Probably in my junior high school, my hometown is also particularly popular to play mahjong, before never dip mahjong parents are also very keen, all day either not at home, or a group of people co

Probably in my junior high school, my hometown is also particularly popular to play mahjong, before never dip mahjong parents are also very keen, all day either not at home, or a group of people come to my house, clattering very noisy, affecting the study affect mood, I once also particularly hate.

Then it was still small, the way of communication is more intense, behind in order to my learning and growth, coupled with my parents, especially my father lost a lot of money, slowly they reduced this "recreational activities", the time is about two or three years long.

After I grew up, I summarized that if I use some of the following ways to communicate and self-regulation, the effect may be better:

1, understand the needs of parents

First of all, we should understand what our parents will be addicted to playing cards and mahjong such things. In fact, it's similar to us playing games.

They need to socialize for one thing, and when friends and colleagues around them are all interacting and getting closer emotionally by playing cards, they may be out of place if they don't participate at all.

Two, the days may indeed be boring. Like my family was in a very small town, there was no entertainment, even the movie theaters closed down, so there really wasn't a lot of entertainment for parents to choose from. There were no devices like cell phones or computers back then, and it seemed like playing mahjong was really a better way to spend time.

Thirdly, there was some sense of fulfillment from this. That's why this kind of thing has flourished for thousands of years, the feeling of winning is loved by anyone, and as long as you've won, it's easy to get addicted.

To put it in perspective, we actually need these things, just in a different way. Only with understanding, the communication behind can be smooth.

2, looking for parents in the relatively more rational party to communicate, to elaborate on the impact of this matter on you

Parents love to play poker, but generally speaking, there will be a relatively rational some, you can focus on communicating with him.

To use practical examples, both hard and soft, tearful, tell them that this is very much affecting your study and life, very much affecting the healthy development of the family, the consequences of some serious, to express the attitude of some distinct. Do not necessarily have to quarrel, but let them feel, the best is to produce a relatively strong emotion, determined to change.

3, find a way to shift their focus

If you just keep them from playing cards but don't have anything else to fill that emptiness and void, the effect won't last long.

So give them some fresh ways to replace it, such as whether the mother can go square dancing (at least healthy) and whether the father can play games.

Also with doujinshi, playing online has much less impact, and online games also tend to have system limits and generally don't tip the scales.

4, self-regulation

The last is to be from the mind and the way you own self-regulation. If it is really annoying, then in addition to doing the above efforts, you also need to learn to try not to be influenced by the outside world, such as going to other students' homes to study.

In any case, you can't just "hate" it, you have to find a way to improve the situation and make your life better.

MaoMao, a certified TLI tutor at the Bozan Center in the United Kingdom (Public No.: ButSiGuide)

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