33 years old working class, married a Fujian husband, married purely for the reason of being good to me, other people's mouth of the honest man. There was a pleasant time after the marriage, and it all changed from the birth of my daughter.
Late childbearing, early pregnancy birth control coupled with the pain of not on the painless delivery of the pain so that I love my daughter is more detailed, this is my husband's relatives of my evaluation with the baby with too fine. This fine from my mother-in-law's mom's description of me, my mother-in-law's mom was originally from Chongqing went to Fujian early, 20 days before I went into labor in Chongqing, now in Chongqing to take care of my daughter, not before the birth of the harmony of her good to me, I am sincere to her, after giving birth to my daughter in the month I felt the patriarchal thinking in Fujian, and directly from my mother-in-law's mother revealed this atmosphere, and finally directly reflected in the care of My three meals a day, the kind of wa pulled is also your fault wa cried is also your fault anyway wa bad is all your fault, which I can endure. Give me to eat leftover soup and water, words hidden knife, inside and outside is not the same, I can not stand, causing me to secretly cry countless times in the month, my husband in the days of his mother also sat up in the month, during the epidemic at home away from the three sets of cell phones, TV, sofas, in my tears to him to tell him that I will soon be post-partum depression, he replied to me a long piece of fucking is not easy. Between the lines there is not a trace of warmth to me, even if the doctor said I have difficulty in childbirth when he cried does not affect him in the month without any concern that everything is my irrationality, from then on I and mother-in-law mom really become a daughter-in-law and mother-in-law mom.
After I went to work, my mother-in-law mother with my daughter everything according to her ancient and stubborn way, completely do not listen to my opinion, such as my daughter is only 3 months every day at any time and place to let her drink water, the bottle is never disinfected, wiped his feet without washing his hands on the rinse milk, the transfer of milk during the complementary food, outside to play for a few hours do not come home to give my daughter to drink cold water four months to quietly give my daughter to eat bananas, which all of these things! led to my daughter off and on diarrhea for two months I also accepted, during her return home for a month I will diarrhea to regulate, she came back with two days my daughter began to fever, fever doctor let at home drink more water and rest, do not listen to take out to breathe the fresh air, a breath is a few hours, the good cycle of a short period of three or four days on the recovery in the middle of as long as the baby body is not bad I do not express any opinion, even if she does not I believe that the doctor said, in the home to get some messy exorcism I also defaulted.
My mother-in-law's mother less than 1.50 weight 130 pounds, a body of meat every day shouting hot, so in accordance with her own feelings to my daughter has been wearing less, the two days of Chongqing's weather is the contrast is early to wear a cotton jacket afternoon wear yarn, the morning to take my daughter to play the vaccination wind is quite big, to stay after playing the observation of 30 minutes I went to work, let her wait to take a taxi back. Promise quite good, the result of walking home with a waist stool to put my daughter in front of the wind blowing back, why I know it she said herself. evening back from work my daughter began to runny nose sneezing non-stop cold sweat I said cold, she said sneezing every day where the cold, I still feed her cold medicine, midnight really fever. The next day out I told her medicine to eat on time, fever patch stick on, do not take out into the wind, do not hear nothing during the day does not have a fever, in order to not let others know that the fever to fever patch also removed, night fever to 38.3 temperature has not been down. I gave my husband said you give mom said during the day do not take the child out, wait for the fever is good and then go out to play why let my husband said it, because I said a few times do not listen to the results of his back to me a daytime is not normal what does it matter? instantly I felt I was talking to a cow, the third day I did not go to work at home with her, my mother-in-law mother early in the living room dyeing hair quite beautiful masks dyeing square dance does not fall, that pungent smell permeates the entire Kaka Kako Kok, I can only lock my daughter in the room, wait for that pungent smell to dissipate and then carry out the whole day, the baby is hanging on me she burned hard to noisy, sleep and also want to hold, my mother-in-law mother to feed the supplemental food baby are Already crying refused not to eat but also hard to stuff, the day before let her porridge on the light point do not put meat as not listen to the night 7:00 p.m. over and also feed a meal led to accumulation of food, so the appetite is not good, behind the back of the baby I carried over did not let her feed, but also upset mouth broken read not eat on not eat hard to manage you. At noon I slept with the child she was outside playing on the phone, the child fever has not been able to prepare for the afternoon to take to the hospital as a result of out of the rice did not cook, I cooked some noodles to eat. Back downstairs when I ran into the clinic doctor, not born before he has been playing birth control injection, he looked at my daughter said no symptoms of inflammation go home to eat cold medicine and feed more water, and there is a cycle of fever repeatedly so that I do not worry too much, I took the medicine to hold back, the evening boiled water to my daughter bubble bath thinking my husband usually seven or eight o'clock to the home she wants to go out to dance let her go, the results I gave the baby bubble bath boiled mugwort! Water black black she looked crying, fever for a long time the body is soft, can not sit I hold her while giving her body repeatedly showered, soak after the bath after taking medicine my mother-in-law mother square dance are jumping back to my husband has not come back, at that time has been 9:30 normal situation 7:40 to home. Called to ask that the car drive out just drive back, but obviously heard each other playing cards body sound, he is not going to take the initiative to play cards, but for anything never learn to refuse that kind, I hung up the phone to him or believe that what he said, the back of the unit coworkers said I do not know that my child has a fever, in the office to play poker, just dispersed. When I heard this sentence all the aggression all the anger in that moment completely out of control, to my daughter to sleep after the bath lying in bed to think about this one or two years but where I have a little disagreement with his mother, are his mother, my daughter regardless of fever and diarrhea he never once went home early Well, the unit package meals are eaten dinner home, all the size of the family things children's size of the things are I get good, usually also Even if the fever all day temperature does not drop at all, you still have the heart to play poker, the night to me to apologize that he was wrong, in the future to go home earlier. In his understanding of the point of my anger is only in his daughter's fever days he played poker only.
In this Chongqing people living in Fujian mother-in-law mother-in-law's eyes at home should be the size of the woman's things, so that her son to do anything she has to be in the side of the acid chirp say a few words such as: I let his son in the month to pick up a cup of water, she will reach out to help to pick up, for example, I let his son go downstairs to the supermarket to buy a thing, her son does not want to go to she will take over the words to say that the thing can not be used. For example, if her son is using the vacuum cleaner at home, she will say to my daughter, "You will grow up to be as hardworking as your dad, just like a woman," and then she will tell her son in Hokkien that her younger son never does this. Maybe she has a selective memory loss of the hygiene I did before, and my mother-in-law's mom is the sky in my husband's heart, my mother-in-law's mom will play video to my husband when she is scolded by my son for taking care of my son's child, and my husband was very angry and painful, so I can't say anything about my mother-in-law's mom in our house, and I can't give her any advice, which may be in the eyes of my husband, and that's the way he loves him! Even if my mother-in-law's mom herself said that one day she was not feeling well here and there, I asked his son to take her to the hospital, and his son did not even go. This kind of love I can not find the right words to describe.
My temper is relatively sharp, hot a little, there are things to be said to solve the kind of woman Hanzi, but I will not be unreasonable to respect the elders is my consciousness since childhood, because I also have parents, but in my perception of the benign growth of a family should be together, *** with the management, mutual integration, each other to compromise. The current situation in our family is in all aspects of my husband to push me forward, and then mother-in-law mother see still upset, think his son should enjoy the clothes to hand, food to mouth treatment, I do not know where she honey confidence, she does not think she is Chongqing people, Fujian people. So often talk to me are your side, how you people here, I do not like the Sichuan people, ps: I am Sichuan, she said she did not like the Sichuan people is I was in the month she and her good sister to play a video phone call to talk about, I'm sitting next to the baby, but my husband and I got married is she three times let my husband's cousins cousins to my family to say that let's get married, my husband and I talk about friends about six months! His father died, the loss of his father in middle age is a painful thing, so whether we have no results in the future I went to Fujian when his father died, after my mother-in-law has been urging me to give my parents to say that arrangements for the marriage of the matter, said that their side of the family to the death of a relative either 3 months to get married, or 3 years to be able to tie the knot. Conscience said my husband's cousin cousin sister-in-law view is very positive, is rich but very low-key, we got married after we have been to take care of more, I have been this love in my heart, in line with the cousin cousin sister-in-law's view of the three I think that a big people can not be worse than where to go, but the goose I think wrong My husband's family conditions should be considered poor in Fujian, the family is not much money, coupled with the death of his father, we bought a house in Chongqing, the down payment is half of us, and borrowed some foreign debt. I also borrowed some external debt. So we have this small family business and construction really only rely on our own, but my husband can not understand this point, as things go, satisfied with the status quo, even after the birth of the baby he is still living like a single life, my mother-in-law mother I do not know where to come from honey confidence, their own son how they do not have a point in their hearts? I realized that this confidence comes from her second daughter-in-law's mother's family, the second daughter-in-law's mother's family has money and can help everything and then may also feel that her eldest son to find me is not a little bit of a disadvantage. Meaning I don't mind her family has no money, no car, no house to see the character of the married now also feel the advantage of her son cheap like.
Although my mother's family is not rich, but never to give me and my brother to reduce the burden as a matter of principle, I pre-pregnancy my mother to take care of me to the living expenses of a point is not used to go also when the pour plus a point to me that only bought a house under pressure, gave birth to my parents to see me my mother-in-law mom like a guest, everywhere show her superiority, my mother-in-law mom in my home all expenses are our burden, should help! I take the baby, my baby is almost a year old socks did not give her to buy a pair of but also to spit me buy this is not appropriate, that does not look good.
Writing a blank head I do not know what I really want to express, while the self-explosion, while the self-healing, if I start over I will be in my own strongest time to give birth to a child, have the ability to take care of their own children, do not let the mother-in-law mother to intervene in our small family. To be married to the girls are sincerely advised to be able to not marry far do not marry far, customs and living habits may be the future *** with the obstacles to life, 2020 married don't listen to others praise him honestly, is a life of the people, perhaps he can be honest to let you feel although married or a person in the past, perhaps he is still a mom and pop man.