The child is not the mother-in-law's child, so why do you have to pay if you don't help? The fact that you have to pay for it is not the reason why you have to pay for it if you don't want to help!
1, have a job
At this age, the in-laws may not be retired or retired and arranged another thing. It is such a family, the daughter-in-law had to force the in-laws to go home with grandchildren, but also put out the word, you do not help me with the baby, I will not give you old age!
2, the body is not good
This situation is very common, some of the pain, daughter-in-law may not fully understand, like the age of the in-laws often have osteoporosis rheumatism, etc., the surface looks nothing, but the pain is very difficult to bear.
3, there are hobby arrangements
Some in-laws love to play a game of cards, dance a square dance, or love travel, love painting, planning a good old age, do not want to be disrupted, and would like to continue to enjoy a period of such unrestricted days.
There is nothing wrong with them doing this, dedicating the first half of their lives to the family, and now they can finally relax, as a daughter-in-law, and should not be blamed.
4, family relations are not good
If you usually do not get along well, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law do not get along, all kinds of contradictions, it is also inevitable that the mother-in-law will refuse to take the child. She also knows that she loves her grandchildren, but she doesn't want to have too much contact with you guys. If this is the case, it is better to reconcile early, a harmonious family atmosphere is conducive to the growth of children.
In-laws have a lot of assets, they can come up with millions of millions of dollars at their fingertips, you just need to 2000 per month, is not too small? If the in-laws life is just subsistence, 2000 dollars is heartbreaking blood money. Give you, will seriously affect their quality of life, you bear to ask for it?
Most likely you feel that your in-laws have a loose hand and should take care of your son, but shouldn't you, as a junior, be the one to honor them?
In-laws to help you take care of the baby, is not a responsibility, and no obligation, to give you money out of 2000 per month, is even more unreasonable.
Of course, in the tradition, the happiest thing for our Chinese elderly is to have children and grandchildren around their knees, enjoying the joy of heaven. It also seems to have become a tradition for the elderly to help bring up their children, but this can only be done out of their own volition.
Why have a baby if you don't want to raise it?
Your husband is your mother-in-law's child, she has brought you up, it is her responsibility and obligation. The child you gave birth to, should be your responsibility and obligation, right? It's a favor to help you bring it up, and it's a favor not to help you bring it up. Why does the mother-in-law not contribute to help bring up the child, you have to give you money every month?
As long as the daughter-in-law son will be able to do things, the relationship with the good, which parents do not help, you have this kind of thinking mother-in-law how to do you will not be grateful, can not afford to raise the child do not give birth to ah, and now what the birds are there.
As the question, if the mother-in-law does not contribute to help bring up the child, then the monthly money, right? I say no.
As an adult, no matter how busy you are at work, you should take on the responsibilities and obligations that adults should have. For example, running a household, educating children, and even taking care of the elderly.
The mother-in-law is also a human being, she raised her son and set up their own small family, it is reasonable to have completed the task of parenthood. As for whether or not to help children with children, the mother-in-law has the right to choose, not the obligation. If the mother-in-law does not contribute to help bring up the child, then the monthly payment" such thinking is completely wrong, even unreasonable.
In fact, as of now, many elderly people can be described as caring for their children, for example, every day after school, the campus door waiting for the children to go to school in the crowd of the majority of the elderly; for example, in the neighborhood with children walking most of the elderly; some, not only to take up the task of looking after the children, and even The first thing you need to do is to take care of your children and make sure that they are well taken care of.
Of course, young people nowadays are under a lot of pressure at work, and their careers are on the rise, so it's unlikely that they'll be able to put too much energy into their family chores. It's also a relief to be able to get help from the elderly.
However, if the old man's energy or ability is limited, it is only natural that he does not give his children a hand; as a child, he should not complain, and should not have too many excessive demands.
Respect for the elderly, filial piety and respect for in-laws is a traditional Chinese virtue to remember.
When the mother-in-law should not you. She raised her son married. Already good. Also what grandchildren also want to let the mother-in-law to bring, or else out of money, really unreasonable requirements.
The mother-in-law is neither money nor effort, there is nothing wrong ah not right is that you think too much [nose picking]
Raising children is a parent's responsibility and obligation, the grandmother is not obliged to help bring up the child, there is no obligation to have to pay for the raising of grandchildren, the daughter-in-law asked the in-laws to money belongs to the irrational, do not support.
Grandparents to help bring up children, mostly because of the son and daughter-in-law are busy, to help bring up children to reduce the pressure of the two, but it is not necessary, just because you are a family.
Grandma does not help with the child, for what reason, this point should be communicated with the elderly, and have to be the son to say, after all, the son is the grandmother in the eyes of the "family", the words said light heavy, will not think too much, will not create conflict.
If the grandmother has concerns and does not help with the child most of the following situations:
1. Grandmother has their own "business", such as playing mahjong, wedding gongs and dance, if the grandmother immersed in it difficult to extricate themselves, she certainly does not have the time to take the child. If this is the reason, we suggest that the son to talk to the mother, the immediate difficulties with the mother, ask the mother to help with the child, I think reasonable people will not refuse.
2. Grandmother and mother's education is different, the grandmother is worried about the child's education problems caused by the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law conflict. This is a human nature, we have more communication and exchange, so that the child can grow up healthy and happy.
3. Grandma's health is not good, can not take children, such a situation must not be forced, not only can not ask the elderly to look at the child, but also more care for the elderly, filial piety, let her feel the warmth of the family.
A family of people do not always stand on their own point of view, think about it, the mother-in-law is also a mother, good discussion, no grandmother does not love their grandchildren. As a mother-in-law, you can help as much as possible to help, the child has a pro-grandmother's care, we all feel at ease, the family is also happy.
Personal opinion: now the child is less, do grandparents in the health of the body allows the case, generally will help look after the child, if there is no time will generally give some money; if retired pension is not a lot or bad health that is not given to look at the child can not give money, you should also understand! If not only can't take care of the children, but also in poor health, you need to take care of, it is also your husband's responsibility. So don't think about your mother-in-law helping you with the baby or giving you money; think about whether you need to take care of the baby; if you don't need to take care of the baby, then you will have the time and energy to take care of the baby yourself; if you can further help take care of the baby or give you some money, then what else can you say but thank you! Since you chose to have a baby, you should believe that you can bring it up well!