I found a phenomenon that is particularly difficult to explain, that is, most of the children with grandmothers are very well-behaved, will run on their own and play with the children running; will not run in the stroller lying down to play on their own!
Some of the children's grandmothers were dancing, some were sitting together, and I was three circles to the left, three circles to the right back and forth, 10 minutes past, 30 minutes past, an hour past, two hours past, my child protested many times, and the children did not cry or make trouble.
I don't understand this.
When my kids were younger, I wanted nothing more than for them to sit quietly on my lap while I sat on a stool, and my kids never let me do that.
But I found that but when grandmothers are sneaking around, most of them have a pony, and they're very purposeful. They don't circle around the neighborhood, they just push their kids straight to the place where there are a lot of people, for example, the main door of the district, the store, the neighborhood fountain, the neighborhood playground, the kindergarten, and then they open the pony, and then they sit down. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, and I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this.
Then, these grandmothers started to talk to each other, and the walking children played with their older brothers and sisters in the side; the children who couldn't walk either laid back and watched the sky; or sat listening to the grandmothers' talk; there were also a number of active children who were learning from the grandmothers the way they were talking, and the children who had been talking to the grandmothers.
I can't help but ask myself, are their grandchildren so obedient? How come they are so good at bringing them up? Is there a secret? Of course there is. These 3 conversations gave me the answer!
When my child was 5 months old, I stopped to watch my aunts dance, and an aunty who was holding my child greeted me and told me that my child's shoe had fallen off, and when I said thank you, the aunty asked me "The child is so fat, and he's eating breast milk, right?" I chatted with the aunt a bit more after I picked up the shoe.
The aunt said: "The child's mother did not have breast milk, the child ate milk powder, his mother works, breastfeeding is not a good rest, so they have been feeding the child milk powder."
When I heard that, I praised the aunt for her understanding of the situation, and said that although breast milk is good, there is no other way to do it.
I said: "This child is so strong, so well-behaved or you will take care of it."
Hearing me say this, the aunt showed a pleased smile. And said: "I am a person who has been there than you young people have the patience, know the child's needs and needs, in each age group children want to express what? I know, I try to communicate well with the child, try to satisfy him, but the rules should still be established."
After chatting for a while, the aunt said that the child should go back to take the milk powder and left.
The child's mother said, "I don't know what to do, but I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do it," she said.
When my child was 8 months old, I didn't let him learn how to stand, and I saw some older kids walking, so I was very envious, and I was looking forward to my child growing up, walking!
And then I heard the aunts next to me discussing how to cure a child's temper.
An aunt said: "Her grandson is 1.5 years old, and his temper is so big that he can't stand it anymore! His mom was angry and cried several times, but I was a few days to cure."
Another aunt said: "Yes, this age group of children is really great, my granddaughter was also, the home to pour the yo, not like a look, I do not care about her, she pour enough, annoyed, tired, I do not give her clean up, I'll be on the side of the waiting, I end of the meal and so on, she is hungry I do not give food, must be clean up herself and put it back in its place before she can eat."
When I heard this, I thought to myself, "Auntie is educated and knows how to do scientific parenting.
When the child was 1 year old, he was able to climb the stairs, but he couldn't walk, so I wasn't anxious at all. A slip baby, see a 7, 8 months of children have to stand, the aunt is not allowed, the mouth kept saying: "You are still small can not stand, your mother said you now stand after the legs, the little girl's family legs do not look good.
Because Tutu has been staring at the aunt's little granddaughter, I put Tutu down and said to him: "This is the little sister, mom hold your hand to find the little sister to play, okay?" Tutu stretched out his hand aaaaaaand tried to get over there, so I led Tutu over to the auntie.
When I got to my aunt, I asked her how old my baby was. I asked her how old she was, and she said she was a week shy of 8 months.
Then I said, "Auntie, your idea of parenting is very scientific. I just heard you say that you don't want your child to learn how to stand now." Most grandmothers can't do it, basically the child 3 or 4 months let the child stand.
Auntie said: "I listen to the child's mother, her mother is a professional baby sitter, what she said I follow, less contradictions are not."
And Auntie talked for a while Tutu hungry I went back, on the way back, I said to Tutu: "If you have such a grandmother, it would be so good ah!"
Back home, I thought over and over again about the difference between a grandmother and me. In addition to the differences in the children's natural disposition, these 3 reasons are the secret of the seemingly easy way for grandmothers to bring up their children:
(1) not controlled by cell phones, Grandmothers are usually between the ages of 50 and 70, and most of them do not know how to use a cell phone, but are able to use the cell phone to bring up their children. Most of them don't know how to use a smartphone, so they won't be distracted when taking care of their children, and they won't be like young parents who can't help looking at their cell phones all the time.
Conclusion: Grandmothers are better behaved when their children's needs are met and their focus is on their children, except for chatting.
(2) Grandmothers are more patient with their children.
After half a lifetime of living, older people have a certain amount of social experience and experience to observe, and are more patient than younger people. So in terms of taking care of the kids, even if the kids are misbehaving, most of the grandmothers won't get angry.
Conclusion: Grandmothers don't lose their temper and beat their children because they are good at satisfying their children, and a child who is always satisfied, praised, and pampered is very obedient.
(3) Enthusiasm, It's an indisputable fact that old people love to gather and pile up, because they have nothing to do, dancing in the morning; and in the afternoon, pulling the house with a few old ladies. So grandmothers who work full-time with children usually bring their children into contact with other children and uncles and aunts and grandparents after the child is full-term.
Conclusion: Because my child has had playmates since he was a child, he is more active and likes to go out and play with children.
I've been on my own for a year now, and I don't have any new friends; my kids don't have any playmates, so my Tutu looks lonely.
The child's inner needs are not more satisfied and supplemented, and I thought it was the child's high needs, obviously every day to accompany him to talk; with him interacting, he sometimes still feel Tutu is very lost look. Sometimes, Tutu would stare and shout at his brothers and sisters who were running, kicking a soccer ball, or racing scooters, and I knew that Tutu would love to run like them, and get to know more new things and different people together. So from now on, I need to make some changes!