No two leaves are exactly the same, and no two loves are exactly the same. There are as many lovers as there are in the world. Although the essence of love is the same, people interpret it in different ways. But to some extent, there are only two endings of love-separation or marriage for various reasons. So there are different opinions about the relationship between marriage and love. One of the most widely known is that marriage is the grave of love. Is that really the case? Don't!
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said: Marriage is a besieged city. People outside want to go in and people inside want to come out. Just because people can only occupy a state inside and outside marriage, unmarried people are full of curiosity about marriage, may listen to other people's experiences and have the fear of "grave" This is really a pessimistic idea. This also wronged the marriage.
Yuzi and her boyfriend have been in love for five years. Before getting married, she was both excited and worried, so she chatted with her married sisters and asked them if their feelings were consistent after marriage. Her friend Fenfen immediately poured cold water on her: "Man, when you get married, everything has changed. There is no sweet talk, no sloppy at home, no romantic action when you are in love, and you are not taken seriously. You really should say' marriage is the grave of love'! " But some people disagree and feel the opposite. Yu Zi heart unavoidably some worry. He didn't know until he got married. Although married, I really have to worry about the daily chores of daily necessities, but it is not without passion.
Everyone has his own perspective, and many things will only be known by personal experience, which is an old saying we often say: "What you get on paper is too shallow to know." Marriage is even more so, because there is no exactly the same love, marriage and family in the world. No matter how happy someone else's marriage is, whether it is heaven or miserable hell, or the grave where love ends, it is someone else's experience, not your fate. So there is no need to worry about not entering the marriage hall.
In fact, even if two people only love not to get married all their lives, they will never be equal in life. True marriage is the crystallization of love, and two people are willing to walk hand in hand on the same life path; Real marriage is a high sense of love, even if you sacrifice some freedom and yourself, you will pay for each other from the heart; Real marriage has a strong attraction, even if there are many temptations and interferences from outside, it is difficult to eliminate this magnet-like attraction.
In some lovers, if marriage can be said to be a grave, then this grave has nothing to do with marriage, and it is precisely the two sides who dig themselves. Some people don't know what love is stuck on before they get married. They just covet each other's family, status, money and beauty, but they can't stand the strangeness and indifference of each other after marriage. Is this "grave" the fault of marriage? Some people hide each other's shortcomings when they are in love and dare not reveal their true selves. They sweetly played Prince Charming and Snow White, but after marriage, they were unwilling and unable to play any tricks, so they had to dig the grave of love with mutual hatred. Can this loveless marriage blame the marriage itself? There is another kind of people, when they are madly in love, they really made a vow of eternal love, but after they voluntarily got married, they mistakenly thought that marriage was the insurance of love. Since then, they have been psychologically far away from love. Years later, they suddenly found themselves speechless and heartless. Is this love tragedy also responsible for marriage?
There are countless sad love graves in the world, where people who have life but no feelings but long for love live. However, this tomb has nothing to do with marriage, but only with their views on marriage. Their incorrect views on marriage have become a powerful tool for digging their own graves. If the other party finds that marriage has become a grave and imprisoned two hearts, they should take action to dismantle the grave. If there is love, it will start again and make love reborn; When love is exhausted, we should say goodbye to each other and find our own love again. Why not live in the grave?
Politically, marriage is not only the crystallization of love, but also the continuation of love. Marriage does not guarantee love, but lays a solid foundation for the development of love. Love is the most subtle emotion in life. Without preservatives, without preservatives, it will always grow and die at any time. Real marriage is that both parties consciously think of each other, and at the same time create an environment and conditions for their love to continue to grow, so that love can blossom, take root and grow, and understand the truth that leaves fall to their roots and branches wither. At the same time, we should try our best to protect the roots and trunks and let them continue to bloom.
If you are about to enter the marriage hall or in the future, please don't be afraid, because marriage is not the grave of love! If you are already in the hall of marriage, please be full of confidence, because marriage is not the grave of love. Love is doomed to disappear after a few years of love. Whether married or not, love will gradually turn into family affection. Marriage is destined to take responsibility and give each other happiness. You have this responsibility, and so does he. Generally speaking, marriage does not mean that two people are locked in the same room and have no freedom at all. Because of the responsibility, it is less self-sustaining, unlike unfinished ... As the saying goes: marriage is the grave of love ... Hehe/But there are still good things ... Otherwise, not many people want to get married ... Maybe you got married before you met ... How many lovers did you meet, or maybe there was only one. You may be with your lover forever until the day you die of old age; Perhaps happiness is like a flash in the pan, happiness or sadness are all love, ... not marriage buried love, but love changed her way of existence. Love is a prelude to marriage. Without this prelude, marriage is a discordant movement. When ... because they will have their own children after marriage, this is the crystallization of love. Let your children prove that they love each other. But if the grave of marriage is for some couples ... love is the grave of marriage. . . Have you read teacher Qian's The Wall? The so-called love. The so-called marriage. . The so-called alive. . . Get married. . There will be too many things. . . ... after a long time, the vows will be erased! ! ! This is why marriage is the grave that destroys love! ! Even without marriage, love can't keep fresh forever. Good flowers ... so there should be more emotional atmosphere between husband and wife! It still depends on the joint efforts of both sides to make their love not [expired] and [moldy]. Marriage is not the grave of love. Marriage is the end of love and the beginning of life. People say that marriage is the grave of love because she feels it. She felt all the pressure of marriage life, and her husband will face the pressure of marriage life eventually ... If so, it can only be said that you got married before you were ready to get married! It's okay. You're just not used to it. Try to live longer, and you will know ... I am very satisfied with the interdependent life now ~ Marriage is not the grave of love, but the grave is only for those who don't know how to manage feelings. Marriage can sublimate feelings, and love becomes very ... just depending on how you look at it. Marriage will bind two people who are not bound, depending on how you look at it. Marriage is not the grave of love, but the sublimation of love! It takes time to let go of a relationship that has passed. But ... so I just don't think so. Everyone will get married, but everyone has a different experience. If marriage is the grave of love, then no one will get married. People often say, "true love is like an eternal fire." According to the India Times (65438+February 18), the latest research by scientists at Rutgers University in the United States shows that no matter what the relationship between husband and wife is, marriage is not the grave of love ... "You replied," I'm fine. "In fact, you still love him, and you are not good at all. Men pretend to be strong, but they are afraid of being found weak by women. A woman pretends to be happy, but in fact she is afraid that a man will find her sad. Marriage is of course the grave of love, because after marriage, he will feel that he has you, will no longer pay attention to you, and will pursue new things. You just ... don't take life and love and marriage lightly. I believe tomorrow will be better. Believe that God is fair to everyone. Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, but there is no saying ... it is always uncertain, depending on people and situations ... Some people, once married, family is the grave of love, and love will bury some people forever. There are no feelings before marriage, but there are ... Some people say that marriage is the grave of love. Imagine, if marriage is the grave, why do so many people walk into the marriage auditorium? If marriage is the grave of love, it is too much. Of course, unhappy marriage cannot be ruled out. If love only stays on the surface and there is no real life, then love will always be an empty fantasy. Two people in love have been together for a long time. Without rich details of life, the continuation and enrichment of a new life, and the surprise of a new life, love will become boring. Life is inseparable from hope. Without the continuation of life, how do you hope to start? If everyone is just a long-distance love, when will love mature and where is the end of love? Some people may think that marriage kills love, which is just a one-sided understanding of the individual. Ordinary and plain marriage only dilutes the romance of love to a certain extent, rather than burying and killing love. It only expresses and deduces the romance of love in the form of marriage. In fact, there is no lack of romance in marriage. A gentle hug, a shallow eyebrow kiss, a small flower on a Yuan Ye, a humorous short message, a small gift that a lover likes, a caring word and an anxious concern are all manifestations of romantic love in marriage. Marriage will enable two people who love each other to gradually show their true side and deepen their understanding. They won't just keep an empty promise to perfunctory each other's illusory life, and love will only make people gradually become hypocritical. Two people in love often pretend to be themselves in order to show their good side. This kind of camouflage will make the heart feel tired, making it like a lonely boat in a stormy sea, drifting and unable to find a harbor to anchor. But marriage gives the soul a solid support. Marriage gives love a crystallization, a home and a support, which further sublimates love. Marriage is the inevitable development of love to a certain extent. Love without marriage is irresponsible and love without marriage is imperfect. Marriage seems to be a traditional love mode, but in fact it is the continuation and sustenance of love. Marriage endows love with a substantial content, makes love have spiritual things in marriage, and makes life continue from generation to generation. Love without marriage is just an empty emotion. Although there is often romance, love without life can never bear the fruit of love. Even if two people who love each other again have been together, one day they will feel that life is boring. The love between two people is always just glamorous romance. The care of an apple and the warmth of a cup of tea in marriage are more worthy of taste than romance. Only when love enters the marriage hall can real life begin. When love moves towards marriage, you will feel the real life of love with the crystallization of mutual love. Although such a life will gradually become dull, it is true. It is when we feel the growth of another life and the freshness brought by life, which is the most real time. This truth and beauty will give you hope in life and make you feel happy and gratified in life. Therefore, a happy marriage is not only the continuation of love, but also the destination of love, the sublimation of love, and the fruitful harvest after love matures. The interpretation of love is inseparable from marriage. Marriage is not only the grave of love, but also another rebirth of love. Marriage is the grave of love. Young people nowadays always say that. This kind of consciousness seems to be very popular at present, and love and
Marriage seems to go further and further. They even regard love and marriage as two different things. Why is marriage caused by love?
Head is actually very different from love? Is marriage really the grave of love?
When two young people fall in love, they both feel that their lives are bright, as if everything is so beautiful, so beautiful.
Ok, everything is arranged for them. Women especially have a deep understanding of the sweetness of love. At the moment, love can't tolerate any pollution like crystal.
A stain And men also show their intelligence and wisdom for their love and richer feelings between them. One bright red rose after another,
Beautiful trips again and again, crazy dances again and again, sweet gatherings again and again ... all become the seasoning of love and urge love.
The further sublimation of love. They know each other well, run in and blend with each other. Finally, they can walk into the wedding hall.
Don, continue their life of dependence and love.
I believe that every excellent married couple will not believe that marriage is the grave of love. On the contrary, marriage became
A better form of their love life. For them, marriage is just a form, and the essence lies in their love. The so-called marriage
Marriage is the grave of love and can only be an excuse for some indulgent, sentimental or irresponsible people.
Whether love can last in the form of marriage has a great relationship with the personal qualities or essence of both men and women. A pair of phases
After being madly in love, people who love each other will definitely return to each other's actual situation and begin to consider the reality for the long-term love.
Problems encountered in the process. And began to examine their respective advantages and disadvantages revealed in their in-depth understanding of each other. Two people only have each other.
Can tolerate each other's shortcomings, and each thinks that the other's shortcomings are not fatal to love, so that two people can really.
Come along. Those lovers who only know romance in love but don't care about the actual situation only look at each other's shortcomings after marriage or
Exposing your own shortcomings, such love is obviously difficult to last. This shows the importance of knowing people and self-knowledge in love.
Marriage is not a guarantee of love, but a form of better love life for two people. Some people think that marriage is
The purpose of love. It is true that love needs a better form of marriage, but marriage needs love more. Do married young people still like it?
If you send your lover a bouquet of bright roses like your first love, will you still travel as sweetly as you are in love, and will you still treat yourself like a person before marriage?
Our wisdom and passion promoted the sublimation of our love? Excellent love requires not only mutual efforts, but also joint efforts.
It is necessary for both couples to invest more fresh things and gradually discover new advantages or highlights of each other. Excellent love needs innovation more.
Innovation is not bad, that is, being able to repeat the behavior of premarital love in marriage life is enough to make lovers rejoice and sigh.
It can be seen that whether before marriage or after marriage, the durability of love lies in the lover's devotion as always, as always.
Pay, as always, explore and pursue. Of course, after all, reality does not allow people to blindly indulge in love. What matters is lovers.
Whether to leave a world for love in the complicated real life, whether to leave a pure heart for love in the restless life.
Marriage is not the grave of love, and the durability of love will not change because of marriage.
Those who find happiness in marriage say that marriage is paradise, and those who drink the bitter water of marriage say that.
Marriage is hell. Marriage has been pushed to the extremes of people's yearning and fear, and marriage has become mysterious.
Mysterious mystery. It's hard for both men and women to grasp. In fact, marriage is neither
In heaven, not in hell, the real position of marriage is on earth. Because people believe in marriage.
I hope too much and want too much from marriage, which has moved me to heaven. and
Because marriage can't carry the hopes of so many people, it often makes the dreams of men and women fall through. marry
The marriage was moved again and moved to hell. In this way, many people's marriages are not their own
In the original position. People's dissatisfaction with marriage is also because marriage eats too many fireworks.
Marriage should undertake the task of bearing children, deal with oil, salt, sauce and vinegar and manage the most trivial things.
Housework, all the colors attached to marriage have been eroded by ordinary days.
A solid and wear-resistant core-heaven. As a result, men and women began to be disappointed with marriage and put
All my unhappiness is attributed to marriage, which is responsible for my unhappiness.
Marriage itself has no responsibility. Marriage is just a synonym for the union of a man and a woman.
Words. If marriage has a responsibility, it can only be the common responsibility of this man and this woman.
It is self-deception to leave one's sense of responsibility and let marriage take responsibility. Malposition of marriage
It leads to two kinds of psychology for men and women: one is to believe in marriage too much and believe that marriage can give itself.
Everything you want; One is distrust of marriage, and I am always worried that marriage will take away my original.
Everything. All men and women's dissatisfaction with marriage is related to this psychology.
A woman said: We love each other enough to get married. So she announced her to her friends.
The decision to get married. After a few days, she escaped marriage and said: Marriage is too dull, and I have nothing.
France endured such a dull life, so she announced the news of divorce to her friends.
Marriage itself is dull, and people don't want to be dull because they always compare love.
Men and women always hope to extend the emotions aroused by imagination in love to marriage.
Live every moment, even every corner. Let the heart be lit by love all the time, and the sparks are everywhere.
However, once married, men and women feel completely different, cooking,
Wash clothes, buy food and take care of children. These are no longer practical, and the content is full every time.
Every moment, even every moment. Love likes whispering, and the lover's language comes from the dictionary.
The most touching words are screened out over and over again, and every sentence is shiny and sweet.
Taste. And marriage doesn't pay attention to these. Marriage always tells the truth, and the result is that both men and women lose.
Imagine that.
Love likes to change the scene, or spend all the time under the moon, or park at the seaside and in the imaginary space.
Anywhere in the universe. But marriage has only one place to go, a crowded or uncrowded home.
Whether men and women like it or not, they have to walk in every day. Step into marriage because of love.
Some men and women often blow their beards and stare at each other in marriage because they can't relive love or find the feeling of falling in love.
Staring at marriage and speaking ill of it. Men and women who enter marriage because of fate are often imagined to lead by the nose.
There is an imaginary love that is incompatible with marriage.
In this way, marriage is dimmed by radiant love. Marriage has to happen from time to time.
Taste the taste of discontent and complaint. If love and marriage must be compared, then I say: love.
Love is like strong liquor, and marriage is like boiled water. But please don't forget that hard liquor can't be drunk every day, because it is healthy.
Life can't be tolerated, but you should drink boiled water every day, because life can't be separated from boiled water.
No matter what words people use to define marriage, the essence of marriage is only reality.
Cooperation between a man and a realistic woman. As partners, partners must respect,
Basic qualities of understanding and tolerating others. Both men and women, as long as they have this kind of
Quality, and then find the right partner, will naturally put the marriage in the original position, and then, in
In this position, learn to constantly adjust the relationship and your own mentality in the process of cooperation, so that you can
I can always touch and grasp the pulse of marriage. Only in this way can women be cheerful,
Face life confidently; Men will be free and unrestrained, and will meet the storm with a clear mood; home
The palace will always be a charming scenery and a harbor for rest. Love a person, whether men love women or women love men, to the point of losing themselves, is either too selfish or too narcissistic. This kind of lost love will go to the grave sooner or later.
Women often say, "I'm really blind to marry someone like you!" " "Obviously, the woman who said this is not blind. The reason why men can't see their true colors is because they wear colored glasses that "beauty is in the eye of the lover" when they are in love. As a result, men's cunning has become wisdom, meanness has become thrift, and even some vulgar manners have become synonymous with rudeness and boldness. Women always complain: it's boring to go shopping with him. You can't buy anything, not expensive, not worthless, or simply say that you like an onion and love to be slaughtered. But when this man is in love, he will either give you a gadget today or give you a little surprise tomorrow. When I was in love, I met a jealous girl and liked to stick to myself. Most boys will like it very much and think how much she loves you. Do men still like it when they step into the eaves of marriage, go on business trips or get together with female colleagues, and are "tortured" by their wives for several hours after they come back?
Marriage is the grave of love. In fact, it is not the fault of marriage, but the defect of love itself that leads to this result. Putting my heart in your palm is for your care and attention, not for your control. Smart people should understand that you don't have everything when you love someone, and sometimes you just take him to heart.
Francesca, a woman in The Bridges of Madison County, has been thinking deeply about Kincaid every summer for 33 years, sitting in the kitchen where they used to dance, listening to music and telling their unforgettable love. The face is fading and the years are getting older, but that love is still young and affectionate. Sometimes I often wonder why Francesca doesn't go with Kincaid. Are you afraid that marriage is the grave of love and another yogi? On the other hand, I deeply blame myself for being rude. A woman can use her whole life to precipitate her feelings and stick to her love with her heart. Such a woman will not lose love in the ordinary days of daily necessities.
Those who advocate that marriage is the grave of love do not regard love and marriage as a career that needs to be managed for a lifetime, but as a means of eating, drinking and having fun in time, just like dry wood meets fire, which burns for an instant and the rest is ashes everywhere!
Leave some private space for each other, know how to love and manage your own love, so as not to fall into the grave of marriage!
Marriage is "rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea", which makes love dull and sublimated most of the time.
Why do you sometimes say "marriage is the grave of love"? Because some lovers don't realize their responsibilities before marriage, they think that love is romance, that is, dating and kissing. But life is life after all, and life has ups and downs. After marriage, "responsibility" is greater than "love impulse", which means that they have to bear part of the "bitterness" and make their other half "sweet".
Only after the test of "marriage" can we prove whether the love between two people is impulsive or the "love" that human beings are proud of. What really distinguishes love from other feelings is that it puts the happiness of the lover rather than your own happiness in the first place.