him in the face of negative publicity, Yu Wenhua genuinely wanted to help him get out of the doldrums. She took Yoon Sang Jie to charity events and even put in a good word for him in front of the media.
This kind of friendship is invaluable.
Unfortunately, four months later, Yoon Sang Jae was jailed again for drug abuse.
This result disappointed Yu Wenhua to no end. But she didn't say much, didn't complain, didn't denigrate, and just silently turned off her cell phone in the face of media questions.
Those who say that people are right or wrong must be right or wrong. Inner peace is a person's top luxury. Yu Wenhua, who had experienced ups and downs several times, had long practiced such a state of mind.
Within a square inch, there is a world of its own.
Yu Wenhua is still living a simple life.
She loves life, accepts new things, and is always curious about the world.
She opened a Jieyin account, and when she has time, she sings for everyone to listen to, shares what goes on before and after the stage during performances, and occasionally posts some of her daily life.
Sometimes, Yu Wenhua will even link up with "Brother Daiyi" to sing for the audience during live broadcasts, bringing joy to more people, which is the only way for a candid person to have the courage to do so.
Yu Wenhua has gone through a lot along the way, and only then did she get to the middle age when she was still in her old age.
The real power is in recognizing the truth of life, still love life.
Like Pushkin's poem:
If life deceives you,
Don't be sad, don't be anxious!
Melancholy days need to be calmed:
Believe, happy days will come.
The heart is ever yearning for the future,
But the present is often melancholy:
Everything is transient, and all will pass;
And that which is past will be dearly missed.