Results of the report card, family harmony "barometer"
Modern families, basically only one "baby", the parents' glory and dreams are realized by the only "baby".
Modern families, there is basically only one "baby", the parents' glory and dreams are realized by this only "baby". The way to achieve this is often for parents to get a shiny "baby" report card at the parent-teacher conference.
Many children don't understand why their parents' frowns and smiles are always changing in front of their report cards.
In fact, parents are also very helpless, in the face of thousands of hectares of land in the "only seedling", sometimes can not enjoy the joy of cultivation, can only taste the panic of waiting. In the end, this is an educational experiment that cannot fail.
Li Yang Hua drawing
The "a handsome cover a hundred ugly" score
"If you remove the academic performance of this factor, I give the child's overall quality score is very high." A friend of mine said. Her child began to learn piano and painting before school age, and has persisted to this day with little success. The girl who is now in high school can accompany the class choir in the art festival, and every edition of the board for the class is wonderful. And the child is kind-hearted, the road meets the beggar is always out of pocket pocket pocket money. The child is also particularly fond of reading books, after graduating from elementary school wrote a 60,000-word novel, published in the Sina.com "original literature" section, was reproduced by a number of websites.
By definition, a mom should be satisfied, right? However, the friend is not at all, she thinks the child is "not a good thing, idle things have more". Like most parents, my friend's eyes "business" is, of course, the cultural achievements. In her mindset, a good performance in cultural studies can be "a handsome cover a hundred ugly".
The other night, my cousin called anxiously to discuss my niece's recent poor academic performance.
The niece was 5 and a half years old when she went to elementary school, and this year she has just turned 10 and is already in the fifth grade. She has always been able to sing and dance, polite and filial, often praised by relatives, the cousin couple is therefore very proud. But in the past two years, there seems to be fewer and fewer things that satisfy her parents. Although she can still sing and dance, and is still polite and courteous, her original strengths are slowly being overlooked by the couple because of her unsatisfactory academic performance.
The cousin couple were originally classmates in high school and studied tailoring for three years at a vocational high school. After graduation, one person engaged in automobile repair, the other sells auto parts. The two bought a house and car in Shenyang, the standard of living is not low, but because there is no university degree, the development of their careers is limited. Therefore, their biggest dream is to let their daughter go to university and realize their unfulfilled life goals. Therefore, from the first day of Shoshuo's schooling, her cousin checked her daughter's homework every day, and her brother-in-law was responsible for sending her daughter to make up lessons on Saturdays and Sundays. However, although the two people work together, from morning to night, the daughter's grades just do not see any improvement. Every time Shuo Shuo brings home an unsatisfactory report card from school, it's the dullest moment for the family.
The new semester began just a week ago, and a math test was held in the class, which the teacher said was to test the students' learning over the summer. On this test, Shuo Shuo scored 82 points, which was in the lower middle class. This was unacceptable to the cousin's couple. Because, during this vacation, the couple spent a lot of money on remedial lessons for their child, just to make sure that Shuo Shuo could stand on a higher starting point at the beginning of the higher grades. Unexpectedly, the first test to enter the upper grades failed, which brought the cousin couple a big blow. The anxious cousin was furious with her daughter and even kicked her in the face. The brother-in-law, who was distressed about his daughter, stopped the cousin, and they quarreled. My cousin told me that my brother-in-law went out alone for a long time that night before he came back, and he kept sighing at night. Because of the report card, the family was in a heavy atmosphere.
Because of this, the youngest of us is the one who is most afraid of the exams. Whenever there is a test, she will have a cold, a fever, and mouth ulcers in nine out of ten cases. Until the report card is issued, after receiving a thunderous reprimand from her mother, and then, carefully and cautiously through half a month of the "dangerous period", the face of a normal child's smile can reappear.
I asked him, "Did any of your classmates get beat up because of their bad grades?" He said, "I don't know if I'm going to be able to do that. The first time I saw this, I was able to see that the girl had been beaten up by her father, and that she had been beaten up by her mother, and that she had been beaten up by her mother. "Then you hate mom?" "No, mom is for my good. I'm too stupid to keep up." Looking at shuo shuo who was hugging a furry bear with one hand and still working on her math paper with the other, I couldn't hold back my tears and patted her head. At that moment, Shuo Shuo suddenly looked up and said to me, "How nice it would be if we didn't have tests in school!"
Rankings are meaningless to children if they don't know the meaning of learning. From my personal experience and observation, this kind of ranking in elementary school is mainly meant for parents to urge their children to study, because the content of elementary school is very simple, and most of the time they don't learn it well because they don't pay attention to it, but the key to the problem is not that the ranking ranks the second to the last, but that it lies in the education of the family.
The education method described in the question is basically very failed and improper. Frankly, these parents are a lot like my uncle in that once my cousin falls behind in his grades, he comes home and loses his skin. My uncle stopped drinking with people at night and started seriously beating up the kids, and my aunt stopped going out square dancing and started seriously studying with them. After the cousin's grades improved slightly, they started drinking and dancing again until the next time they failed the test, and so on.
It doesn't matter what the parents do after their kids do poorly, it's what the parents do in general that counts.
Parents usually do not pay attention to their own words and deeds, upstairs children in writing homework, downstairs a few fox friends drink, the sound of people, the child can be fixed? The mother is usually either watching drama or dancing, completely unaware of the child's learning situation, this time like a prison guard to watch over the child useful? The parents are so annoyed that they are actually ashamed of their own negligence in caring for their children, but they are punishing them for their own negligence.
Many years ago, on a summer night, with frogs chirping outside the window, my father and I sat opposite each other at our desks, organizing our accounts and writing and reading. My test scores, he seldom asked, and never chastised me for my grades, and even I have gone to high school still pick me up in front of the junior high school door to go home _(:з」∠)__.
Is he a good parent, I think so, he is not concerned about the results of my learning, but the process, as long as the child can read and write every night, perseverance, why worry about the results did not improve? The most afraid of is the question of this situation, usually parents sheep, found that the results fell on the tirade, from the description of the title, the child's grades fell to the penultimate by no means a day or two days, the parents only anxious, usually certainly did not care about the child's learning. Learning is not only the child's business, but also need parents to set an example, the need to concentrate not only the child, but also the parents, in recent years, the parents have to concentrate, do not be busy in the entertainment business, it is still not too late to accompany the child. When the child develops good habits, even if the next door to open the ballroom and what is the harm?