Children, is the heart of every parent's baby, we are looking forward to their strong growth, in the process of educating children, in addition to teachers, parents also play an important role. In addition to teachers, parents also play an important role in the process of educating children. Family education and school education are equally important. The following I have organized for you on the education of children success stories, welcome to read and learn, I hope to be able to bring you help.
A water fountain incident
Daughter is almost a year old, curious about everything, especially the water fountain switch curious, her grandmother with her very worried, has been watching and keep stopping to know that this is a very difficult thing to do, the adults will always go away, and the daughter of a walker is able to walk around. So I decided I didn't need to watch, the switch on the water fountain wasn't very dangerous, just let go and the water would stop, instead of watching all the time it would be more useful to let her get burned once, and soon she got burned and remembered that it was dangerous and didn't touch it again for a long time. By the way I told her that we stopped her because it was dangerous, so remember that adults stop you from moving things for a reason, and don't think that one year olds don't understand, they actually do. Well, it should be that girls will understand a little earlier and boys will be a little later.
Second, the socket incident
Daughter is almost two years old, on the wall of the socket hole is very interested in, so I brought her tape recorder, told her that the hole in the wall of the electricity, is the tape recorder needs, plug in the plastic part of the back of the plug need to take this is safe, if you take the front of the two pieces of metal is going to be dead, and wet hands! If you take the two pieces of metal in the front, you will die, and if you plug in the socket when your hands are wet, you will also die. My daughter is still in awe of death, although she doesn't necessarily understand exactly what will happen, but it's always a very bad and scary thing. She learned to plug in sockets in less than two years old, and from that day on we used to call her XX to come and help me plug in such and such a socket, and she used to drag her tape recorder this room to listen to it, and then that room to listen to it again, without having to beg us to help her. Well, she is very safe to live until now, never touched the electricity, I have never worried about her will be electrocuted, I have even told her, if you see a metal wire you want to know whether it is charged, you can use the back of your hand to lean on it to try, there is electricity will hit you, will be a little bit of pain a little bit of numbness, but remember to never use the palm of your hand to grab, the back of your hand will be touched will pop off, no danger, the palm of your hand will be touched to grasp, it is to be killed.
Three, dressed for PP
Daughter two years old when the bath clothes are on their own, but the freshness of their own wear off, will find ways to be lazy. One day after the bath, wearing a large part of the clothes, said to me, mom, you help me dress it. I said very pleasantly, can, but there are conditions, help you wear a piece of clothing you let me hit it, I like the feel of your PP hit up. She considered agreeing to exchange, so I helped her put on two socks to exchange to two times PP, I still remember that two times hit my hand hair pain. Her face was very embarrassed after the smacks and I was there again very intoxicated bragging about how good her PP felt when she smacked it on and how addictive it would be to smack 。。。。。。 The next day, when getting dressed, I was quite happy to offer to help her get dressed, and repeatedly affirmed that I loved the feeling of hitting her PP so much that I hoped she would give me another chance to enjoy it.
Of course, I haven't been able to find another chance to enjoy it until now.
Four, go home by yourself
Daughter is two and a half years old, in the small class has been on a period of time, y understand the red light stop green light rules.
Once I took her to go shopping in the downtown area, and she said, I have to go to the unit, ask her if she can recognize the way home, can they go home, of course, she thought no problem, so I followed her far behind, to see how she went home. My daughter waited very carefully for the traffic light at each intersection, and even waited until the sixth green light at one of the intersections before crossing. I realized afterward that she didn't just look at the green light, she also looked at the red light to see if there were any other cars that might be running the red light, to make sure that it was 100% safe before she passed.
In fact, when children take responsibility for themselves, they are far more responsible than adults think.
V. Bugs are very cute creatures
I'm very afraid of those floppy meat bugs, even though I know they're actually harmless.
Children do not know how to be afraid, and my selfishness is to teach my daughter not to be afraid of the bugs that can help me later. So one day a peach with worms, I told her that the peach with worms is sweeter, and the worms in there are very cute, fat and white, and will crawl. My daughter asked if the worm wouldn't bite me, and I replied that these worms are vegetarians, and you are meat, and too old for worms to bite.
Daughter quite believe that she grabbed the bug in her hand to see it crawling around, back and forth on the palm of the hand to crawl, left hand to crawl to the right hand right hand to crawl back to the left hand, when eating that bug on the table to look at the bugs to eat, crawling far away from grab back to continue to look. I, I, I screamed pressed in the throat, can not yet make a scared face, if I have a little scared look, from now on my daughter will be harmless bugs have been inexplicably afraid, I have not been able to recall that time how I finished the meal.
She began to bring home all kinds of large and small green worms to raise, finally my nerves became unusually strong, actually no longer afraid of these fat and soft worms, and then found that actually some of the green worms grow round head brain quite cartoonish. We kept hoping we'd get butterflies, and as it turns out, all those bugs ended up growing into moths of all sizes.
Six, sex education
Every child will ask where they come from, I have been waiting, finally she asked, I then took her to buy two human anatomy, and found two shape charts. Then I explained in detail all the organs, the function of each organ, and of course the different reproductive organs of men and women, where she came from and how she came out. The summary is how to get in and how to get out, except that when you come in you need a microscope to see it, and when you come out ten months later you are already a very large baby. It's just common knowledge, honestly, I thought, and my daughter accepted it as nothing mysterious at all. After learning so much, my daughter was no longer interested in it, and when people would tease her, she would calmly tell them in detail where she came from, and how everyone came out.
Seven, lying on the ground crying
Daughter rarely used crying as a means to achieve the purpose, because one has not been successful, on the little class after seeing the success stories, and so live and learn, in one day in order to eat white porridge with us or to give her alone under the noodles lying on the ground. Our whole family should do what they do to go, when she air. Here I want to thank my mom, she even started sweeping the floor, when sweeping to the daughter lying ` place, said to her, come lie over a little bit, here I want to sweep the floor, don't block, I sweep play you lie back. So my daughter moved to the ground and continued to lie down and cry, and then she said, "Okay, I've swept this place clean, so you can lie down again. Two and a half year old daughter actually really lay back to the original place to hum. Our whole family hid and laughed. After half an hour of air, my daughter finally realized that other people's success stories could not be successful in her, climbed up and said, I think the white porridge is also very delicious, and then finished their own P upside down P upside down run to eat the white porridge a clean.
Until now, I have never seen her lying on the ground crying as a means to achieve her goal. In fact, a lot of the behavior of children is nothing more than a test, the first time to stop, basically will not have a second time the same behavior occurs.
eight, do not eat is their own loss, not others
one day and I quarreled with the meal before the table to put the bowl on the table heavily viciously said, see you on the annoyance, I do not eat. I immediately said, can, but until the next meal you can not eat anything. My daughter started to feel a little weak and continued to say I'm not saying I won't eat, I'm just not going to eat with you, I'll eat when you're done. I replied to her that either we eat together now or you save it for the next meal and eat together, there is no third option. She huffed and said I won't eat then.
We ate the table off, began to laugh and discuss, how to have such a stupid person, actually take not eat to coerce others, they do not eat hungry and not others, laugh at people, actually take the starvation of their own coercion, ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha 。。。。。。。 So at the cost of starving a meal, my daughter realized that it is very stupid to threaten others by hurting herself. Something like that never came up in her life again.
Nine, limited toys, unlimited fun
Daughter grew up with extremely limited toys, electric basically no, all the toys to take a big bag can be loaded up.
So few toys, not because of economic reasons, because the fewer the toys the simpler it is for children, the easier it is to concentrate, the more imaginative it is, and the more you know how to cherish things.
Children like to play with water, my daughter is no exception, my condition is, play with water can be, but only limited to the bathroom, and play well to get the bathroom clean. A small bucket and a basin, an empty Coke bottle, plus a funnel, a small spoon can spend the whole afternoon, she will be a bucket of water with a small cap or a small spoon little by little to the big Coke bottle, sometimes with a funnel and sometimes do not use it, full of a bottle poured into the basin, the basin is full of water into the bucket, the basin and then use the same way to get the water into the bucket, and sometimes to the size of the tools mentioned above pressed into a bucket pressed into a basin, full of water pressed not to add water! Press half water press, positive press reverse press, imagine a variety of situations, a person to play a lot of fun, and never get tired of playing.
The daughter can sit there for an hour or two and concentrate on one thing when she's in a small class.
The Teletubbies were my daughter's favorite show at the time, and they were sold at the mall, and she loved them, so I told her she could have one for her birthday, and she could pick one of the four, and the next birthday she waited for a second Teletubby, and what she got after a long wait was something to cherish. From hour to hour she had to wait to get the things she wanted most, the longest wait was a whole year. So now she cherishes things, understands value, and thinks through what she wants to see if she really needs it.
Ten, learning to write is the need for quotas
It's time to learn to write numbers, buy a tracing book, give it to your daughter, and then tell her that there is a quota, only half a page a day, not more.
Children learn things, the beginning is always very interested, hate can not write off half of the book, every day to write to a very happy time, the quota ran out, the book collected, begged and useless, can only write again tomorrow. So I got into the habit of writing half a page a day before I was happy. The process of learning to write numbers was completed easily and happily.
The key is to keep it mysterious, always hang on to her, bring up her interest and curiosity, ask her to learn how to write, turn her into a begging you to write more, but you must not agree to continue to use the quota to hang on to her until the task is completed.
eleven, share
Daughter less than two years old (suddenly found that most of the corrective behavior shaping are occurring within three years of age), her grandmother often buy small shrimp squeezed shrimp fried for her to eat, once I saw, take chopsticks and clip a few tasted, my daughter said how you eat my shrimp. I answered who said it was your shrimp, pick up the spoon hard two spoons to eat half, the daughter reacted, hands and feet to grab with me to eat, but how she grabbed me, how to grab me 。。。。。。 Hey! Daughter looked at the empty shrimp bowl tears down, I told her, something who can eat, there is nothing you a person, everyone wants to eat how to eat how to eat. From that day onwards where she likes to eat I must share away half, the child is good to teach, she quickly got used to sharing with others.
Sometimes when we see her special favorite things to eat, we want her to eat a little more, will say that I have a toothache can not bite this thing, or this thing I don't really like 。。。。。。 and so on seems a very reasonable excuse, you do me a favor and help me eat it, must use the tone of begging her, let her feel that she is doing you a favor (of course, this kind of thing can not be done too much, more than it is no fun), this time the daughter will be eating with joy, which is the joy of the unexpected. If you don't learn to share, the child will think it's his due, and not feel happy, but will be angry as long as even a small bite is shared by others; while the child who is accustomed to sharing will feel surprised and happy even if he gets one more bite. A little less food won't have an impact on your life, and knowing how to share and get happy easily will benefit your child for life.
Twelve, their own handle
Comparison of small time (which year really forget, but must be less than three years old) after dinner every day to take her downstairs to play, the square a lot of children, some children will bring some toys down, my daughter sometimes want to go to play and do not dare to say, I begged to go to say for her. Of course, I refused, told her, this is something you want to play, either you go to discuss borrowed to play, or do not play. Endured a few days, finally she took the first step out of the first step themselves to borrow the same to play, of course, sometimes will not be able to borrow, but most of the time still managed to borrow. As long as she succeeds once, things will be much easier for her in the future. Children are self-possessed creatures. Then she realized that it's easier to bring a toy down with her and swap it with someone to play with what she wants to play with, and well, you're on your own.
Thirteen, the failure of the gift of training
When children are small, they are completely dependent on adults to survive, they can not protect themselves, so God gave them a gift, that is, the fine distinction between adult tone of voice to make judgments, a little older they will be living in the environment of the observation of the subtle, even a little bit of a small change can be found, which is also the gift of the animal instinct, because they can not protect themselves, so they are not aware of environmental changes, but the animal instinct, because they can not protect themselves, so they can not protect themselves. cannot protect themselves, so they are unusually sensitive to changes in their environment. When a child is one or two years old, almost all parents will find that the child is very observant and almost unforgettable, which will surprise the parents, but soon, as they grow up and become more and more capable, the talent will fade away, and how to keep this fleeting talent.
On this point, I failed, the method is simple, but persistence at least until the age of six 。。。。。。 Sadly, opportunities missed don't come back.
Every night to the child to read a story, when the child will open his mouth to speak, let him yesterday's story retold, speak not read again (please believe that the child's memory talent), can be retold on the continue to read the next paragraph, from the short to the long day after day, perseverance, the age of five or six years old, you will find that the child can be over the ear does not forget the first night listened to the story of the first day of the big story the next night, can be almost word for word memorization. can recite it almost word for word. In later years, because they can completely memorize the story, they can read from a book and recognize the words in the book is a matter of course. It takes a lot of patience and perseverance on the part of the parents (and a million times of self-doubt) to realize that every child is a genius who can't forget.
My cousin succeeded, and when I failed I realized how strong her parents had to be to make her such a genius.
XIV, fell down, bleeding
Daughter fell down outside, climbed up and found that the skin broke a lot, bleeding, nervous. I squatted down to observe and said to her with a smile on my face, ah, bleeding, we go back to find a bowl to get this blood, but also can burn pot of blood soup it, very complementary, don't waste it. The daughter's nerves were relaxed at once.
Back home, I took out the alcohol to help her disinfect, and explained to her that this is a disinfectant, and it may be painful to wipe on the broken skin, but if you don't put up with the pain, the wound may get infected, and the flesh may rot away, and then the flesh will fall off, and it will hurt more, or the bacteria will get into the bloodstream and get septic, and then you'll die. My daughter thought about it and said, "Then you can sterilize it, I can tolerate it.
Fifteen, fill in the teeth
Daughter on a small class, finally gave up the habit of falling asleep with a bottle in his mouth, but her two incisors because of the long-term soak in the milk, cavities out of the point, so I plan to take her to repair, so as not to be more and more moth-eaten.
Beforehand, I told my daughter that her teeth were decayed, and that if she didn't deal with it now, the development would jeopardize her permanent teeth, and that if I took her to have her teeth repaired, it might hurt a little bit to deal with it and bleed a little bit, but none of it would be too bad, and then I asked her if she thought she should have her teeth repaired. My daughter agreed. Sitting in the dentist's chair, the doctor did not dare to lay hands on, I had to ask my daughter once again in front of the doctor, to get again after the affirmative, the doctor fearfully moved his hands, the whole process of my daughter's open-mouthed wooden general motionless, and told me afterward, you said that it would be a little bit of pain, but in fact, no pain at all. I've seen a lot of children sitting on the chair like killing a pig, the doctor in turn can not adapt to so calm to fill the teeth of the child.
Why is my daughter so calm? Because I told her in advance of the possible situations, such as pain, such as bleeding, she was mentally prepared, and was not afraid. A child crying and resisting is perhaps less about pain and more about an instinctive fear of unknown harm.
So don't think the child is small, cheat on it, they will remember you cheated, will not trust you, next time to cheat on it is not so easy. Don't underestimate your child's tolerance either, telling the truth will make them trust you more and prepare them mentally for possible pain, they are actually very pain tolerant little creatures.
Sixteen, corporal punishment
And then the well-behaved child, there is always the parents to anger, hate can not slap the time of death, otherwise that is not a child is a puppet.
One day, I was worried that I could not help but slap my daughter down, so I could get out of the heart of this bird gas. But the anger is such, endure may be injured, once the hands will be like the Yellow River broke the embankment, may be a palm after a palm can not close the hand, a lot of violent beating of the child's parents on the pretext of the child, in fact, more is in order to get out of their own heart a breath of air. This is their own daughter, so only internal injuries.
I said to my daughter, the last reminder you once, if you do it again, I have to hit you, commit a hit, commit two hits two, the third hit four, each time doubled. The daughter said, "No. I said, additional conditions, punished when you have to take off their pants bed to be beaten, if you refuse, then I caught the hit, hit a change of two, hit two of the change of four, in short, doubled.
She challenged me, challenged me, challenged me 。。。。。。 In the end I let her be free to pick a place to be punished, she picked the room and cleared it from spectators, locked the door, and took off her own pants to be beaten. For her, this is a very humiliating thing, but it is also a very effective way of discipline, generally as long as the reminder of a set of rules, in order to avoid again humiliating beatings, will comply with the rules.
Three years old, I see. This old saying is often heard, but do not quite understand, after the birth of his daughter, in the upbringing of slowly realized that the ancients are really fucking (aggravated tone) have wisdom.
Experts say to warm education, to give the child reasoning. Children within three years of age, understand the reasoning? Perhaps. But it is more important not to reason with such a small child, the most important thing is to set the rules first, a year-old child will also understand the word "no". If the child is wrong, even if the child is small, can not be tolerated, must be stopped immediately, and correctly guide its behavior, do not believe that the child will naturally understand this argument, as long as the first time to firmly stop the error, the child will soon understand and make the right behavior. Once the child's deviant behavior has become a habit then stopping it will be much more difficult and the child will be at a loss. Within three years of age, most of the child's behavior has been formed, if the beginning of the corrective correction, there is no need to later repeatedly for a deviation from the entanglement, the subsequent education will be more and more smoothly.
XVII, embroidery or dance
One day, my daughter's grandmother said to me, you come to talk to her, she is more willing to listen to you, the kindergarten to run extracurricular classes, the girls let her go to learn the best dance, but she refused to go to embroidery. I called my daughter and asked her if she wanted to go to an extracurricular class, and she said yes. I said, "What class do you want to go to?" My daughter said, "I want to learn to embroider, I haven't embroidered yet, but my grandmother wants me to learn to dance. I: don't have to pay attention to grandma, that's your class, not her to go on, what you want to go to class is your freedom, no one else can control, but since it is your own choice, you have to be responsible for yourself, seriously learn.
At the end of the semester, my daughter regretted that I only embroidered A and B, and half of the C word embroidery class was over, so I didn't have to embroider.
18, their own behavior is responsible for the results
A lot of children in the district, the daughter is not petulant to do, very familiar with themselves.
One day my daughter asked me if I could bring children to play, I answered, this home is also yours, you can make the decision, if you bring children to play, you can be arbitrary, but in the end, you have to restore everything to its original state, because it is a friend of yours to bring, so you have to be responsible.
The kids really like coming to my house because of the freedom. Usually I ignore them, they play their games, I do mine, and my daughter is in charge of the hospitality, the food, the play, the whole thing is up to her.
Sometimes, when they are having fun, they make a mess on the floor, and when they leave, my daughter organizes them to clean it up. If they don't clean it up before they leave, she ends up cleaning it up herself. That was the deal, she was the host and she was responsible for the results.
XIX, the bottom of the pack
Daughter usually behave very pack, not too much with people, never seen her quarrel with friends unpleasant. Her grandmother has been very worried, every time I complained that I teach my daughter to be a bun, the future is going to suffer.
When she was in her first class, she brought back a classmate to play and decided to give him a book. Two piles of books, a pile of which she had read, a pile of which she had not finished, my daughter asked her classmate to pick a book from the pile of books she had read, but her classmate insisted on a book that she had not read. Her daughter insisted, and her classmate insisted, so her daughter said, "I haven't read this book, so I can't give it to you, but I can lend it to you. I'll write you a library card, you can sign it, and then return it to me when you're done reading it. The two children seriously did a library card, sign the name, write down the date.
Baozi is just a superficial phenomenon, there is always a bottom line, when touching the bottom line, will come up with ways to solve the problem, not to cause conflict with friends. Parents can only force her to find ways to solve her own problems if she lets go of them at an early age, and this is something that needs to be practiced.
Twenty, writing
In elementary school, teachers asked for writing, my daughter could not write, I want to teach. I brought her to the computer, taught her to open Google, fuzzy input essay topic, press the search button, and then told her, these are all the essays you need, pick to copy it, however, your teacher should have seen, so the whole copy it is easy to be found, you have to find a few more put together to copy. The first thing you need to do is to find out what you need to do, and then you need to find out what you need to do, and then you need to find out what you need to do.
Why did you teach your daughter to copy essays? First and second graders have very little vocabulary, so it's hard for them to write vivid essays, and the best way to do that is to copy others'. When she puts together multiple essays, she has to scrutinize all of them, pick out usable words and passages, and figure out how to connect those into a complete composition.
Hey, I'm lazy, but this does work.
Twenty-one, do your homework to ten o'clock
First and second grade, because the school is close to Grandma's house, so live in Grandma's house, but actually often do their homework to ninety o'clock, the beginning of the adults complained that the school work is too much, and later with her classmates to communicate with the realization that the same homework some of the six o'clock before the completion of some of the children and her daughter as well. The same homework is done by six o'clock, and some children like my daughter have to do it until ninety o'clock. In fact, the daughter did not concentrate on doing homework seriously, playing while doing of course, and then there was a period of time when her grandfather watched her do it every day, but to be watched by others before doing things is not very effective. So the very lazy owner appeared. In fact, I just said to her very seriously, I know the amount of your homework, from today onwards daily homework up to 8 o'clock, after 8 o'clock and then dare to do homework, I will throw the book. My daughter resisted, then I'll tell the teacher that it's because you won't let me finish my homework that I can't turn it in. I laughed, then you go and tell the teacher, anyway, the person who can not hand in the homework is you not me, the name written on the blackboard is you not me. Daughter helpless, a whole month, I went to see her every day, a whole month, her homework is completed before six o'clock, and then, it has become a habit, do not have to look at can quickly concentrate on the completion.
Why this time can be so easy to correct her bad habits, in fact, there are two necessary conditions,
One is that since childhood I have instilled in her life must be her own responsibility, I absolutely will not be responsible for her, but also has been so the implementation of the so she knows that what I say is true, not hand in the homework she has to bear the consequences.
Secondly, from a young age, the rules I set up are sure to be enforced, no maybe maybe next time and so on, so I said that after 8 o'clock and then do it again threw her book, although not really enforced, but she knows as long as the violation of me will certainly be enforced.