1. The manifestation of a suspicious partner
My father said that he was very suspicious when he was young and was always worried that his mother would be abducted. Because at that time he was just a blacksmith, and his face was covered with acne, and his mother worked in the labor department of a labor service company. Anyone who has experienced that era knows that the labor-capital stock is responsible for the distribution of work for educated youth and large collectives, and it is very popular. My mother is young and beautiful. At my fifth-grade parent-teacher conference, my classmates thought she was my sister. My father said that he was very narrow-minded. He was very suspicious whether it was his mother's male colleagues or men who came to ask her to find a job. His suspicion also infected his grandma. Once, a male colleague came to his house to talk to his mother about work. After he left, his grandma spat and said, "It's so shameless." Faced with his father's suspicion again and again, My mother was angry and sad, and she was scolded and criticized by her grandma for no reason. She felt that she couldn't live with her anymore, so she wanted a divorce. But when she saw my brother and me, she thought that only one of the two children could be taken away, and the other was with her father. How could she rest assured? Mom stayed behind for us. Dad later told us that he actually knew that mom was a very traditional woman and would not have anything to do with other men. It was just because of his low self-esteem that he felt that the gap between him and his mother was too big, and he was afraid that he would lose her, so he couldn't help but be suspicious.
Not only in life, there are also many examples of paranoia in books and TV series.
In Othello, one of Shakespeare's four great tragedies, the hero listened to others' slander and suspected that his wife was unfaithful to him, so he actually killed his wife, and finally committed suicide in regret.
In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun suspected that her husband gave jewelry to other female colleagues and made a fuss in her husband's company. It turned out to be just a misunderstanding, but it also made her husband lose face.
In the face of such cases, we always blame those suspicious people. They are indeed at fault, and it is because of their suspicion that they have caused so many adverse consequences. But has anyone ever thought about why they are so suspicious? In the face of their suspicion, what kind of remedies have the people who are suspected done?
2. The way to deal with a suspicious partner
In order to avoid the suspicion of the father, the mother tries to reduce the chances of getting along with other men. Even if it is a work party or a friend’s invitation, the mother can Just push it, my mother used to be good at singing and dancing, but just for the sake of family harmony and no longer arouse my father's suspicion, she gradually closed herself off. I remember one time they had an argument. My father liked to dance in the square and asked my mother to go with him. My mother refused. My father was very angry. My mother said, "Don't you know why I am like this?" My father was speechless. Word.
Desdemona in "Othello" never sees herself and the other person clearly in her relationship. She is innocent, naive, and ignorant of the world, and she only has a feeling of love in front of her inferior, narrow, and jealous husband. When Othello shows a different attitude, she even seems a little blindly confident. She never wants to share Othello's other side, and she also attracts If you can't stand the real problems that you will face in your marriage, you will end up dead in the end.
In "The First Half of My Life"