If I were to say that I'm so introverted that I'm nervous about talking to strangers and my palms are sweaty, I'd be surprised if I ended up in sales.
I'm not an introvert by nature, but by circumstance. My parents were divorced when I was a child, which led me to be introverted and have low self-esteem, not daring to communicate with others, fearing to socialize, and being unusually sensitive to an unintentional look from others, which can make me uneasy for a whole day.
When I went to school, I didn't feel much impact, after all, I could still rely on my grades to salvage a little bit of poor self-esteem, and once I entered the community, I could imagine how many walls I would hit with this kind of character and how much frustration I would encounter.
So, with a little foundation in school, my first is foreign trade, this job is very consistent with my requirements, after all, do not need to communicate with people face to face, just send emails and make phone calls, a should be able to handle the work online.
However, unfortunately, it didn't take long for me to leave this job, which I thought was the most satisfying, because I didn't have a social life. Because I didn't socialize, I didn't know how to express myself when I was in trouble, I didn't ask for advice, and I didn't know how to get rid of the stress in my mind.
For the first time, a socially fearful person realized that not having a social life can really drive people to death.
I spent a month thinking about life, about the present, about the future, but I realized that once I couldn't get past this hurdle, there was no future to speak of in all aspects of my life, and I could only shrink in my own world and feel sorry for myself. The first thing I'd like to do is to get the best out of my life, and then I'd like to get the best out of my life.
So, I did the work of shopping guide, right! The first thing I did was to get a job as a shopper, and I was able to get a job as a salesperson, and I was able to get a job as a salesman. The first is to play hide and seek with the customer, not only the eyes dodge, voice is too small, but the fear of once someone close, whether or not the customer, instinctively avoided to escape, to see the competitors to go up to the inquiry, I have a sense of relief.
In this way, the performance of the natural bottom, but also stirred up my strong sense of self-esteem, after all, when I read the book has not been such a failure, low self-esteem and pride in the nature of the so stimulated. So began to tough on, forcing themselves to communicate with customers, regardless of whether it is good or not, you must speak, some hone down, there seems to be a loss of self-confidence, so began to have the courage to communicate with customers, customers are also more willing to accept my suggestions, so I slowly find the feeling of self-confidence, and the whole state of affairs has changed.
Now I am still active in the sales line, communicating with people has become a daily necessity, from which the fun and achievements are also increasing.
In fact, sometimes, what stops us from progressing is never the level of education, personality, looks, but whether we have a determination to overcome ourselves!
I do waiter. Big hotel waiter, before I super low self-esteem, well not exaggerated that the first job leaders do not like me, because I have low self-esteem and sensitive and timid, and then I slowly change myself, I will not laugh, I will be off work every day to bite chopsticks. I will not chat I slowly learn to chat with the guests, slowly and many guests chat well. I am now in a small restaurant as a trainee store manager, now I out of the cowardly inferiority complex sensitive, but I have to learn to bear and responsibility. The hotel is really a place that can change people, as long as you are willing to learn, I believe you can also.
Hello, I am a counselor Li Haixia.
You mentioned that if you are introverted and have social phobia, what kind of industry is more suitable for you to work in?
First of all, no matter what kind of industry you are engaged in, you have to understand yourself first.
There are four types of personalities in psychology, as mentioned by the customer.
Cholestatic polycythemia, mucus and depression.
These four personalities refer to a person's temperament.
Choleric people are more emotionally unstable.
Polycythemic people are more outgoing, enthusiastic, energetic, and sociable
Mucous people are slower moving, relatively introverted, and stable.
And depressive people are more sensitive, introverted, and quiet.
You can look it up on the web and cross-reference it to find out your more accurate personality type.
There is no such thing as a good or bad personality, as you mentioned, if the personality is more introverted, then it is generally more sensitive, has good sensibility, and is more talented in the arts, and in addition, introverts are better at thinking.
So there are a lot of careers for introverts, such as writers, counselors, painters, dancers, artists, teachers, accountants, IT and so on.
Regarding social phobia, it is unavoidable for us to live in this world and need some social support, so at this point we suggest that you still need to get through it, you may not need to be a sociable person, but normal socializing is very helpful for your family's sense of well-being and professional success.
Because we all inevitably have to deal with other people, no matter what our profession.
If you need to get through in this area, you can private message your teacher in the background.
If you don't want to overcome social phobia, you can consider some jobs that deal with fewer people.
I myself think I have some social phobia, I don't like to deal with people, and I don't like to maintain the so-called interpersonal relationship. Although my job also requires more or less dealing with people, it's more just to get the job done than to maintain any relationships. So, I would suggest jobs that don't require so much interaction with other people. For example, programmers, it's nice to write code quietly, and when you're busy you may not be able to say more than a few words a day. In the case of research work, of course, it's the kind of work that can be done independently or by a few people.
In the workplace, it's all about the work, and you don't have to worry too much about whether you're an introvert or not, and you don't have to think about relationships too much. On the matter of not socializing. Go for it!
Writers, do not have to contact with strangers, just need to have the literary talent can write a good article on the line. Painter, every day with a brush on paper to outline their own little world.
Calligrapher, to become a qualified calligrapher, need a long time precipitation and deep skills, very suitable for introverted people.
Programmer, the main work is to modify the program to the computer, rely on their own technology to eat, personnel relations are very simple.
Question analysis, social phobia belongs to the psychological (mental) level of social activity interaction syndrome, in the process of interaction with people, will feel panic, fear, and even nervous. Returning to the purpose of this question, purely from the shallow consideration, this kind of girl, you can engage in some manual operators, office clerks, data archivist work, relative contact with people may be less. But from the fundamental analysis of the problem, I personally suggest that the question should not be "what jobs should be engaged in", but rather focus on "how to (reduce) girls to solve social phobia". As we all know, today's society is a new era of rapid economic development, all kinds of information integration, intensive contact between people, whether it is work or family, the only subjective - people - the subject of information dissemination, the entire social development of the center and center of gravity. Center and center of gravity, in short, people want to live better, "social" essential. To solve social phobia, my personal opinion: 1) formal self-consciousness of social phobia, pull it out, face it squarely; 2) correct attitude, tell yourself to boldly face it, defeat it; 3) boldly take the first step. Go out from the world of self, contact with the natural environment, contact with animals, physical changes in the world, feel the beauty of survival society; 4) more contact with the elderly, women, children and socially disadvantaged groups, this group of people tend to be socially disadvantaged, and always give people a certain sense of security. Approach them and communicate with them. Care for them; 5) Talk as much as possible with parents, lovers, good friends and other people with good relations about their own situation and affairs of the heart, forming a benign activity between personal information and the outside world; 6) Feel the warmth and love of the outside world. Participate more in public welfare activities and public welfare organizations, and feel the various "good, beautiful and good" moments in the social crowd, and at the same time, try to offer their love to help people in need, so that they are needed in the crowd. I think that by following the steps I have described, social phobia can be somewhat alleviated. Finally, I would like to quote a famous saying of Romain Rolland: Look at the world and love it!
If you can't overcome or improve your own personality, it may be difficult to do a lot of work that favors extroversion or communication! You can do some professional skills, design, technology, research and development is possible, even if little communication but still can have some achievements! Of course, if you can overcome the character, there will be as, because introverts are actually richer inside more understanding of human nature, just not good expression and use it!
In general, this character of the girl, I would recommend them to do the following jobs.
In general, this kind of character girl, I would recommend them to do the following jobs. For example: the company planning department of the administrative clerk, planning commissioner, customer service department of the customer service clerk, the financial department of the financial, accounting, cashier and so on.
Hello friend, I suggest doing sales jobs!
You will ask!
You may ask why you would want to work with people if you are socially awkward.
Remember, no matter what you do! All need to communicate with people, you are going to fight sacks to make money! The customer came to you also on the up! Ask the boss to give more money a day!
So you are afraid of what to do, overcome the fear of the heart, change yourself, learn to communicate with people, you will be able to do a variety of jobs.
Introverted girls can consider the following jobs:
1, scientific research:
Scientific research work needs to socialize less, the demand for interpersonal communication is not very large, usually face most of the colleagues are technological geeks, most of the exchange is academic, usually easier to communicate.
2. Administrative class
Administrative class work is usually mostly according to the rules, step by step, do not need too much interpersonal communication, so introverted people are more suitable for this industry.
3. Factory assembly line employees
Factory assembly line employees just do what they are asked to do, do not need to talk too much, and do not need to mix with the colleagues around too familiar. The need for socialization is relatively low.