One, welcome the bride
My in-laws scheduled our wedding for the 26th of Lunar New Year, and my husband and I arrived at their place on the 25th of Lunar New Year. According to my mother-in-law's order, a new daughter-in-law can't enter her mother-in-law's house before the wedding, so I had to stay in a hotel in that small town, while my husband had to go home to pay homage to his ancestors.
The next day at noon, the wedding caravan finally came, the car drove me to the village, to the village, I realized, what is the meaning of "grand". Village entrance roadside, men and women of all ages hundreds of people, each looking forward to their Hangzhou daughter-in-law; look up, as far as the eye can see, firecrackers, fireworks rows a ground; loudspeakers standing high on the roof, singing the "heaven and earth" song; welcoming team beating gongs and drums, drums and drums deafening; half a mile in the vicinity, the colorful flags flying. The colorful flags fluttered in a half-mile radius. I had never seen such an enthusiastic scene, forgetting my rustiness, and could not help giggling. My husband was afraid that the old-timers would say that his daughter-in-law didn't know how to behave, so he quickly reached out to cover my mouth, and accidentally rubbed my carefully applied lipstick on my chin, causing me to become a big flower face.
I thought I could drive the car to my doorstep like this, but the bearded man at the head of the drumming band waved his hand and asked us to stop the car and walk, saying that it was customary and there was no way around it. The poor in a thin wedding dress, in the hundreds of people in the gaze of the "North Country" feel the -5 degrees Celsius.
Second, the wedding
In the drums and gongs team deafening drums and music accompaniment, my husband and I walked side by side toward home. Suddenly, a young man in a big jacket and full of pimples blocked our way. He whistled, immediately there are three or five young men surrounded by, without saying, a carry head, two lifting the foot of the husband to the suspension of the "in mid-air", this is clearly a premeditated attack! What alarmed me even more was that four or five young girls even swarmed up to take off my shoes, pulling my skirt, and the hundreds of men, women, and children who were "paying attention", shouting, pushing and shoving, and laughing, as if they were watching a hilarious circus. The most disgusting is the husband, the boys hung him up, while he did not have the strength to resist, with a pen to add a beard, drawing glasses, but also stroked up his clothes, in his white belly drew two even genitals have all the little man. I was scared to death, I do not know what they will do next out of the ordinary behavior, had to look at the elders of the husband's family for help, hoping that they can step in to solve the problem, but they all smiled and did not say anything, the result is that I can not escape. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good deal on the way to the next level," he said.
Three, the wine
At the husband's home, but not allowed to enter the door. Outside the gate, hung with colorful silk and silk. The elders of the family sat with their backs to the east and their faces to the west in a solemn manner, as if on a pilgrimage. My husband and I stood across from them, waiting for the orders of the master of ceremonies. Poor me in the cold wind in the cold wind what thought stopped, so now I can not remember what I did or said, only vaguely remember to those elders worship again and again, almost shouted "Hurray Hurray Hurray".
After drinking the cup of wine, it was finally time to go inside. My husband and I were arranged to sit in the center of the hall, the largest row (back east west) on the master's chair, the table on the food is very new to me, some dishes I have never seen in the south, I taste this, eat that, frequently lifting the chopsticks, the new daughter-in-law's shyness to forget all about it. Not yet finished eating, my husband and I was called to toast to the elders, our couple took turns to toast, that is, first by my husband poured wine, I end of the glass, so that the toast twice, and then I poured wine, my husband end of the glass to toast twice, and so on four times to finish a toast to an elder to the seven masters and eight uncles, all toast, and then back to the dinner table, I've got no dinner to eat.
Four, on the worship
New daughter-in-law into the door the next day must go "on the worship", this is their thousands of years has been the continuation of the custom. The so-called on the worship, is led by a person, take the new daughter-in-law to the elders of the home to ask for "meet gift". The woman I should call my cousin's wife took me to pay my respects, holding a red cloth in one hand and red paper and a pen in the other. My father-in-law said that the red cloth was used as a cushion when I kneeled to the elders, and the red paper and pen were used to record the amount of money given by the elders. Along the way, people poked their heads out from time to time to look at the Wang family's new daughter-in-law's face, and children shouted "on the worship on the worship", the folk customs are very simple. My cousin's wife and I had to walk for two hours before we could finish the ceremony. Of course, the red cloth didn't come in handy because they didn't make me kneel.
At the end of the ceremony, my cousin's wife gave my father-in-law the "bill" and the money, which I counted to be about 1,000 yuan, which I didn't ask for because I felt that it would be cruel to spend money on those old and frail elders.
So, the new daughter-in-law's job is basically done, and the only thing left to do is to visit the graves of the deceased ancestors and burn incense.